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Question

My cousin is coming to stay with my family and I and so my mom said I have to "include him in my social events". She's harshly making me but the problem is he's a total dork. Pocket protector-yeah, tucked in shirt-totally, khaki pants that go higher than normal-you got it. See what I mean? And it doesn't stop there, he even acts like a dork. I mean, if we wanted to go to the movies he'd want to go to the bookstore. I just can't cope with him for a whole week. It'd ruin me. What do I do?

Answer 1

He's your cousin, for good or ill, and you are trying to "qualify" him on the level of a social friend, or a date.
All your other friends, judgemental as they are, have relatives too, and understand. The same rules of "coolness" don't apply to relatives---they have their own special weird charm.
You also should be happy to learn to get along with someone different, because all your life you will have to get along with a huge variety of people. Now's the time to practice.
It's time you branched out, and were open-minded. Since he's your guest, be polite about going to a bookstore. You might have fun. Nerds often grow up to run large multi-national companies---they can also give you great tips about school, what science fiction to read, and maybe teach you about dungeons and dragons. They're sure to be cool computer-experts, at least.
He's your cousin for the long haul---see it that way, and build up positive points with him. You might be very grateful for that relationship later.

Answer 2

Yeah- he may be "uncool" however- you seem like a nice girl. Not everyone becomes socially smart at the same time. Perhaps you should consider- just sucking it up and being the bigger person.

He may be more interesting than you think if you give him a chance. If you are nice to him- maybe you can introduce new concepts to him. Go to the mall and get him to try on new clothes. Ask him why he likes to dress like that and tell him- he probably;y would look so much better in if he tried something new.

Give him a chance and don't push things on him but let him see what you're like. Try to get a little closer to him.

Just keep in mind that the majority of the people he's around have the same opinion you do.. That can't be good for his self esteem. It's only a week, be nice to him and try to look beyond his dorkiness.

Answer 3

Grow up and deal with it. People can't help the way they are and it's really bad when family can't even accept you. You say dork like it's a dirty word. He's intelligent. And how bold of him to dress in a way that makes him feel comfortable. He's not one to blindly follow the crowd and it takes real courage to be who you are. Why don't you try finding positive things about him to like instead of dwelling on the negatives and differences. You might surprise yourself by finding out he's not so bad. It's just one week. I think you could survive it. And it probably won't hurt you to go into a bookstore once in your life.

Answer 4

Sounds like he's not so concerned about what others think of him. I think that makes him the cool one. Lighten up. Not everyone has to dress, act and like the same things as everyone else to be happy. I'm sure if you would be a little more open minded going into the week you'd find things you like about him and things you both like. You'll probably have to compromise on some things you do though. Give them a chance and you might find you like them.

Answer 5

Awww in a way I feel sorry for him.
Haha.
Well, you never know, under all the dorkyness might be a cool guy. And he might not even want to come with you on your "social events" so ask him if he wants to come, whereas if you just take him, then you HAVE to take him...if that makes sense.
Does your mum know that you're not very keen on him? Because if she does, then tell her he isn't going to fit in with your friends and stuff and she can't exactly blame you. It's for his own good, too.
Just make sure you show your mum that you don't want to take him out and whatever [.e.g. repeatedly tell her you're not taking him with you], that way, she'll hopefully let you do your own thing.
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Answer 6

Yeah, he sounds embarressing, but your mission could be to figure out WHY he is such a dork....Like, is there a deeper problem? Maybe you can help this poor guy and give him a make-over...lol Just remember, his stay won't last forever, so it is not the end of the world...So, hang out with him and it might be the highlight of his life...

Answer 7

he might be a nerd or a dork, but he has feelings just like you.

how would you like it if you were left out just because you were different?

fortunately you will grow up and hopefully accept others at face value someday. right now, you have a long way to go before you're near "grown up".

suck it up and be kind to someone else for one week of your (vain and self-serving) life...

Answer 8

Ask him what he wants to do. In reality, it is only a weekend of your life, it will not kill you. Maybe you can go to a park where he can read a book and you can read a magazine and tan. Or go swimming. And I am sure there is at leat one movie he would like to see, maybe Harry Potter

Answer 9

its only a week - maybe consider this a good time to practice being a GOOD person - not to many around these days!
if you could make a difference and be the COOL cousin to him wouldn't you?
if your friends make fun of you - then they aren't your friends anyway. and you will not be friends with them forever, he will always be your cousin. also I will let you in on a little secret... a truly genuine person will always have friends and be respected. good luck and be one of those good people

Answer 10

give him a chance he might have changed but if not do something yall both want to. He can't help the way he is. Come on now. He is family except him.