Family - September 2007

Since young, my father-in-law has never fufilled his duty as a father to my husband. He doesnt work to support the family and always asks my mother-in-law for money. My mother-in-law brought up my husband by working as a sweeper and with help from social workers. When I married my husband, my father-in-law did not help pay a single cent. Our son is already 2 months old and he has never helped at all. Not even when we had difficulty paying my son's hospital bills (Jaundice). He has a stall in a hawker centre which he rents out for a few hundred dollars a month and he keeps all the money for himself and always ask my mother-in-law for money to buy beer. He has only seen my baby once and since then I refuse to let him see my baby again because I think that he is not fit to be my baby's grandpa. Do you think I am being cruel, selfish or unreasonable? Because my mother-in-law think so.

2007-09-04 18:07:28 · 7 answers · asked by serene 3

When I'm at my Mum's house I get really anxious and restless for no apparent reason. I feel trapped. I love my Mum and my lil brothers (16 and 20) but when I am there by myself nothing feels right. If I go to spend the night there I don't sleep till 3 or 4 in the morning. But if my man is there I'm fine. Or if I see them outside the house, or talk on the phone I'm fine. Even if I have them come over, things are fine.

Anyone have any ideas why this happens...or what I can do to change that anxious, restless feeling?I love my family and love spending time with them.

2007-09-04 17:51:18 · 3 answers · asked by hny_rstd 3

my biological mother where should i go

2007-09-04 17:43:24 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

im the baby of three(now 39) and my middle sister, whom has proven to be a compulsive liar and has done at the very least, id fraud on me. she hurt my mom (whom just died)many times and has seemingly railroaded me soooo many times and i kept quiet cause i USED to be needy for family acceptence... i recently spoke up and made the break. then my oldest(an angel on earth to everyone whom knows her and a mom to many) was diagnosed with Burkitts lymphoma(rare, almost always fatal) and i find myself trying to be the strong one for everyone. is it wrong to not want to deal w/ her at all?

2007-09-04 17:40:03 · 6 answers · asked by reedtexass 3

I turn 18 on February 18th and I want to move out of my parents house due to fighting (verbal- parents, physical- sibling), lying, and false accusations. I have tried to look up the regulations of me moving out but have come up empty. I am not sure if I can just leave my house and my parents not put me in as a runaway or missing, or if I have to emancipate myself from them. If you have any information on the regulations of this in the state of Texas that would be great.

2007-09-04 17:28:49 · 15 answers · asked by llamasrawr 1

This has been going on for 10 years! My 10 yr old childs biological father is NOT her biological father,and I can't seem to find it in me to tell him the truth.
How do I tell him?....When would the right time be?.....What would I say?........

2007-09-04 17:04:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

She said she sent out 32 invites and nobody showed up. Shes done things like this before. What do you think???

2007-09-04 17:03:48 · 6 answers · asked by taylorvillegirl 4

From my family's perspective I am a lazy, mean, angry *****.
I never clean up, I can't seem to respect anyone.

From my side I am always really tired so I don't do any chores.
My mom is a neat freak that has too much energy and always wants to clean up. I went to the doctor about my fatigue and was told to take to take multi-vitimans (never given to me).
I am a easily angered person and don't take well to authority.

At the moment our house caught fire and we're in seperate hotel rooms, my mom comes in every moment to criticize the room when seriously it aint that bad.

She is claiming she is going to send me to live with my grandma before I go to college (Sending me to Hell basically). Do I sound that bad, I feel more than unappreciated and can't stand to be around my family any more.

Please don't come to bash me, I got plenty of beating as a child and am not close to being "spoiled". Even under the threat of getting my *** beatin I'm still a *****.

Am I that bad?

2007-09-04 16:54:58 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

She lived a sheltered life, no girlfriends, JW religion, strict parents, left home at 17 cuz she met someone "online" who happened to live in the same town, first bf, known each other for 2 months, and "He" is very smothering, has to know her every move, she can't go anywhere, he's suspicious of everything. I think she's way off target about getting married! But she see's it all as LOVE! And I (the Aunt) know the whole thing is doomed, foolish and don't want her to do it...but shes treating it like planning a birthday party, and not thinking about reality. And now her Mom (my sister) informs me she can't "host" the bridal shower, because she has a "class", and wants me to do it. I think thats horrible!, and it just tells me she's not taking it too seriously either. Bottom line...I don't want to be a part any of it...what can I say to my neice, her Mom, etc, so I don't look like the big bad creep?

2007-09-04 16:52:27 · 6 answers · asked by Peaceful 3

Hello, I'm in my teens. I was raised in a very disfunctional family. I always feel alone, very lonely, as if I was on my own...when infact I have a family, a family who does'nt care(at least that is the way I feel.) My role in the family is the scapegoat or sometimes I use humor to bail out on my feelings. I loose my temper and sometimes make holes in the wall. I try very hard to read and practice bible principles but my family is not on the same page...it's as if they have given up on family values. What can I do for comfort?

2007-09-04 16:45:57 · 10 answers · asked by girly GuRl 2

My younger brother is 13 years old and for the past couple of years he has been physical abusing me sometimes i play along so it wont hurt as bad or hit him back i always thought that he just liked to rough house but it has gotten worse last year he dislocated my elbow and a couple years before he chased me around the house with a bucther knife because i told him to do his homework my mother knows and says she will get him anger mangment (she never does) he has even verbially abused her an me with sayings such as fat cow go kill yourself i would really like to know if i can do anything about this please help

2007-09-04 16:44:07 · 4 answers · asked by Leah 1

i live with my mother who is rude and makes me feel unwelcome. she is pregnet and has a boyfriend and he also makes me feel unwelcome. they fight all the time and that leads to aguments between myself and everyone else

2007-09-04 15:43:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay this very hard to explain..but have you ever felt guilty about someone dieing and you didn't do anything? For some weird reason ever sense Dale Earhart has died..I feel like its my fault..i know it isn't. but its makes me get all sad and crying cuz I just felt like tis my fault...I don't know if its because he is just like my Dad, or if because they race where he died i was like Dale will be alright..and he wasn't..I just don't know...any idea why i feel this way?

2007-09-04 14:49:20 · 1 answers · asked by ~*Lucy*~ 3

i'm inlove with this guy but my mom doesnt like him and it hurts me a lot, she just doesnt like his race and she's so mean to him, i try to ignore it and my boyfriend does also but its just hard sometimes, ive tried talking to my mom but she never listens and just tells me to leave, i'm so lost..i'm her only daughter and i dont wana disapoint her like i have, but i love my boyfriend and i dont wanna leave him. i'm confused, i duno what to choose, to leave him or stay with him.

2007-09-04 14:30:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 17 years old, and I have a 4 year old daughter and a 2 year old daughter. (Both from the same guy, we are still together) He is very supportive and always has been.

We have been together for 6 years. Most people don't take us seriously. I mean, we aren't going to get married as soon as we turn 18, but we would like to sometime in our early 20s and have one more child before then.

We both have part-time jobs and are doing online schooling to earn highschool diplomas.

We don't plan on going to a 4 year college- just like a 1 or 2 year to earn an Associate's Degree (both mine and his parents are very wealthy and this isn't a problem).


People think we're odd...but really, we're not.

Does this sound odd to you?

2007-09-04 14:28:37 · 39 answers · asked by Jennah 2

he ask me out and i didn't know what to say??

2007-09-04 14:15:32 · 6 answers · asked by SHORtiE 1

I've been married for 15 years and have 8 wonderful children. My relationship with my wife is fantastic except for one detail. Whenever my current girlfriend comes over, my wife never gives us the space that we need. It seems that she always has to be in the room with us. I know, she is my wife and I do include her in many activities. Occasionally, she will go along with me and my girl friend on a date. That's fine, but she's been wanting to do it more often. Frankly, I'm glad that they get along so well. Also, I'm always careful to give my wife all the love and attention that she deserves. She's a great home maker. It just bothers me that she always wants to be with me and my girlfriend. Heck my girlfriend never wants to go on dates with me and my wife. My girlfriend has been nothing but outstanding on respecting my relationship with my wife. How can I tell my wife to give us a little space?

2007-09-04 14:07:35 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok well i have this girl cousin and well i am sorta attached to her. No REDNECK OR ANYTHING, DONT BE IGNORANT! Anyways, everytime i see her i can not help but smile, and she smiles occasionally. I dont know wy, but i try my hardest at times to not smile but then i bust out laugghing. I dont know why but when i know shes coming over, or when i get to see her i get excited, idk why just do. I feel like she is somebody important in my life, family wise, and something esle. Sometimes i fantasize(no incest) about her, but when i see her in person i cant even think to fantazise about it. Why is this? I really sometimes want to spend the day and hang with her but i cant bc then it would just seem kinda weird for me to hang with her. Sometimes i want to have her tomyself, GOD! why do i act like this.


NOW DONT GO SAYING, "Ewww thats your cousin u perv" well i need a mature advice she has said her fair shair and done a fair shair of things to me also. But her and i have had bf's and gf's.

2007-09-04 13:39:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

So he talks bad things about me and never use to be like this, do you think it is his wife bickering in his ear...he only says stuff when he is drunk, and I never talk bad about them. I think she is a jealous person and wishes her husband would treat her like mine treats me...can I get some honest advise please....

2007-09-04 13:33:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

my brother in law lost his house (got behind on the rent) his wife & family went to stay with her parents and he has been working and looking for a new place. he has not found anywhere (not really looked) and has no money because he spends it all drinking and calling his wife on a prepaid cell phone. he has been "couch surfing" but they are tired of him. now my mother in law wants my husband and i to let him stay with us. well, we have a 2 bedroom place and a 1 1/2 year old little girl. the house guest in question has a drinking problem and has stolen stuff from us in the past so I don't trust him. my husband says it would only be for a week but he won't have money for a place in a week or 10 weeks because he can't save any money. I don't want to have to play the role of the bad guy but I don't want someone I can't trust staying at my house. my husband is supposed to call him in a little while when he gets home from work, i assume because his brother wants him to pick him up and bring

2007-09-04 12:44:15 · 19 answers · asked by viper pilot 2

My step-daughter is a bed wetter. She stopped wetting the bed when she was 2, started again when she was 4, is now 5. I think it started again cause of stress a lot has happened in a year. We had been working hard with her when she stays with us to limit fluid intake at night and making sure she goes potty before she goes to bed. All of the things you can due to help a child who wants to stop wetting the bed. She tells me constanly that she want to stop and that she doesn't like doing it. Well last night she stayed with us cause her mom was going out of town today and I was to take her to school this morning. I had forgotten to remind her to go to the bathroom before she went and layed down. She had been in bed for about an hour and a half and was still awake and I told her to get up and go and she said but I already went in my pull up. I was so upset. Why did she just lay there and pee when she should of gotten up. She acted like nothing was wrong with that! What is there to do?

2007-09-04 09:32:10 · 12 answers · asked by Ashlen 1

My stepbrother is doing and selling drugs out of my 78yrs old dads house. He has stolen from my dad and does not work. My dad says not to do anything because it just causes problems. (That is hard to do) This step is 24 and is making my dads life hell. If we turn him in to the law i am afraid that my dad will go deeper in debt to get him out of trouble and also give him a stroke. How do i get this step to leave, get help or to get arrested without my father getting hurt. I do have more on this subject, so let me ask me anything. Please help me......

2007-09-04 08:32:39 · 3 answers · asked by tallorder60 1

My 15 year old daughter is now living with me. She lived with her father from age 10 until now in another state. He moved due to job reasons and sent her to me.

She is starting in a new High School tomorrow. She found out that the high school where she is going has low test scores and a history of gang related incidents. There are also bad influences around the school.

My ex-husband gave us both a choice of coming to where he lived so that we could start over as a family. I did not go because I did not see his controlling or verbally mean nature changing.

I feel bad now because she will not be going to a good High School and its all my fault. I am very nervous!

I can not change schools and afford to send her to a private school now.

Have I messed up her life forever?

2007-09-04 08:32:16 · 2 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

When your spouses family is being rude, should you, or your spouse address the problem?

For me, I always confront my family members, and do so quickly, when they say things that are offensive to my wife (ie political references, personal beliefs, etc.). However, when my wife's family makes rude comments she does nothing about it.

I do not want to create an adversarial relationship with my in-laws by arguing, but my wife won't "step up to the plate" and address the rudeness. What do you do? What do you suggest?

2007-09-04 08:01:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-04 08:00:49 · 9 answers · asked by edsgirl3652 1

Sometimes this happens, though they seem understand it was wrong and are punished sometimes. What makes a teen repeat the same mistakes, promise sincerely he/she won't make it any more, but end up doing again? Is this juat immaturity, part of growing up? How can we know they finally learned from their mistakes. What to do when we think they finally learned?

2007-09-04 07:58:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

my grandmother passed away and shortly after i called my my son's fathers's parents number which are listed so i could contact him. my son's dad as well a his grandparents chose to be absent in his life. i wanted him to be apart of my son's life because my grandmother had passed and i felt my son needed to know his dad because life is too short. (if you have ever had a loss in your family you know what i'm talking about) well the first day he comes to sees his son he asked me questions about my personal life that had nothing to do with our son. i told him i was not interesteed in him. so this went on for a couple of weeks. every time he would spend time with my son he would pay more attention to me. anyway we get into an argument over the phone, he called me a couple of hours after the incident and says he wants to take my son out on his own. i disagreed because he can not be trusted due to a criminal background (i didn't find that out until after the 1st visit)

2007-09-04 06:48:06 · 7 answers · asked by JESSIE 2

Here's the problem.
My older brothers who are over 24+ came and starting living with my father and I. They dont pay for anything and they eat everything in the house, it pisses me the **** off. I tried telling my dad to take charge and tell them to get the **** out but he wont or he'll feel bad and he's too much of a softy. So any ideas on how to get these ******* out of the house?

2007-09-04 06:13:24 · 5 answers · asked by Reggie S 2

Can a family member like me?
theres these three guys - related

and they all wink at me with the left eye.

1st guy: Winked at me and checked me out. made me feel awkward. He is WAY OLDER THAN ME.

2nd guy: Just winks at me with left eye. Sometimes looks at me. About 10 years older than me.

3rd guy: Winks, checked me out & stares at me, I can see from the side of my eye, but when i looked back at him, he turned away.

whats with these guys?


There much older than me.. + we are family relateddd long distance.

2 OF THEM ARE MARRIED. The second guy is single.
SCARES ME.

2007-09-04 05:17:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just a thank you and an update for those that took the time to send a prayer last week thursday.

He is doing well and is out of jail. He has decided that that life is NOT what he wants any longer and is grateful to have a family that loves him and cares. He says "thank you" to all that send love his way, too!

Thank you, friends. Much love to all of you. It was great to know you cared.

Sandy :O)

2007-09-04 05:13:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous