Ok, I have my nieces right now and their mom is trying to come and get them tues. My brother, their dad, has joint custody and he is going to sign me over guardenship. I want to know how I can keep her from coming to get them? their parents are divorces, he is trying to get on his feet right now and then he will come get the kids. She has been arrested 3x for drug possession, is in an abusive relationship and Her husband hits her infront of the kids. they are mistreated so bad when they are with her. they have headlice everytime I go pick them up when they live with her, her house is nasty, she does not take care of these kids. how do I stop her? I dont have the money to hire an attorney or I would. I want to keep these kids so they can at least have a normal life.
2007-08-09 04:19:30 · 11 answers · asked by mikentammy76 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I live in Oklahoma
2007-08-09 04:20:31 · update #1
you said they have shared custody, he cannot sign you over guardianship if he doesn't have full custody, even if he had. You can not keep the kids if you don't give them back to the mother she could well call the cops on you and instead of making a good for the girls you would be in a big mess and I don't think you could have a chance in helping your nieces. You should call Child Protective Services and tell them that you suspect the kids are being neglected and you fear for their well being, they will investigate and if they find something they would remove the kids and that's when you come into play and since the father can not keep the girls you can be awarded Temporary Guardianship until all this mess is sorted out. I wish you luck and think twice before doing something that it may be to protect your kids but could get you in bigger problems, My best advice is to talk to a lawyer (Some will not charge you if you just ask them over the phone, open your phone book and start dialing, there might be one good lawyer who will offer you guidance on what to do over the phone without charging you a penny) or perhaps the same people on CPS can guide you on what to do.
2007-08-09 04:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by fun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if these kids are neglected at their mother's, have headlice and exposed to domestic violence, why haven't you called children's protective services and made a police report?
someone needs to talk with these children so this situation is made public record and so the authorities are aware.
i'm not sure if your brother can sign guardianship over to you at all... i'm not a lawyer.
if there is a visitation and custody arrangement which has been made through the courts, you can't just take the kids and keep them without a judge's order... which means you may have to take this to court, or else children's services might step in -- depending.
take care and please contact the authorities... (it's probably best to do this while the kids are in their mother's care.. they will likely go and make a visit).
hugs
2007-08-09 04:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they desreve the best, you're right. Child Services Maybe is an option? You'd have to explain all this to a rep and also how you'd be a better Parental Figure. It won't be easy I'm sure, but if you keep fighting, in the end, you'll look back and be happy you saved Your Nices' Childhoods. A very Dysfunctional problem...Good Luck.
2007-08-09 04:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not illegal unless the niece is a minor. Still though, it's incest, no matter how old the people are. Morally wrong: yes. Legally wrong at this age of the niece and uncle: no.
2016-05-17 22:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by hayley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u answered ur own question. they have joint custody as sad as it is theres nothing u can do. u need to get a lawyer and have papers drawn up saying ur the guardenship. it will need to be done through court. u can take action asap. once papers are filed and u have proof she cant take them. hardest thing to do is prove a mother unfit but good luck
2007-08-09 04:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, with not being able to hire an attorney, you probably do not have many options. You might try taking the girls to your local family service office and telling them of the situation and seeing if they can possibly help you.
2007-08-09 04:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-09 05:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he only has joint custody, he can't give you sole guardianship. Contact Legal Aid or your county's child welfare department. Let them know you think their mother is unfit and give them the evidence you have given here.
IANAL
2007-08-09 04:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by soelo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother must have an attorney. This is an argument between him and their mother, not you. Its all going to be up to what the custody agreement is.
2007-08-09 04:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My best advice to you would be to seek legal counsel, you don't want to get yourself in trouble with the law, or have her come after you when she is whacked out on drugs. You could also call family services, and get their advice.
2007-08-09 04:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋