i'm inlove with this guy but my mom doesnt like him and it hurts me a lot, she just doesnt like his race and she's so mean to him, i try to ignore it and my boyfriend does also but its just hard sometimes, ive tried talking to my mom but she never listens and just tells me to leave, i'm so lost..i'm her only daughter and i dont wana disapoint her like i have, but i love my boyfriend and i dont wanna leave him. i'm confused, i duno what to choose, to leave him or stay with him.
2007-09-04 14:30:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yeah, that is a messed up situation. The boyfriend could leave but your mom will always be your mom. I don't know what this guy is like or if she needs to like him. I just hope for your sake he's worth it.
2007-09-04 14:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is extremely ignorant. If you truly love your boyfriend then you should definitely stay with him! I put MY boyfriend above everyone and anything because I know the kind of man that he truly is and therefore other people's opinions dont matter to me. How can you even say that you're in love with this guy if you're actually considering leaving him simply because you're mother is racist?? And you already say that you've disappointed your mother by going out with him. I suggest that you re-think this "love" that you have for him and ask yourself if it's real.
Sorry if I'm sounding harsh, but you should only leave a person if they're not treating you right or your feelings change...NOT because somebody else is telling you to. I understand that she is your mother, but she needs to get over her racism and get in touch with the real world. Besides, this is YOUR life and you choose who to be with. You might be missing out on a wonderful guy and future happiness if you listen to that racist mother of yours.
2007-09-04 14:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by Hello_Hello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you love someone, there are no "buts..." You love them both and don't want to hurt anyone, but if you have to choose between them, then they are hurting you. Your mom will always be your mom, and if she loves you, she will always love you, she may just prefer to stay away, and if you really love your boyfriend, then how could you even consider leaving him?? Real love is hard to find and should be cherished, we grow up and move away from our parents, but if we're lucky, where we end up is in the arms of true love. If there are doubts about the bf, then move on. Either way, you are always going to have relatives that judge, but if you let them make your decisions for you......they will always but in and you'll never be happy......think about it!! Good Luck!!
2007-09-04 14:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by JustAGirl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on, you are gonna fall in love hundreds of time with other guys. YOu only have one mom. Listen to her. She has your best interest at heart. If it turns out that she is a bigot and a prejudice person, then by the time you move out you can date and fall in love with anyone you want. Right now give your mom the benefit of the doubt that she is looking out for your interest.
2007-09-04 14:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by streaknrican 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say your age, which would make a lot of difference. My wife & I were both 25 when we married. Neither family approved of our union. (We were same race, same religion, no big obvious objections. I was widowed, so in her parents eyes, I was "used." We never did know why my parents didn't approve.) We got married anyway, 41 yrs ago. My parents haven't spoken to us since. Hers argued with us till the day they died. So follow your heart, but be prepared to maybe lose your family. If we could do it all over again, we would do it all over again.
2007-09-04 15:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont leave him,this is the challenge for you and how you handle this situation,some of the parents are strike to there child specially in the term of love,but the parents dont have right to choose a man for you to love..dont you worry times come that your parents understand you,and they accept your boyfriend..
2007-09-04 14:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by RUTHCHI Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not disappointing her, she is disappointing you. If she can't stop being a racist, then the price she is forced to pay is that she is going to lose her daughter. Because she should love you and trust you enough to see past her racism and accept you and whomever you decide to love for what they are. If she can't see that, then i say shame on that old bigot.
2007-09-04 14:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by vtothef 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if your mom really loves you, she would support you in your relationship as long as it's only the race she's against and he doesn't have any bad qualities.
2007-09-04 14:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by Tlee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur mom love you then she should understand, plus race shouldnt be a problem between love
2007-09-04 14:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay!keep ur love strong, ur mother should kno better, from what ur telling me, sounds like ur the mom and shes the kid!
2007-09-04 14:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋