My 15 year old daughter is now living with me. She lived with her father from age 10 until now in another state. He moved due to job reasons and sent her to me.
She is starting in a new High School tomorrow. She found out that the high school where she is going has low test scores and a history of gang related incidents. There are also bad influences around the school.
My ex-husband gave us both a choice of coming to where he lived so that we could start over as a family. I did not go because I did not see his controlling or verbally mean nature changing.
I feel bad now because she will not be going to a good High School and its all my fault. I am very nervous!
I can not change schools and afford to send her to a private school now.
Have I messed up her life forever?
2007-09-04 08:32:16 · 2 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There are bad influences at every high school. One advantage of going to a school with "low test scores" is that your daughter should be able to make good grades and get a good class ranking unless she totally slacks off.
When I was 16, I transferred from one of the best schools in the state where I lived to one of the worst and it was as if I had gone back a few grades to relearn things I'd already learned. I went from struggling to make C's and B's to making straight A's with half the effort. I went on to get a good college scholarship and made 1280 on my SATs, even though the school system I was in at the time SUCKED.
Does your daughter like to do independent learning? There's nothing to say that she can't learn things on her own, outside of school, in order to better prepare herself for college or whatever career she wants to have in the future.
I certainly don't think this will ruin your daughter's life if she is determined not to let it. I think you should encourage her to make the best of this situation and figure out what she wants to do careerwise/educationwise after high school, because that (IMO) is going to impact her life more (either for good or bad) than what high school she attends.
Plenty of people have overcome bad circumstances to become very sucessful. I'm sure your daughter can do the same with the right support from you and the right attitude from within herself. Hope this makes you feel better!
2007-09-04 18:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by Janineisacoolsouthernchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-09-04 15:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋