my grandmother passed away and shortly after i called my my son's fathers's parents number which are listed so i could contact him. my son's dad as well a his grandparents chose to be absent in his life. i wanted him to be apart of my son's life because my grandmother had passed and i felt my son needed to know his dad because life is too short. (if you have ever had a loss in your family you know what i'm talking about) well the first day he comes to sees his son he asked me questions about my personal life that had nothing to do with our son. i told him i was not interesteed in him. so this went on for a couple of weeks. every time he would spend time with my son he would pay more attention to me. anyway we get into an argument over the phone, he called me a couple of hours after the incident and says he wants to take my son out on his own. i disagreed because he can not be trusted due to a criminal background (i didn't find that out until after the 1st visit)
2007-09-04 06:48:06 · 7 answers · asked by JESSIE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
this all started after i told him i wanted nothing to do with him sexually. now he wants to take me to court to get unsupervised visits just to spite me. i don't agree and i want to know how i can possibly win ths case should he really take me to court?? what are the chances of me winning??
2007-09-04 06:51:06 · update #1
i don't mind him spending time with our son just not unsupervised.
2007-09-04 06:52:16 · update #2
i don't mind him spending time with our son just not unsupervised.
2007-09-04 06:55:49 · update #3
he has had a criminal background with using a firearm while under the influence, harrasement (not with me though), drinking and driving, and just general violence, someone put a restraining order on him for physical abuse, and there is more i'm sure that i can not access.
2007-09-04 07:17:32 · update #4
Well, I am sorry but you made the first step, and that was a bad one...the reason you gave are KIND of valid, but not very strong. It seemed like his father was not even in the picture when grandma passed away ( I am very sorry about your loss)...and then you decided about those things about life too short, blah, blah,blah. Well, remember that is better to be with good people than as**** around you, don't matter who they are. Yes, life is too short, so why look for trouble? now, do you think your kid is happier????I doubt it, now he has lost his peace, listen: no kid dies without one parent.....you must be smart enough to choose a happy road.
You need an Attorney, and be very sincere, do not allow any visitations or rights from this parent, due to his background, fight, fight and fight, and you can even mention in Court, that if it;s allowed, and something happens to your child, this Court will be totally responsible for your child's safety. By doing this, the Judge will consider this and hopefully will make a decision in your favor. If by any chance he gets visitations, you want them to be supervised always and remember now, YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE his monthly support for the child until he's 18, by law. And I strongly believe that if you mention this to him, he will dissapear....this is a strong possibility......well, back to my issue... I don't care who's in front of you, this is YOUR child. Now financially, maybe you need to let that go, because that's probably the trade, but it's totally worth it. AND PLEASE don't you ever go and find this guy.....be smarter next time.
2007-09-12 03:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground . this man is bluffing, hoping that you will sleep with him. Your son really should not be left alone with a person of this low level of personnel triumphs.
If this man really take you to court for unsupervised visitations, I'm positive he would lose. And all because of his background.
The fact that he and his parents were not in your sons live prior to you getting in contact with them is another thing in your favor.
2007-09-12 06:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly suggest that you never have a meeting with your son's father unless you have someone with you who cares about you and your son. If he proceeds with going to court to have unsupervised visits, take an attorney with you to court and object strongly because of his record.
2007-09-09 07:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a log, detailed ,of what he says and does. The way you are describing him he is dangerous and you have every right to protect your son from him. What kind of influence will he be? Contact your local child support enforcement and they will explain to you that what he is saying is actually terroristic.He CANNOT threaten to take your child. Please call United Way for assistance. They can guide you better.
2007-09-11 07:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by brannon_rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is his "criminal background" not giving that information, there is no way to tell you if he has a chance at unsupervised.
By being alone with him you are giving him the opportunity to ask questions about your life. Have someone there with you while he is visiting so he can't ask those types of questions.
2007-09-04 07:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chances of him winning are not good. you take him to court and get child support and they won't let him do too much with criminal back ground. its worth it for you. stay away from him though.
2007-09-11 17:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 22:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋