Family - August 2007

I am not just speaking of family, but I am also having an issue of people slandering me (from my former job), my finance's psycho ex-boyfriend threatening me and worrying more about when I am home (or when I'm not) like he's my dad. My fiance and I are both sick of it but we have to handle it very delicately due to their 3 kids they had together. The kids are happier with me because I respect them and I love them. This causes too much stress for all of us and I am at my wits end. I refuse to let anything or ANYONE bust up our relationship we have worked so hard to build the past year and a half.

2007-08-09 06:42:54 · 2 answers · asked by kodsha2004 1

I've been playing the cello for 3 years and I've been taking privte lesson from a cello teacher for about 1 1/2 years. I want to keep playing the cello but I don't want to take lesson any more. I can't say no to my mom because her dream is to see me on a stage. (But hello its not my dream!). I want to start the bass guitar but I don't want to be a disappoitment to my mom. So how do I say"I want to keep playing the cello I just don't want to take lesson any more. I want to start a new insturment" see I can say it online but i just don't want to disappoint my parents.

2007-08-09 06:16:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-09 06:08:34 · 7 answers · asked by lakers_fan4_life 2

Well I just got a new job at a gym for front desk and I have a b/f of 3 1/2 years. Well he is afraid of all the guys will flirt with me and everything but I don't think its a big deal as long as I don't do anything with them. I can actually be a flirt myself because I like to play around with guys cuz its funny. These guys at the gym that hired me are personal trainers and they are very nice and really cute. I dont know if I am going to be able to not flirt back if they ever do with me.. I am a saggi. and that just comes with my nature.. very restless and a tad promiscuous. I am not a hoe by any means I can just flirt sometimes when a guy is very nice to me and I like him back. I know this could be wrong and lead to something unwanted but how do I avoid doing so?

2007-08-09 05:59:49 · 2 answers · asked by sagittarius_girl806 1

What is an easy way to make money for kids that are twelve?
They are thinking baby sitting, dog wash, car wash, yard work. How much would they charge for each thing?

2007-08-09 05:42:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

She started to accuse him because he didnt want to get her a new computer and she said it happen back when she was little she said that it was when he was teachin her how to swim he accidently grabbed her in the wrong place because his hand slipped due to the water, and she is causing some much pain to the family her mother believes my father in law there relationship is still good ,since his stepdaughter and her older sister have mind control over there mother they had himm leave the house even though its under his name.My question is what legal action can he take to clear his name.they have threathen him by saying they will take him to court and calling the police it is going on almost a year and have not taken any legal action against him all they are doing is just scarring him.If any one has any advice i will appreciated,. Thank You

2007-08-09 05:40:21 · 8 answers · asked by Pepster 1

My grandmother is having problem and they just tell me to leave the room, or they give me the watered down version. I am a resposible, mature young adult, so why do they do this?

2007-08-09 05:16:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Seriously, my sister is 25 and is so stupid and annoying. i hate her !

2007-08-09 05:05:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-09 05:01:34 · 9 answers · asked by Danny W 1

My uncle commited suicide a little less than 4 years ago. He had no children of his own but raised his commonlaw wifes from a previous marriage. She left him (and its assumed she was cheating with his brother) He felt overwhelmed with debts, got drunk and in the end he took his life.
I feel complete resentment towards that family. Even the kids. I don't know why. I know it wasn't their fault but I can't even talk to them and I haven't been to that house since the day it happened. I won't go back. My mom and I were going to move in with him to help us all out, but before we could it was over.
Does this every go away? I feel guilty that I can't let go of my anger towards them even though I have forgiven him for his actions. I don't want to be a ***** but I'm tired of them being the victims when I feel like they could have prevented it.
Someone smack some sense in to me or am I even wrong to feel this way?
Please help. Give advice and personal experience if possible.

2007-08-09 04:44:17 · 14 answers · asked by InquiringMinds 3

I am at my sisters house in a different state and I want to go home so bad but she needs my help with her child while she goes to school. I want to go home so bad but I am afraid that if I tell her she will be very mad at me.What do I do tell her or just stick it out?

2007-08-09 04:33:24 · 11 answers · asked by kh 1

Ok, I have my nieces right now and their mom is trying to come and get them tues. My brother, their dad, has joint custody and he is going to sign me over guardenship. I want to know how I can keep her from coming to get them? their parents are divorces, he is trying to get on his feet right now and then he will come get the kids. She has been arrested 3x for drug possession, is in an abusive relationship and Her husband hits her infront of the kids. they are mistreated so bad when they are with her. they have headlice everytime I go pick them up when they live with her, her house is nasty, she does not take care of these kids. how do I stop her? I dont have the money to hire an attorney or I would. I want to keep these kids so they can at least have a normal life.

2007-08-09 04:19:30 · 11 answers · asked by mikentammy76 5

my boyfriend recently lst his dad, and went to the funeral today. iwant to send i text to let him know im thinking of him, but i dont know what to say,everything i think of sounds stupid or like it might upset him. any ideas?

2007-08-09 04:19:08 · 23 answers · asked by adelle h 1

We need to stop doing this America...
I think I should let it be known now, just because you don't pay child support it does not make you a bad person!! Now, if you are a wanted serial killer, or rapists, or child molester then I could see how someone could categorize you as a bad person. Society wants you to think that if you don't pay chilld support to your chilld then you are a bad person.
What if you are an otherwise good person? You went to college, you've never been arrested or sent to jail before, you may even have another family of your own. It sounds like a decent person, but if you don't pay child support, you're a bad one? There are people out there that are only being left with a few dollars to support themselves after they pay for child support...do we as society even care what happens to him or his family or his other children? Doesn't he/she have to support himself, and pay the rent also? As I said..ITS RIDICULOUS. If you don't know the life of that person don't judge!

2007-08-09 04:17:15 · 15 answers · asked by pdimepc 2

My mother-in-law lives with me and my husband. She's very loney and depressed. She's over 350lbs. and doesn't care to watch her diet and eat healthy. She claims she can't eat beans cause they make her tummy hurt! And when we go to fast food places, we spend an easy $10 just on her food! She drinks all the milk in the house that my children, (2 &3 yrs. old) need. I have to buy a gallon every 2 days! And she doesn't bathe regularly! She bathes every 2-3 months and she smells horribly all the time! Even her room reeks! You pass by the closed door to her room in the hallway and you can still smell it! She says she's fine. But we know better. And she sleeps all day long, and comes out to eat, then goes back into her room and sleeps more! I don't know how to tell her? And I'm ired of staying up for late night movies, and seeing her in the nude walking to the bathroom! It's gross! I should be nice because she helps me with my boys, and because I'm pregnant. But I'm ready for her to get out!

2007-08-09 04:16:54 · 6 answers · asked by the_ghostfairy_returns 1

MY EXPERIENCE WAS SO PEACEFUL AND DIGNIFIED I CAN NOT SAY ENOUGH ABOUT THEM THEY REALLY HELPED ME WITH MY DAD LOVE YOU DAD THANK YOU HOSPICE

2007-08-09 04:15:03 · 9 answers · asked by lulu 3

My mom keeps trying to get me to plan things with my friends but most of them are outa town and the ones that arent i dont know there cell or house numbers. And every day this summers she's been saying "oh you need to go bowling with such and such" and "oh call nick see if he wants to go swimming" and " we'll wait for when nicks in town to go to the water park" (the water park she wants to go to is kiddy and im 13). And i dont like letting her get into my social life to much cuse that will be the only thing she talks about and she will question everything acting like she's in it. saying " oh is she/he still going out with he/she?" and going on and on acting like she's in it, and ive grown quite scared of letting her in cuse of all that. And I hardly go out with friends or let her near them cuse she'll act all weird acting like she's still in it. how do i get her to stop so i can visit friends more? (and im not trying mom lay off, she'll think im doing somethin bad and ask more ?'s)

2007-08-09 03:42:25 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2

Mom is upper 50s. I am oldest son 32,also son 29, daughter 22, son 10. Mom makes a little more than minimum wage and bascially lives check to check. Also receives child support. Youngest son has never had a bed to sleep on. Almost no rules in the household. Do to lack of sanitation I will no longer go to her home. No savings. Plays slot machines at least once per week, gets nails done, eats out alot, and drives a nice car than me. Maybe I am to practical and not emotional enough but this logically cannot continue. She lives in a emotional world and it seems does not think about the practical. Is always jealous of others yet has no energy to change her circumstances. No goals. No Hope. How can I talk to her? She is SO emotional that the slightest mention that she is making mistakes will trigger intense!! crying. I have tried to lead by example. I have tried to make little comments or suggestions. A this point I can either drop it or force her to a low point to understand???????????????

2007-08-09 03:32:54 · 5 answers · asked by newtomn01 1

My dad used to beat my mum unconcious almost every night, sexually abuse my half sisters (they had a different dad) and kidnapped me. We managed to run away from him when I was 4 years old and haven't had any direct contact since. He now has 8 other children who are my brothers and sisters, and now that I am 22 I would really like to meet them. However I am so angry about what he has done to my family (my mum developed social phobia because of it all) I don't know if I could see him without smashing his face in with a baseball bat or something. I know the Christian thing to do would be to forgive, and I don't want to miss out on meeting my brothers and sisters.....but it's so hard! What would you do?

2007-08-09 03:15:55 · 7 answers · asked by josietheninja 2

I'm going through a major crisis in my head right now. What's the best way to ask my parents for a therapist without them knowing why I really need to go? I can't tell them the real reason, as I don't really know how I feel yet...

2007-08-09 03:15:16 · 19 answers · asked by D2oG 2

There has been a lot of stress in my husbands family. As a result his parents are going through a very rough patch. Everytime something happens we are called upon to save the day. I am so tired of our time being spent solving other peoples problems. I do feel l like you have to support your family to a point but I also feel like we are simply being used as a crutch. My frustration is building and I don't feel like we should have to be the firefighters all of the time. We do have our own lives/marriage to worry about as well. I am tired of running and jumping everytime we get a phone call. Any advice?

2007-08-09 03:09:33 · 4 answers · asked by justtoomuch 1

and even makes you come home from where your at to do things and she cool with you having older friends but u cant stay out late at ppl houses who r ur age she strict about stupid stuff .

2007-08-09 03:06:43 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok here we go.... 2 weeks ago i filed for custody (I'm 21) of my younger cousing, she's 17. She was living with my grandmother (is 60yrs old). My cousin has been coming to my house 4 or 5 days a week including just about every weekend because my grandmother refuses to spend money on shampoo/conditioner/soap/toothbrush/feminine products (etc) and refuses to give my cousin money to wash her laundry or even go with her to the laundry place. before i stepped in and starting helping my cousin, she was only able to wash her clothes once every 2-3months, i bought her a toothbrush since the last one she had was 2years ago, and i also bought her shampoo and all that stuff. my grandmother is on welfare for taking care of my cousin, she has been on welfare her whole life for her children, i think she's only worked 1 job years ago. anyway the point is she takes the welfare check and doesnt buy anything my cousine NEEDS (forget wants... its necessities!) so of course i started pickin up the slack

2007-08-09 02:14:36 · 5 answers · asked by >>Ascher<< 3

would you give him a extreme female makeover with every thing plus tie him up blindflod gag him too

2007-08-09 02:02:07 · 7 answers · asked by kevin t 1

Do you seek it or expect it?

2007-08-08 23:46:46 · 13 answers · asked by Yellowstonedogs 7

im 16 my dad is 37. yesterday me and him played tennis, i had never played before so i wasnt very good, and he was really good, and in the nicest way he is fat. he barely broke a sweat, but i was out of breath, and red in the face, plus today my musles hurt but that might be for running a half mile. but do you stll think its sad me getting beat by him?

2007-08-08 22:50:38 · 13 answers · asked by Loved 4

2007-08-08 21:09:22 · 5 answers · asked by Supereepers 1

My sister is 10 and has ADHD. She is on medication but she is still pretty bad..I am watching her all the time and I need to know how to deal with her. She does not listen at all, crys, screams at the top of her lungs.....

2007-08-08 19:52:07 · 9 answers · asked by RAW DIVA™ 5

I am very close with mother and tell her everything about my life. Lately, I feel like I've been disappointing her and she usually complains about my behavior and attitude. The funny, and good, thing is that whenever she is mad at me, we end up sorting things out after a short while. But today she got very angry with me and said that I am ungrateful and that she feels like she has made me this way and that I am a problem. When I tried to talk to her in order to make her understand my actions, she told me to stop making excuses. She tells me that I'm ruining her life. Even though we've argued previously before I have never felt this bad and she always tries to understand me. I love her so much and really want to sort things out but I'm afraid that she isn't going to believe me. I don't know what to do and how to talk to her. Can you please give me some advice on how to approach her and more importantly how to avoid getting her angry?

2007-08-08 19:47:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live in Missouri, Saint Joseph to be EXACT and really i think New York can be a new start for me, how do i break the ice to my family and friends, i'm going to have a job, and save up money [which pay should be 9.75 per hr, so i think i'm ok on the plane ticket] to live out there and off of until i find a job there, which hopefully wont be hard. i just dont want to upset anyone, but i really just need a break from them.

2007-08-08 19:31:25 · 1 answers · asked by fghtoffyurdemns 1