Family - August 2007

My dad is basically a big slob. He sleeps at work. When he comes home he sits on the couch and drinks beer. Sometimes he goes out to a local bar and drinks there. He seems to love my mom but he takes her for granted for example he forgot her birthday and gave her his own bowling ball as a gift(it had his name on it)
He sometimes chokes me when I aggrevate him, he isn't very involved in my sister Lisa's life at all, and sometimes he even forget's my baby sisters name altogther. Our neighbor is a religious guy who seems to be a much better father and it makes me want more. Should we leave him?

2007-08-08 04:31:10 · 10 answers · asked by snoopy22564 4

My cousin is coming to stay with my family and I and so my mom said I have to "include him in my social events". She's harshly making me but the problem is he's a total dork. Pocket protector-yeah, tucked in shirt-totally, khaki pants that go higher than normal-you got it. See what I mean? And it doesn't stop there, he even acts like a dork. I mean, if we wanted to go to the movies he'd want to go to the bookstore. I just can't cope with him for a whole week. It'd ruin me. What do I do?

2007-08-08 04:29:14 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My birth mother died about 3 years ago. I know she has a lot of money in insurance but she re-married (step dad)about 5 years ago. Now, my step dad has married again. Do I get half of the insurance money at all? Or will the money get divided into 3 parts: 1 for me, 1 for the step dad, and one for the step dads wife? I'm only 16 so its hard for me to get a lawyer. Please help me.

2007-08-08 04:25:46 · 16 answers · asked by Troubled 3

okay, my mom and i might go to the mall today, but shes kind of embarassing. shell follow me into the dressing room at stores like american eagle and hollister!!! and she tries to be cool, so if i say something condesending to her intentions shell say something that she thinks makes her sound big and in charge but inturn it embarasses me. like if i say 'umm mom why are u in here' shell be like 'well it doesnt matter you havent got n e thing i havent seen already' really loud so people hear her.

like i dont even want to go to the mall with her, but there i s this cute bag at abercrombie that i wanted to look at. so i showed it to her [this was after we both had a disagreement] to be nice and she was all 'blh blah blah im not buying school stuff now blah blah'


so ne wayyyy lol. how do u handle going to the mall with your wannabe cool mother??

2007-08-08 04:23:05 · 6 answers · asked by Natalia 2

The reason I want to move out is because I can't stand my dad anymore. He doesn't support me at all(emotially) and all he does is give negatives comments about me. He tells to his friends and some other relatives. It is really pissing me off. I remember once he told me that he doesn't care for me anymore and he said I could do whatever I want. He only calls my mum to complain everything about me, he even tells lies.My dad is married to another woman but they don't live together yet.
I'm just 20 years old, currently I don't have any job.But this friend I have said he could get me an appartment and would pay for the expenses. Of course I'm looking for a job.
Another thing, my dad and I can't really communicate. He gets angry when I contradict him. Lately, I haven't talked to him.

2007-08-08 04:22:57 · 4 answers · asked by ♥ChinaDoll♥ 2

Should i leave the house and go on my own, or stay to work things out?

2007-08-08 03:18:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

After some time, my parents remodeled the apartment until it became a three bedroom home. I was working but as a single mom with 2 kids I could only contribute so much money into the project but I worked every night and weekend with the remodeling. I paid all utilities, etc. It was told to me from the start that when they died, the house would go to me and my kids but I would not get anything else in the will. I have done all upkeep on the house through the years. Now my dad is telling me what I can and can not do here plus what he wants redone (including ceilings and floors). I have been told that there can be no pets and he tells me who can or can't visit. They are also wanting me to buy this house from them now to pay off a loan they co-signed for. If I talk about moving, they threaten to take me to court to get my son. They claim that since they buy things for him they raised him. How do I leave and still keep a relationship with them? I love them but they are controlling.

2007-08-08 03:13:51 · 13 answers · asked by Love being a Mom 2

my son is 4yrs old, he has a very short temper. if hes playing with other kids its also him that they fall out with and fight with. can anyone tell me what i can do. he also gets on really well with girls but not boys. help

2007-08-08 02:42:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

today is his b-day but he is mad at me and i dont have any # to call him or a adress what should i do if i miss him so much? he dont even call my dad he only speaks to my step mom and i hardly talk to her please give me some suggestions

2007-08-08 02:28:12 · 7 answers · asked by maria7959@sbcglobal.net 2

My attitude towards my family has been really bad. I'm very impatient with them and would often be irritated by my parents "naggin" although i know they are just trying to show their concern. What should i do?!

2007-08-08 02:22:19 · 1 answers · asked by heroine007 2

i'm quite confuse. since english isnt my 1st language, so i'm hoping someone could explain. thanx~

2007-08-08 02:19:20 · 17 answers · asked by anna 2

ever since we moved 2 years ago my daughter has not made friends outside school she is 10 she is very popular in school but we live in a different area to the school what can i do to get her to socialise outside school?

2007-08-08 02:10:10 · 9 answers · asked by debs 5

my dad is constantly going on telling me how he doesnt want me to start dating a guy until after college and he wants to meet him. even if i have a guy freind, my dad wants to talk to him on the phone (i never let him, though). but he's never been like that with my big brother. when my brother was 14, he was dating a 16 y/o girl, and my dad didnt even care.
what gives?

2007-08-08 02:06:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is my father-in-law's second wife. My husband's mother died a couple of years ago. My father-in-law re-married at the first of this year. They live in the house built by my father-in-law's father in the late 50s. My husband and his father own the 30 acres we live on. We built a house on that 30 acres and live 300 yards down the driveway. A couple of years ago the house they live in was deeded to my husband. My father-in-law is dying of cancer and has given his wife the right to legally live in that house until the day she dies. Nobody likes her and I mean nobody in this town. She is a mean person, very selfish, a know-it-all and does not take care of the house or yard. We want her gone. When my father-in-law dies does my husband have the right to ask her to vacate the house in which they live?

2007-08-08 01:22:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mums like always want to noe who my friends r. and she wont let me go any at night even when there's like so many pplz i noe and i noe its safe.
ps im 14. wot can i do so my mum can trust me more so she can stop wanting to noe who all myy friends etc are?

2007-08-07 23:41:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

when 9 years old, parents get divorced (thats pretty normal)
10 years old, dad makes offer to let mom keep house and not pay spousal support
11 years old, dads work transfers hm to malaysia for a year
12 years old, has to move cuz mom didnt take the dam offer, dad gets extended another 9 months, and my PERV COUSIN STEALS MY LAPTOP 4 5 MINUTES AND POSTS SOMETHING DISCUSTING

2007-08-07 23:27:58 · 4 answers · asked by Shay Shay Babe 1

there are so many things i would like to do, but my mom never lets me. she doesnt understand. shes really stupid to. we are UN-NEEDINGLY moving cuz she didnt take an offer to keep our house, when we could be saving A LOT of money. well.... help!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-08-07 21:41:19 · 7 answers · asked by Shay Shay Babe 1

i have sum bad news which is going to cause a huge row in my family and cause them to be very upset with me.............................they dont know yet but i have to tel them today...........any advice.................sigh...............

2007-08-07 21:28:18 · 10 answers · asked by surfergirl 5

I'm going to file for CS when my baby is born. My bf and I broke up a month ago and he wants nothing to do with me or the baby. I have a great job, money saved and a nice place to live. Family is unavailable so I've set up daycare which will probably cost about 600 per month. I have paid for everything during my pregnancy (I'm 7 1/2 mos now) and he gave nothing. Yet this was something we both wanted. Anyway, he works with his family and did construction work up until then. i don't know how much he makes, nor if he filed income tax returns b/c he got paid under the table. Will there be an investigation into this, and what kind of problems can arise. i'm going with a lawyer who specializes in family law and she recommended i file for CS. Just wanted some other opinions. Some people say he may get audited, others say i won't see a penny. I just feel he should be somewhat responsible for at least the basic needs of the child if he doesn't want a real r/ with the baby.

2007-08-07 20:56:56 · 8 answers · asked by pussnboots333 4

2007-08-07 20:26:09 · 16 answers · asked by Shiju 1

a hindu married couple for the past 2 yrs. they dont have any issues.the wife is the only child to her parents and is a aloof type character. though she is employed she does not hve much friends &. keeps things close to chest and does not share things with anyone. the hus on the otherhand has an elder sis and also a cousin sister of his same age. he is actually very close to this cousin sis. at the time of marriage itself the words he uttered to the wife abt her is " she is more than a cousin sis to me" . now the couple is facing prob in their marriage life and the hus is taking this cou.sis for his confidence. in spite of being an arranged marriage, when the girls parents tried to sort things , this cou sis is talking frm the hus side. the hus has gone to the extent wherein he is confiding to her all the intimate things bet him & his wife. nw the cousin sis has resigned her job and is helping the hus to end his relation & tld the wife to sign on doted line .is she genuinly helping?

2007-08-07 20:06:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

After telling you how much you have been killing us as a family, I thought it would be enough for you to quit smoking. You have no clue of how your addiction has impacted my life and your family. I am cooped up in my room all day because I know if I even try to go downstairs or in the bathroom, there you are smoking. I know I will be planning your funeral in the upcoming years, due to your disgusting habit, so you might as well tell me how you want it. You are rapidly killing yourself and your family. Even the pets are at risk for cancer, just like Jack. After talking to you repeatedly about quitting, you blow me of and tend to change the subject of a very important issue. I understand it’s a hard habit to quit, but millions of people have done so. You have a prescription ready to be filled out, but you think of yourself when you smoke, not about the harm you are causing us. I shouldn’t have to think about how you are going to die, but I do. I shouldn’t have to think about ruining my vacation while you smoke or you going outside with the dogs and contaminating them and yourself. If you haven’t realized, it controls you. Even at the mall, you couldn’t fight your urge to smoke while shopping, that should have been a sign to quit. Since you won’t quit and keep smoking, you do not care about us or love us, even though you claim to. You blame smoking on us driving you to, but that’s not an excuse, and you know it. I don’t think you realize your smoking controls my life as well. Maybe Katie and Dad don’t know the huge consequences of your habit, but I do. If you continue to smoke and not quit, I’m going to have to separate myself from you. I will no longer think of you as my mom, because only a caring mom would listen to this. Your stupid family and so called friends like Marla and Joe smoke. I don’t know if this is what keeps you smoking, but they are not worse your health. I have no doubt smoking will give you cancer and you will eventually die. You have cut off so many years of your life, you don’t even realize it. Is it worth a couple more years? It’s a slow but fast suicide. I most likely will be in my twenties and you will be dead. I am angry at you for this. You even have dad smoking now, which gets me even madder. I will not have parents when I’m older due to smoking. You wonder why I have trouble sleeping, this explains it. I think about all these issues every night I go to bed. I’m sick of this and I can’t handle it anymore. I am at the point where I want you to work full time so I won’t have to be around you and worrying about you downstairs in your chair smoking your life away. I don’t care if you ground me for the rest of my life for this letter, but I have had it with you. This letter also addresses dad, coming home taking his anger out on us and ruining his health over his job. I don’t care about the money he makes, as long as he is happy. If he is so unhappy with his job, he needs to find one that he enjoys, instead of hates. I know if he continues this, he will die of a heart attack or some other cause. And Katie doesn’t care about me, you, or dad. I only think of her as a roommate in this house, which is sad to say. Then I’m mad about you killing our dogs. I think of them as my children, and I cry myself to sleep over your smoking and feeding them to their death. The vet has made comments about Pablo’s weight and our pet teacher has made comments about Toby. I shouldn’t have to take manners into my own hands and take care of them 24-7 which I will now on be doing. Go ahead and show this to your crappy friends and family like Arlene, Marla, or Nana, or anyone else, because this letter only embarrasses yourself. I bet after reading this, you will go sit downstairs and smoke another cigarette and drink a beer. Because that’s all your life is. Continue on telling me you will quit, because it has been 8 months you have been telling me that.
Amanda

2007-08-07 19:53:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well, school is about to start up again and i keep telling myself i need to get me and the kids up early to get used to it again because we've been sleeping in all summer, here is the thing, i try so hard to get up early but i just can't so we end up sleeping late, then at night we are not tired because we slept so late, so we stay up late again, then we can't get up early becaue we are so tired from staying up late because we slept late.....does this make sense?...lol....get my meaning?...so, do i force myself up early so then we will be tired and we'll go to bed at a decent hour or what?...any suggestions?...i sound like a crazy person asking this.....i think i'm just tired.......Good night.

2007-08-07 18:19:12 · 8 answers · asked by Nita and Michael 7

4 years ago, I gave birth to a little girl. Her father didn't want any children and I was on birth control when I concieved. We went our seperate ways. I fianlly went after a DNA test to prove that he was the father becuase he has denied her to his family. BUt he has said to me the he beleived he was her father. I have not asked him for child support, and I will not, I wish for him to sign off so that my husband may adopt her. However I still wish for her to know her father's family. Am I doing the right thing by her, asking them to give my child a chance?

2007-08-07 18:18:39 · 16 answers · asked by victoria E. 4

i come from a family with 4 children,my dad passed away yrs ago so all we have left is each other and MOM! she is the root of the problem.over the yrs moms mental and physical health have declined alot and she has become the most needist person in the world i swear. she acts like we are the parents and she is the child she expects us to drop whatever we are doing to take care of her its mentally,emotionally and physicaly to much,but let me clarify the we its me and my sister doing and going thru this all the time while the 2 younger ones get to live out their merry lil lives. both me and my sister have our own health issues that have left us both disabled,its hard enough taking care of our own families in my case i have 2 sons who are both mentally and emotionally disabled,and my sister has a young daughter who was just diagnoised with a disablity. we have triedthe tough love approach,but then mom got worse and the younger ones blamed us for not taking care of her. what would you do?

2007-08-07 18:17:45 · 6 answers · asked by mistybandit63 1

My future sister in law and I have been hanging out quite frequently. We've known each other for about 2 years now, but we've always had a hot/cold relationship. For a few weeks, we are chatting and friendly, for the next few weeks we don't really talk or see each other often.

We seem to be getting closer and more like friends. But, how close is too close? How friend-like is too friend-like?

This is my Fi's brother's wife.

Opinions?

If you have sister in laws, what is your relationship with them. I'm especially interested in the wives of spouses (like your husband's brother's wife as opposed to your husband's sister)

2007-08-07 17:58:31 · 5 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5

2007-08-07 17:49:59 · 5 answers · asked by Blah Blah Blah 3

I was in a relationship for 6 years. It ended two years ago. My ex had a daughter who was loved by my family and myself. 6 months after we broke up, the ex moved in with his baby mama (didn't last 3 months). Even with this I still went and picked the daughter up and let her stay with me. I entered into a new relationship last year (and will be getting married in Sept. ) I had cut off all ties with the daughter and it had been over a 11/2 yrs since I had seen her. My ex had called 2 weeks ago and I told him I was getting married and not to call anymore. The daughter showed up at my dad's house to stay this week. My fiance was upset and didn't want her at our house. I respected his wishes but everyone says we are wrong. Who was wrong? (By the way, I went through this last year with my dad and told him how uncomfortable I felt about it so he didn't let her come. I was surprised to see her but my dad had spoken with her on the phone but didn't tell me)

2007-08-07 17:47:48 · 17 answers · asked by sweettee 3

brother.She has done lots of bikini shots and nude videos.Mom was angry with brother for marrying such a women who had shown her most intimate parts for everyone to see.I found her to be a very humorous and intelligent women.My brother says he married her for the same reason .I still can't believe she did all thease once.She once told me that so many actress take of their cloths for playboy so why couldn't she do although not for playboy ? Do you think she is justified and can we trust a women with such a background?Don't you think feminism has gone a bit too far that women no longer feel shy of posing nude ?

2007-08-07 17:37:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

i know he is her brother in law but what is she to him??
and i dont think its sister in law...

2007-08-07 17:31:15 · 10 answers · asked by Umang S 2