My X-Wife is asking me to kick my daughter out of our bed because she thinks she is too old. How old do you think it is OK for a child to sleep in a family bed? Please indicate reasoning thoroughly. I am trying to understand why. (assuming I am not a pervert)
2007-09-03 14:13:04 · 6 answers · asked by Deanrwhite 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I say listen to the x wife. If she feels uncomfortable with your daughter being in your bed, then respect that. I assume you are not a pervert and you and your ex treat each other with dignity. This is a tough one though, because I guess you have your daughter for visits and must miss her terribly and she, you, when you are apart, but this day and age is difficult for people to be open-minded about the family bed thing. If there is a step-mom in the bed then it could be alright, if not, put baby to her own bed.
2007-09-03 14:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by ANDREA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 4 years or younger.
This is mostly about territory and pecking order.
You need to put your daughter in her own bed, then stay in there and read a bedtime story to her and/ro rub her back until she drops off.
Lock your own bedroom door when you and your wife turn in... at least until you establish this new groove.
Expect to have to deal with some static for the first few weeks.
It is okay to let the kids crawl in on weekend mornings for a little bit, but they should not be able to sleep in your bed regularly.
One other things, as a matter of course... please consider making your closet a "safe" by putting a keyed lock on the door... preferably a deadbolt lock. You put anything the kids might be inclined to get into in that closet... condoms, postage stamps, money, perfume/cologne, jewelry... and any firearms. This is an ounce of prevention and very good for your own peace of mind.
2007-09-03 14:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he/she is able to go to the bathroom by themselves then they should sleep by themselves. You may want to start off slow, maybe move him/her to they're own bed in your room. Most children like to sleep with they're parents because they are afraid of being alone. Maybe try a "blankie" or they're favorite stuffed pet. All kids need to have they're own room, this is part of the growing process. Help him/her to realize that there is nothing wrong with wanting to share your bed, but It should only be allowed occasionally.
2007-09-03 14:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by eimmot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we did the family bed for our kids...i would say between 3 and 5. your child will most probably sleep better (you and your wife as well) and your child needs to start learning how to be independant. that doesn't mean that if your child is scared you let her cry it out..she needs to feel confident about her specail room..her special toys. you need to keep a routine..read her her fav. book . you and your wife should have special tuck in time seperately. it make take a while..but its woth it in the end..for everyone's sanity. never send her to her room for time-outs either..she will see her room as a naughty place..once you start don't back down...she'll think by crying. if you give in she'll know she won.
2007-09-03 14:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by monroe2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 7 I would say. If she wants to sleep in your room, it should be a sleeping bag on floor. I'm a freshman and once in a blue moon I sleep in my parents room.
2007-09-03 14:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,depends on what age she is.i think that if shes over ten,then thats too old.but any younger i think its ok.you never know,she might be scared or something.good luck!
2007-09-03 14:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by roxy636 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋