I am at my sisters house in a different state and I want to go home so bad but she needs my help with her child while she goes to school. I want to go home so bad but I am afraid that if I tell her she will be very mad at me.What do I do tell her or just stick it out?
2007-08-09 04:33:24 · 11 answers · asked by kh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Really in the end you have to think about if you can handle a rift with your sister for a while. Personally I think if it's her kid, you should not be responsible for it and should be free to leave whenever. She can hire a sitter or get a daycare service while she is away. If she cannot afford that she should look into government assitance perhaps. Expecting you to be parent to a child that isn't yours is silly in my book, though, and if she gets mad at you she is being quite irrational
2007-08-09 04:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you do both. You can surely stick it out for a couple weeks. Give her some time to figure it out.
The important part is to set a certain deadline, so that you can't be strung along. Say to her, "two weeks from Friday, or a month, or whatever time frame. Make it specific so that she knows it's not a rolling deadline.
If you say, "I'm going to give you some time, then I'm going home," it would be easy for her with her busy schedule to let figuring it out slip. Set the deadline and then stick with it.
She probably will get mad if you're in the type of relationship that she's the boss. If that's the case, then you need to just gain the confidence and resolve to stand up to her. That's part of being an adult.
She will get over it, and love you still. It's not your fault after all, you've helped her out.
2007-08-09 11:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is very nice for you. Maybe you can compromise for her to let you go a few weekends, if you can budget it, so that you can go home and feel a bit up to helping her a bit more. If you really want to go bad, then advise her that you can help her find someone trustworthy to assist her with the child, hopefully she has the income to make it work. Can you switch with another sister or your mom, for some time to rest? Maybe the daddy's baby has a sister or someone that can help? Remember you are helping her, not raising the child for her. You will also have the right to do something for yourself, maybe on a holiday you can take off to go home a few days and return.
2007-08-09 11:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mary Laurita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should try to let her understand your difficulty .
it is very necessary .
one thing you should do is that you can tell her your problem .
as she is your sister therefore she should not mind it at all
you should make her feel that you are really feeling bad about leaving her home but you can't really help it out!!
you tell her that you may come back after refereshment atyour home and that you will remain there for a longer time.one another solution is that she may take a break and both of you and her daughter will enjoy a outing!!
SO TRY THIS OUT AND DON'T WORRY AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE
2007-08-09 12:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell her you want to go home. Maybe she can find another way of doing things for a while and you can return later or something. It's always best to just tell people what you are feeling/thinking otherwise when they find out they will just be like "why didn't you tell me before?!"
2007-08-09 11:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by x-Kaiekay-Kitten-x 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, how old are you? if u are an adult you have the right to make your own decisions. i applaud u for helping your sister because a lot of single parents have trouble finding baby-sitters these days. do u just miss home or do you have something important to do? whatever the case may be you really have to decide for yourself.
2007-08-09 11:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you are sorry and you want to go home or you can just take her child home with you
2007-08-09 11:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your feelings. She is your sister I'm sure she will understand. The last thing you want to do is be somewhere you don't want to be that could put a strain on your relationship.
2007-08-09 11:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u really feel u got to go, stand yr grounds, be firm abt it. Let your sis know yr reasons. if she understand, that's great! Else she simply got to find others to do her that favor. You can't be always there for her.
2007-08-09 12:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by Antonia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if YOU are unhappy, and do not feel you can continue helping your sister, then tell her.
it's your life, and you need to do what makes you feel content.
she will have to find someone else to help.....
2007-08-09 11:46:05 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋