how come mums are always so protective???

Question

my mums like always want to noe who my friends r. and she wont let me go any at night even when there's like so many pplz i noe and i noe its safe.
ps im 14. wot can i do so my mum can trust me more so she can stop wanting to noe who all myy friends etc are?

Answer 1

Dude as annoying as it is, she's just being a mother. Learn to enjoy it, too many mothers don't give a crap about thier children. Eventually you will appreciate the fact that she is this way.

Don't worry though, your only 14 right now which is about the time you start thirsting for some more freedom. Be patient with her, she'll start giving it to you as she slowly realizes your not a little kid anymore and can handle making your own decisions.

She'll never stop worrying about you or wanting to protect you. But she will eventually realize that your old enough to handle your own problems. If she's still acting that way by the time your 18 then I'd start worrying as she might interfere with your adult life... But enjoy it for now.

Answer 2

I'll give it to you as straight and to the point! You are only 14 years old, Your Mom (Mum) is doing what all mothers do! Or atleast should be doing! Teens having babies is not only a nightmare to any Mom and Dad, but also the biggest most unforgetable thing a parent should ever have to go through!

Parent s have one dream in there parenting life, That there children Graduate from school, don't get killed in a car accident,or killed any other way and that there teenage daughter don't comes home pregnate or get raped!

It's not that Parents don't want to be grandparents, It's they don't want to when there daughter is just a teenager and she had a whole life ahead of her! and destroyed it in a moment of lust! 95% of teenage boys want a girlfriend to show off there manlyness and soar there oats, it's always been that way and probably always will be! I guess it's part of puberty for male teens!

Now the huge problem with it is they'll tell the girl anything she wants to hear and more to get what they are striving for! but in return the girl feels pressured and gives in, because she either feels if she don't, he won't ever want anything to do with her anymore, or she's afraid he'll find it some where else! If she don't give in! Date rapes are skyrocketing, and so are the micky drink drugs!

And for many,many years parents didn't think anything of it, they called it puppy love, but when the teens were having babies! It put a whole new outlook on parenting skills, Some took drastic actions and some didn't and that's why we today are still having teens having babies!

So to make my point clear enough for you, so not to make you look like your a bad kid, I know you want her to trust you, but when it comes down to teen having babies, nothing can gurantee trust! Here's the best way I can put it, Your Mom (Mum) loves you more then she could ever love you, and for you to get upset at only 14 years old for her protecting your future and well being, You should not be thinking she don't trust you, You should be more of standing tall with your head held high and be honored you have such a caring Mom (Mum)!

There's plenty of teenagers out there that there parents believe it's harmless to let there teens run where ever they want and at anytime, but I'm sure you have seen many die, Many get heavily into drugs and drinking, and get pregnate!

Believe me, when you get 23-24 years old you will be thanking your Mom (Mum) for being there in your younger years, I guess you just don't realize how many teens are out of control because the parents aren't there for them! If I were you I would go and give your Mom (Mum) huge hug and tell her you love her, remember you only have 1 Mom (Mum)!

Answer 3

Your mother is protective because she birthed you. Any woman who goes through that sort of pain (even the trial of adoption, if that's the case) has the right to be as protective as she pleases.

The only way you are going to get more privileges is by steps. Start by letting her know where you are all the time, even with just your day-to-day stuff. Be uber truthful. That will build trust and trust is what you need if you want a longer leash.

Answer 4

That is your mother's job. She is responsible for taking care of you. when she decided to have a child, she made a decision to protect and raise that child to the best of her ability. I'd say that you are very lucky to have a mother that loves you so much. Plenty of kids have parents that could not give a care wha happens to their children!! Have some respect and try to be the best person you can be. You will grow up soon enough.

Answer 5

First of all because you can not spell or can not be bothered to.
If you try to portrait an image of a responsible adult who can look after herself, you`re not there yet.

Secondly, because your mom knows and you ignore what can happen to young girls with the wrong sort of friends or who stay out too late.

Of course rape, abuse (sexual or not) or drugs do not happen to you; and neither will you get pregnant because you gave in to a boy at a whim.

But that`s precisely what all the existing drug addicts and teenage mothers thought at the time: That can not happen to me!

Your mother knows there is no special magical feature about you to protect you from these things.
Most of all, she knows that once these really bad things happen, you can not press the `undo` button like you do in Microsoft Word. When it`s done, it`s done, and it might ruin your life.

She`s doing the right thing, precisely because you think you are somehow excempt from it.

Answer 6

Mickey, it is worst if your mother doesn't want to know anything about you, if she doesn't care, if she thinks you're an adult at 14.

She must be your real mother!
Talk to your dad, chat with your dad, ask your dad what's the best to make yr mum feel comfy abt you.

Also, why dont you want your mum to know abt yr friend(s)? If they are good, should be pleased to tell her about yr friends.
Dont you ever take your friends come to yr house?

Answer 7

if you want your mum to be more trusting, tell her what she wants to know, she will see you have nothing to hide form her, and eventually she will learn that you are safe and trustwothy and you are actually doing what you say you are doing.

dont push her away she will only get more anxious of what you are up to.

Answer 8

Honey, you're 14 there is nothing you can do, until you're legal age to do it and out of the house.

Answer 9

If I had a little retarded child I would also wish to protect him. I would make you wear a helmet, even.

Answer 10

she cares about u, thats y its so annoying, and the only reason she wants to know is prob. b\c u tell her u got a new friend or something