i come from a family with 4 children,my dad passed away yrs ago so all we have left is each other and MOM! she is the root of the problem.over the yrs moms mental and physical health have declined alot and she has become the most needist person in the world i swear. she acts like we are the parents and she is the child she expects us to drop whatever we are doing to take care of her its mentally,emotionally and physicaly to much,but let me clarify the we its me and my sister doing and going thru this all the time while the 2 younger ones get to live out their merry lil lives. both me and my sister have our own health issues that have left us both disabled,its hard enough taking care of our own families in my case i have 2 sons who are both mentally and emotionally disabled,and my sister has a young daughter who was just diagnoised with a disablity. we have triedthe tough love approach,but then mom got worse and the younger ones blamed us for not taking care of her. what would you do?
2007-08-07 18:17:45 · 6 answers · asked by mistybandit63 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When the 'young ones blame` you tell them to
pull up their socks and pitch in.
They can complain when they're carrying their share of the load, not before.
2007-08-07 18:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by Irv S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, definitely talk to her. What she could be doing is acting out to get your attention to make sure you still know she's there and that you still love her. I know exactly how it feels to have your father leave, find a new family, and want nothing to do with you. It's the worse feeling EVER! She's really hurting right now. Since her father isn't in the picture she needs YOU not help from some professional who don't know squat about your family. But you, the person who raised her, put bandades on her booboo's. It sounds like you haven't been spending much time with just her... not trying to be mean. But maybe you need to schedule a specific night a week just for her. That's what my mom did. It made me feel so special and loved. It might work. You should try it.
2016-05-21 04:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is best for all of you. There are some really good nursing homes out there. She may improve if she knows she has someone there to help her whenever she needs something. There are alot of things for them to do in the nursing homes now.
You need to be worrying about your children and your own health.
Talk to your sister and the other ones. Medicare will help pay for part of the cost.
Good luck! I know it is a hard decison.
2007-08-07 18:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by mommymystic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am one of her sister that has been dealing with all of this stuff,no matter what we try to do or say we are wrong,i care for my mother but am at my wits end. i have thought about declearing her mental incomp. but it is a hard road and my younger one will not let that happen,i would just walk away but then if something happens it would turn all on me.have any suggestion?
2007-08-08 05:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by angelofangels13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look u need to be patient... yours is a tough situation.. i suggest u alternate the responsibility of your mum among your siblings... that way it could ease the situation... but be a lil more understanding.. she has been through lot.. hence the insecurity {}
2007-08-07 19:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by who ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is pray to God and know that He will always be there for you and will never let you down no matter what.
2007-08-07 18:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by Girlie Girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋