My sister is 10 and has ADHD. She is on medication but she is still pretty bad..I am watching her all the time and I need to know how to deal with her. She does not listen at all, crys, screams at the top of her lungs.....
2007-08-08 19:52:07 · 9 answers · asked by RAW DIVA™ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your parents that it's really hard to watch her unless they teach you some discipline for her. Dr. Laura/Lara? Schlessinger has some great suggestions. She's doing it because she can get away with it. Ask your parents if you can take away all of her privileges and send her to her room(that they may need to strip down so she doesn't demolish it).If she doesn't have consequences that she doesn't like then she'll keep it up. Often she's prob doing it for attention so ask your parents when/if you're supposed to ignore her. For certain behavior that works great because they're not getting the outcome/attention that they're after so the behav. will hopefully snuff out. Good luck and I think you're a GREAT sister for watching her and asking this question. You'll be just fine.When she gets older she will be A LOT better. Just try your best OK?
2007-08-08 20:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by ... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of what is here sounds like pretty good advice to me -I agree that you need a little more support from Mom n Dad.
It sounds like you already understand that she cannot help most of the acting out .
One thing I would add is not to get physical with her -I'm sure that she can try to drive you over the edge- NEVER touche her in anger,you know how the adrenaline can start pumping when you are mad!
Try telling her ' when you calm down we can talk OK!'
When you are not so excited maybe we can do something'
I have the feeling that the more attention you give her while she is acting out -the more she acts out ! Find something else to do and calmly and gently remind her that when she has calmed down you can understand her better.
I know it can be maddening but you will have to do this over and over again.You sound like a loving, patient big Sister to me !
Take the other advice here about getting some time for you!
2007-08-09 08:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by Bemo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two children (grown now), one with ADHD and the other ADD(without the Hyperactivity). The one with ADHD I had to change his medication 4 times between the age of 5-11 (and the dosages with each new medication). Maybe she needs hers changed also, and since you are the person who is with her the most, you need to start writing down her behavior patterns..such as what time she gets her first meds, how long it takes til it starts to wear off, what she eats and drinks; my son could not have any caffeine, very minimal sweets(including kool-aid, unless it was the sugar-free), he couldn't have whole milk with one kind of medication; it could be that she has developed another medical problem that needs to be addressed. Oh, if you write down anything about her, don't let her see you doing it and don't leave it where she might find it...this would probably compound her behavior. It also sounds like your nerves are just about shot, that is a lot of responsibility for a young person to have. You need to talk to your parents and explain that you need a few hours to yourself; if you don't do anything more than go to the library, YOU need to be away from your sister and have time for just YOU !
2007-08-09 03:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing that u can do is be there for her say to her if ever u need to talk i will be there 4 u
2007-08-09 02:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a bunch of people with ADHD. Just ignore it. if she knows shes making you mad she'll be even more annoying
2007-08-09 02:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by summergirl15 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
all you can do is love her.
don't be quick to get frustrated
because it's something she was
born with... take a deep breath
and just remember... she's not
like that because she wants to be.
2007-08-09 02:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. It sounds like she is searching for attention.
2007-08-09 03:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by Med Emergency 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dam if u hav any sense at all ull take her meds for herself u no that stuff is valuable on the street rite
2007-08-09 02:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i understand it may be pretty hard. here is a site to help you understand her better. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attention-deficit_hyperactivity_disorder#Treatment
2007-08-09 02:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by luv2837ian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋