I am very close with mother and tell her everything about my life. Lately, I feel like I've been disappointing her and she usually complains about my behavior and attitude. The funny, and good, thing is that whenever she is mad at me, we end up sorting things out after a short while. But today she got very angry with me and said that I am ungrateful and that she feels like she has made me this way and that I am a problem. When I tried to talk to her in order to make her understand my actions, she told me to stop making excuses. She tells me that I'm ruining her life. Even though we've argued previously before I have never felt this bad and she always tries to understand me. I love her so much and really want to sort things out but I'm afraid that she isn't going to believe me. I don't know what to do and how to talk to her. Can you please give me some advice on how to approach her and more importantly how to avoid getting her angry?
2007-08-08 19:47:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Remember 'by arguing you lose, by agreeing you win'. Listen to your mother and do what she wants you to do BECAUSE you love her so much and there is no loss in life greater than 'loss of love'.
2007-08-08 20:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by sv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show her this question......you seem like a really level headed, responsible young person (I'm just taking a wild guess that you're a teenager). If your mom knows that you actually give a sh!t about maintaining a healthy, open relationship with her things will work out just fine, she should be stoked to have a child that cares what his/her parent thinks and is concerned with having a good relationship. Tell her that you aren't intentionally trying to upset her and the last thing you want is for her to be disappointed in you (I remember those were always the most devastating words my parents ever said to me "I'm disappointed in you"-ouch). But seriously, let her see this question, let her see that you care.
2007-08-15 19:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by sarahsmiles1222 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say "Tell me what I am doing wrong". Then listen. Don't speak until you really understand her point of view. And then, the only answer you could give would be to fill her in on the logistics of making it happen or why you won't make it happen today. you are blessed to have her. beautiful.
2007-08-09 04:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sara J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage her to go out with friends more often. She sounds lonely. Not her fault, she probably spent a lot of time raising you and now it's her habit to keep to the home. She's got to change that habit so that she gets more out of life than what YOU have to give her. It shouldn't all fall on your shoulders to make her happy.
2007-08-14 23:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, try to work it out later. Try to put your self in her shoes whether it is your fault or not. Try doing things differently while you are at home. You will be 18 soon enough and then if your right you will have the freedom to do it on your own.
2007-08-14 18:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been going it to me and my mom r close and everything, but this is what i do when she mad at me i sit her down right next to me and tell her that i need help and i can't do it all by my self. and than sit there and listen to what she has to say and everything. and than she should pull out of being mad at u, well my mom does.
2007-08-16 14:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by roo-roo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go through this with my daughter, remember you only have one mother and one never knows for how long, try to see why she disagrees with you, maybe you can agree to disagree and move on to a less touchy subject. Good Luck!
2007-08-09 10:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋