I'm going to file for CS when my baby is born. My bf and I broke up a month ago and he wants nothing to do with me or the baby. I have a great job, money saved and a nice place to live. Family is unavailable so I've set up daycare which will probably cost about 600 per month. I have paid for everything during my pregnancy (I'm 7 1/2 mos now) and he gave nothing. Yet this was something we both wanted. Anyway, he works with his family and did construction work up until then. i don't know how much he makes, nor if he filed income tax returns b/c he got paid under the table. Will there be an investigation into this, and what kind of problems can arise. i'm going with a lawyer who specializes in family law and she recommended i file for CS. Just wanted some other opinions. Some people say he may get audited, others say i won't see a penny. I just feel he should be somewhat responsible for at least the basic needs of the child if he doesn't want a real r/ with the baby.
2007-08-07 20:56:56 · 8 answers · asked by pussnboots333 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
File for child support. No matter how much or how little he makes, he is legally responsible to provide an appropriate amount of child support for his offspring. If he chooses not to have contact with you or the baby, that is his choice..but he is responsible for his actions...the two of you created a child together, and he needs to support that child.
If he gets paid under the table, that information can be taken to the court, his bank statements can be subpoenaed and the financial records of the construction company he works for can be pulled so the court system can determine what his true financial status is.
Make sure you have a good lawyer and do not allow yourself to be frustrated and give up. Your child deserves to be supported by her/his father. It is his responsibility.
2007-08-08 02:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - File for CS. In California, as well as some other states, even if he's not 'working' as far as the state can see on his wages, he still has to pay. If he has no income, the bill just accrues. They will garnish his wages when he has income.
Be prepared for paternity testing - he may require it through the court. If this isn't an issue, then he DOES have a responsibility to help support his child, He may ask for, and get, visitation rights. If you don't trust him, make sure it's supervised visitation - check with your lawyer.
FYI, I'm not an advocate of any person taking advantage of another regarding children, support, and visitation. I DO believe that parents should treat each other fairly and with respect so the child learns the same values.
Good luck.
2007-08-08 04:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by faireminded1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's my opinion. I used to run a day care center and this would come up often. First...is he going to be a father to your child...is he going to be interested in your child....do you want to trust him to have part time custody of him. If not...don't apply for custody....because you are fortunate right now to decide everything for this baby.
Once you open this door, he then has rights he can demand....spending time with the child...influencing the child....etc. If he just isn't interested, it might benefit you to be able to keep his influence ...and his money. You sound able to take care of the child on your own. Be sure this wouldn't be a better thing before you decide to change it.
Sometimes no child support can be a blessing in disguise!
2007-08-08 04:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, choose more wisely the next time you get involved in a sexual relationship. Save it for marriage. Then, you wouldn't have these problems.
Also, find out if your state has a deadbeat dad law. In many states, failure to comply with child support orders can result in loss of driver's license, loss of professional licenses and jail time.
Besides, what does it hurt to file for child support? You're already going to have to go to court to establish custody. You might as well throw that in there.
2007-08-08 04:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by ann81969 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
CS would be a state issue, not federal. His chances of being audited for past behaivor is slim. His chance for future behaivor has now gone up, because the state will be keeping tabs on him. He has to get a legit job.
2007-08-08 04:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by Chazman1347 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll get money, based on his "potential" to gain employment and make payments, and in the meantime, if he gives you nothing, he'll be falling behind in payments, and owe you, which you can get from his income taxes later. Don't let him play you. Get your lawyer, file for child support, and get what ever you can from the deadbeat sperm-donor.
2007-08-08 04:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by Dan B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, file with the state first..... if you cannot get him to pay regularly, then file with FIND DADS, in California.....doesn't matter where YOU live.... my deadbeat ex owed the kids 22,000 bucks.... even moved to FLA where he THOUGHT I couldn't reach him.... but FIND DADS did!!!.... he was still paying that back child support when his son was 35!!!!.... you give them a percentage of what they get out of him, but it is SO worth it!!!... and, once they have him in their system, you never have to fuss with him or the case, again!.....
it's nice if you can get the State to handle it, tho... just don't let it go on too long.... you may have a good job now, etc, but circumstances can change, ya know?..... plan ahead, so that little one never suffers from lack of anything!!!.....
best of luck to you!!!...
2007-08-08 06:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by meanolmaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST STAY WITH THE RECORD---IF YOU ----RAT HIM OUT---YOU MIGHT WIND UP WITH NOTHING---PLS BIDE YOUR TIME
2007-08-08 04:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋