Is this really all that bad?

Question

I am 17 years old, and I have a 4 year old daughter and a 2 year old daughter. (Both from the same guy, we are still together) He is very supportive and always has been.

We have been together for 6 years. Most people don't take us seriously. I mean, we aren't going to get married as soon as we turn 18, but we would like to sometime in our early 20s and have one more child before then.

We both have part-time jobs and are doing online schooling to earn highschool diplomas.

We don't plan on going to a 4 year college- just like a 1 or 2 year to earn an Associate's Degree (both mine and his parents are very wealthy and this isn't a problem).


People think we're odd...but really, we're not.

Does this sound odd to you?

Answer 1

This is not odd, but it is atypical. Other people's judgments should not be important to you, if what you are doing works for you. You sound quite intelligent and thoughtful. Perhaps you should look into why you need reassurance from yahooanswers

Answer 2

First, I applaud both of you for staying with school and trying to work to support your family. It's amazing that you two are together as statistics are way against you.
You're very lucky that you have family money because it costs a lot to raise children today and you should plan that they attend college (as you should also - don't get lazy just because there is family money - after all, you still have to manage it well in order to keep it).
Does it sound odd? Very - you've been with a guy since you were 11 and you were pregnant at 12 and again at 14...yep, very odd...perhaps, take a deep breath before the other one?

Answer 3

The "odd" part is that you were engaging in sexual intercourse at the age of 12. (17 Years Old - 4 years -9 months)

When I say "odd" I am mearly pointing out that it is against the current norms of society. Considering that the age of consent is at the lowest 16 in most states, your boyfriend could have been charged with a sexual offense in either the first or both of your pregnancies. I am not saying that he should. Just putting the info out there.

So to answer your question, yes your situation is "odd". That does not mean it can't be happy. Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 4

It isn't odd. At least that's not the word I would use. It sounds scary. You are 17 years old and responsible for 2 other lives. I think that it is great that you both as parents are together.
I don't think that you want to rely on your parents wealth for ever. Possibly invest a little more on your futures.
Otherwise, I think that you and your family are far from odd.
Don't let what people think or say affect you! Just keep doing what you do best, take care of your kids.
Best of luck.

Answer 5

This is extremely odd. If you were together for 6 years, that means you started dating at 11! And had sex and your first kid at 13. And you plan on living off your parents money, and not making any of your own for the rest of your life. If this is the case, all the best to you. But that is not a normal way of life, and shame on your parents for not having your boyfriend locked up for statutory rape. Which is what he did.

Answer 6

odd would denote strange ... is it strange? no. teenage pregnancy is so common now.

you've been together since you were 11 ... now that's not so good. i mean, who is ready to date at the age of 11, and have two children at 17? no one. i'm glad you are doing your best to make your situation better, and i hope you both continue to follow through on that, for yourselves, but mostly for your children.

but at 17 ... you still have A LOT OF GROWING UP TO DO, and i wouldn't be surprised that your relationship doesn't last. not because you don't care for one another want the best for your children, but you will change SEVERAL times once you both become adults, and you may realize that you're just completely different people, and different people want different things, sometimes it doesn't include the other person.

i don't say any of this to discourage you ... but that's life. that's reality.

Answer 7

It sounds odd because you are not married, do not have high school dipolomas, and yet you are still planning on having another child. Do yourself a huge favor and finish your high school diploma, get a full time career, get married, take care of your children, and then have another one when you are more stable. Part-time jobs can only get you so far.

Answer 8

I don't think your family situation is all that odd but I do think that relying on your parents' wealth for you and your children's future is not a very smart decision. You chose to have kids, you need to be the ones to support them. I don't think it would be a good idea to have another child before you are married and have good jobs and education.

Answer 9

well yes a Little odd
but if your doing the right
things working going too school
collage taking care of business
just be sure not too depend on
this man forever cuz you never
know be ready too take
care of yourself if necessary
of course kids first no 1
takes young people seriously
period now days get used too it
and do the best you can

Answer 10

Odd? maybe ,but from the sound of it you guys are stable so I wouldn't think too much into it.
Getting pregnant early and staying with the same guy and not getting married is ten million times better than getting pregnant with some random, no name guy and getting married out of conveniance.