My step-daughter is a bed wetter. She stopped wetting the bed when she was 2, started again when she was 4, is now 5. I think it started again cause of stress a lot has happened in a year. We had been working hard with her when she stays with us to limit fluid intake at night and making sure she goes potty before she goes to bed. All of the things you can due to help a child who wants to stop wetting the bed. She tells me constanly that she want to stop and that she doesn't like doing it. Well last night she stayed with us cause her mom was going out of town today and I was to take her to school this morning. I had forgotten to remind her to go to the bathroom before she went and layed down. She had been in bed for about an hour and a half and was still awake and I told her to get up and go and she said but I already went in my pull up. I was so upset. Why did she just lay there and pee when she should of gotten up. She acted like nothing was wrong with that! What is there to do?
2007-09-04 09:32:10 · 12 answers · asked by Ashlen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Her mother doesn't seem to care and just thinks she will grow out of it same with her dad. My step child says her mom doesn't make her do any of the things that we do to try to stop it. Like limiting what she drinks before bed and going to the bathroom. She is a very heavy sleeper and it's very hard to wake her even from a nap so that might be the problem too. The only thing that bothered me is that if she were wearing panties last night when she just layed there and peed was she would of gotten up.
2007-09-04 09:52:14 · update #1
Yeah at 5 she should not be wearing pull ups. Where is her father? And does she do this at her moms house? This is a psychological thing..she needs to be checked by hte regular doc in case and then referred to a child psychologist to see what the issue is. In the mean time..try these pills called humphreys...they are homeopathic, usually in t he spanish section of drugstores like rite aid..there are different formulas but there is one specifically for bedwetting...
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AND to red devil, step parents are parents too! People like you should be glad people like us exist that love our step children as if they were our very own!
2007-09-04 09:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I think pull ups are a great idea, from the perspective that the child and sheets don't get wet, the child then gets this message that going in them is alright (why get out of a cold bed if I can stay here and not feel the wetness?). The lack of wetness on her and on the sheets makes the experience less of a problem to her. When she says she doesn't like wetting the bed, she is honest, because it is uncomfortable.
You need to reinforce to her that she is not bad for wetting her bed, as you are probably aware it is a sleep pattern-based problem out of her control.
You may need to get rid of the pullups for a while and just reinforce the bed with a plastic sheet and use cheap bedsheets (as they are going to get wetted on). Let her feel the uncomfortable sensations for about a week, then go back to the pullups, reinforcing that they are not to be used as an excuse to stay in bed. After a while she will catch on, and you can go back to using pullups regularly.
2007-09-04 09:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is way past its time, but I didn't stop until really I was 27. For the most part I stopped when I was 20 but it still happened off and on until I was 27 and even then it still happens periodically for weeks at a time and then will go away. One suggestion (if there's anyone reading this) is to go to the bathroom 2-3 hours before you're going to sleep and then a half hour before you go to sleep go to the bathroom again. But everyone is different and this may or may not help you.
2016-05-21 03:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that child is too big to be in a pull up, she is 5 not 2 and by letting her wear a pull up may be confusing her because a pull up is a diaper, my friends daughther was wearing a pull up until the age of 7 she is now 9 nomore pull up but she still wets the bed once or twice a week and once or twice a wk she poops in her pants, i remember 1 day when i was there visiting she was in her room watching tv and she was tryin to do number 2 in her pants while watching tv and if i didnt catch her she would have and the bathroom is right there it is just pure lazyness which is somewhat her mothers fault because she is lazy
2007-09-04 09:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by CORONA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt had a problem wetting the bed, she was old enough to know better but she was not able to control it or she just was sleeping to hard to get up and go. She did this until she was 17. Now she is grown and has kids of her own and she swears that she could not help it. Who Knows! I would put pull ups on your daughter (they make them large enough for a 5 year old) she will stop or she will piss on herself. Either way you will not have to wash sheets and maybe if she is wearing a diaper she will stop. Good Luck!!!
2007-09-04 09:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by Tasha A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are possibly a lot emotional issues going on here.... and with the pull up on, it wicks the moisture away form her skin and doesn't make being wet feel uncomfortable.
Do not get upset about it. She is probably being very truthful about not wanting to do it.
My son continued to wet the bed into the second grade. When I approached his doctor about this, he was put on medication which really really helped him stop wetting the bed....
2007-09-04 09:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her father take her to her pediatrician to rule out anything physical.
Young children wet their beds sometimes when they're having emotional problems...going back and forth between two parents can be emotional for a lot of children.
Get some plastic sheets....have her go to the bathroom before bedtime.....and more than anything be patient with her.
Your attitude is frightening to me.
2007-09-04 09:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy on her. She is only five... She just doesn't understand. She acted like she didn't do anything wrong because she doesn't know she did.
I would just get rid of the pull up all together. I know you guys see it as a "just in case" thing but, it's implying to her that if she's got it on, it's so she can use it. Then explain to her, "Now, you're in big girl undies so if you need to pee, use the big girl potty, ok?" You just have to explain the difference of big girl underwear and a pull up.
2007-09-04 09:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something the MOTHER and FATHER should be taking care of, not you. We used an alarm with our son, and it has worked like magic! It's called the Malen Bedwetting Alarm. The only issue you and your husband might have is that it must be used every night, not just the nights she spends with you.
Sometimes it's hard to tell with young children. She could just be lazy or feel defeated. It could be stress, it could be biological, or true bedwetting.
2007-09-04 09:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can do 2 things.
1 - talk to a dr. this could be a medical condition.
2 - talk to a counselor. this could be a control issue.
In both cases your wife should be there. Its HER daughter.
2007-09-04 09:35:39 · answer #10 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋