how to say no to ur parents?

Question

I've been playing the cello for 3 years and I've been taking privte lesson from a cello teacher for about 1 1/2 years. I want to keep playing the cello but I don't want to take lesson any more. I can't say no to my mom because her dream is to see me on a stage. (But hello its not my dream!). I want to start the bass guitar but I don't want to be a disappoitment to my mom. So how do I say"I want to keep playing the cello I just don't want to take lesson any more. I want to start a new insturment" see I can say it online but i just don't want to disappoint my parents.

Answer 1

Words spoken out loud usually work best. Something like you just wrote.

Answer 2

Hope this helps.
When you have thought about what exactly you want to do, and how you are going to do it.. For instance, before you talk with your parents, figure out where your going to get the guitar from and who has the best prices for them and maybe someone that can do the lessons ata good price. Basically have the whole thing worked out, to your greatest power, and
Then sit your mom down and tell her you have some exciting news. That you want to pick up a Second instument, No, your not giving up on the cello, but you thought and would like to pick up the bass guitar, this way you can broaden your horizons. Who could say no, to some one that wants to learn more, right....Make it out to her as a learning experience...Tell her that since your pretty well versed on the cello, you were wondering if those lesson, could be changed to the bass guitar....Tell her that most people in the music industy would love to have an Artist that was versed in more than one instrument, What if there are several cello players and no bass guitarist...;P ...GOOD LUCK>...cover all your options.

Answer 3

Well you said it all, this is not your dream. You're a different person from them and they should realize this, they can't live vicariously through you.

Anyways just start hinting slowly, that you'd like to try a new instrument. Like every other day or so just start talking about trying different instruments and then ask if it's okay that you can take lessons for that instrument and stop with the cello.

Also you shouldn't worry about be a disappointment to them, I mean your trying and working hard, that's nothing to be disappointed in. Just don't worry or put pressure on yourself, relax, after all these are your parents and you should be able to tell them anything.....

Answer 4

First of all, talking to your mother face to face sais alot more then writing her a letter. It also shows her that you are mature enough to stand up for what you want, and have the conviction to work for it. Tell your mother that you are matureing now, and want to expand your horizions. Let her know that you have learned alot from playing the cello, but you feel it doesn't express you the you wish it could. Continue by telling her that you are interested in playing the bass guitar, and would like her concent. Tell her you are not looking for approval, you just feel that it is only respectful to approach her with this knowing that she has other plans for your future.

Good luck,
Jer

Answer 5

Explin to them that you understand and would love to honour their dream of you playing cello, but that cello is not your passion and that you wouldnt be happy playing it, that bass guitar is and that you`de be much happier playing this and if your happiness is their priority, they`ll feel gui;ty and allow you to stop cello and start the guitar

Answer 6

hi hon.

you can ask her if she'd be agreeable about you switching instruments.... it doesn't hurt to ask.

YOUR dreams are very important.... your mother is odd in that she is living vicariously through you... if she wants to play the cello she needs to take lessons.... you have to follow your own heart.

if all else fails, perhaps you could continue on the cello, and when you're financially able buy yourself a bass guitar... make it a GOAL and strive to reach it on your own.

goals are important....
hugs

Answer 7

Oh this happend to me to but not cello i wanted to quit tennis and i was playing for 4 years! i wanted to quit tennis and go to track team! well anyways just tell them that you want to start a new instrument and explain to them. Just tell them that maybe cello was'nt the right instrument for you
Good luck!

Answer 8

Just be honest with your parents. You need to live your own life and dreams. I know they're only doing it because they think it's best, but it Will only cause more problems. Sit your parents down and respectfully tell them how you feel. It's good that you want to broaden your horizon. If they insist on you living their dreams, politely tell them that you have your own dreams and goals. And that you appreciate their concern, but you feel that you want to try something different. Good luck!

Answer 9

Whenever I feel I want something done, I say it straight up. But then again, I am very blunt and unformal. I don't live with my mom anymore, but even If they were together, I'd be just as blunt as I've always been!! I am not afraid of my parents and you shouldn't be either! I am not saying like, your afraid they'll kill you or something, I am saying that you are afraid of what they'll think of you. I don't care what my parents think of me!! It's what makes me happy that I care about.
You should do what makes you happy!!
You only have one life!! ONE CHILDHOOD!!!
Don't waste it...

Answer 10

tell her to sit down and say " i like the cello but i want to learn the bass gutair" is that ok,mom?!?