im the baby of three(now 39) and my middle sister, whom has proven to be a compulsive liar and has done at the very least, id fraud on me. she hurt my mom (whom just died)many times and has seemingly railroaded me soooo many times and i kept quiet cause i USED to be needy for family acceptence... i recently spoke up and made the break. then my oldest(an angel on earth to everyone whom knows her and a mom to many) was diagnosed with Burkitts lymphoma(rare, almost always fatal) and i find myself trying to be the strong one for everyone. is it wrong to not want to deal w/ her at all?
2007-09-04 17:40:03 · 6 answers · asked by reedtexass 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No its not wrong not wanting to deal with her. I can totally get that. Sometimes when you have a sibling who is just so out there, you don't want to have to watch your own back around them, you'd just rather not have them around.
That being said, you are an adult, apparently your sister never caught on and didn't grow up. And as unfair as it is, you should be the adult, you don't want to deal with her, but she is still your sister. Don't stoop to her level and try and justify not trying at all. Its hard, and it might be for nothing, but at least years later you won't wonder if you could of helped her, if things could of turned out different. I'm not saying to hand over your dignity. I'm saying be better than she is, she's probably just been jealous all of her life, not being the oldest, not being the youngest. Taking for granted her own place in the family to argue whatever you and your older sister have is better than she does. Don't look back 20 years from now and regret that you don't know your sister because of her stubborn behaviors, just don't give her the chance to railroad you, its a fine line to walk, I'm sure you will do it well. Good luck, and I'll say a pray for your sisters, and your whole family.
2007-09-04 17:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sun R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally have the same problem. I am the youngest of 3 and my middle sister has always had an attitude and never wanted to help my family with anything. About 2 years ago I moved out of my house not too long after that My dad left my mom and sister, and my mom was left with the bills. My sister would not get a job, leaving my mom to work herself to the bone finally I moved back into help my mom, and got my sister a job at bank of America where I work.
She is very ungrateful toward everyone.
Have you heard of middle Child Syndrome?? I think that is what it is.
2007-09-05 02:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by Melinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, It's not. I am also the baby of three and my older sister (the middle one) is the worst person in the world. She also treats my mother with disrespect, hurts her, and uses her. I know exactly how you feel. I am only 17, but I have already given up on my older sister. She has attacked my 22 year old brother who has a mental handicap and my mother by trying to burn her. I would just say ignore her when she is around in say like a hospital or someone elses house but in a nice sort of way and when she trys to start a fight with you just smile at her and leave the room. I did this just tonight and I made my sister so mad at me she didn't know what to do literally.
2007-09-05 00:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by llamasrawr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can inform that psycho middle sister only if you want. Shielding your sick sister from drama would be a good thing.
I don't blame you for not wanting the nutjob in your life because she will invent ways to create additional drama.
I have a friend that quit inviting her family over to her house because a sister stole bunchloads of stuff from her. This is about boundaries.
See if you can connect with the Hoxsey Clinic in Tijuana, Mexico... this is where a lot of people are getting serious help even for advanced cancers.
2007-09-05 00:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong.
It's unfair how we dont get to choose our family.
I have an evil middle child sibling.... ugh... very evil.
Sorry to hear about the family problems, i hope things get better.
Goodluck
2007-09-05 02:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by luvoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, my twin is the middle child and is pure evil.
i'm sorry to hear about your family issues. i hope things work out for you in the future, god bless you for being strong for your family.
2007-09-05 00:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by BAMF. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋