Family - August 2007

I talked to my 15 year old daughter today about our next steps. Her Dad and I are divorced, but always thought that we would get back together.

He moved due to job reasons and she is staying with me. I live in another state.

I have to make a decision today if we will move back to with her Dad or stay here. I said that we will stay here.

She cried and said "I wish that I would die." She was sad for some time and said that there is nothing to do in this town. She misses her friends and surroundings.

I want to do what is best for her. Yet, I don't want history to repeat.

My ex-husband does put me down and is controlling. I see my daughter as being happier with both parents though.

I care for my child, yet I don't think that she sees that. I don't know how to show it to her.

2007-08-06 15:39:41 · 4 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

well...his girlfreind hates me. and she gets me into trouble with my mom. and I get yelled. ok.
today, she asked me if I wanna go with her to my brother's working place. and I didn't feel like it. so I told her no. then she said I have to go or eles when I grow up, she will never ever take me anywhere.
and she tell lies about me to my parents and she and my brother makes fun of me. and last week, she told me that when I have a boyfriend, she is gonna treat him like ****!
She is so cruel.
And my mom always believe her. also my brother. and sometime my dad.
so what do I do?
if you were me, you wouldn't wanna be me.
She is really hurting me. And when I be mean to her back, my brothey tells me to shut up me big ***.
and then he tells my parents. sorry for the bad words but.........
what should I do?

2007-08-06 15:35:06 · 4 answers · asked by ellen 2

2007-08-06 15:02:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Physically change their own brakes on their car and do other maintenance istead of doing it for them or letting them take it to the local shop?
I did it to my drama queen princess when she got her own car 4 yrs ago and realized it isn't all that hard after all...and she saves tons of money and if she does take it to amechanic she doesn't feel stupid or get taken advantage of...like this one place that told her she needed a whole front end done when all she wanted was a hub for her 4 wheel drive.
Also how many "girls" do their own stuff?

2007-08-06 14:52:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

any suggestions for finding help and resources for this addiction

2007-08-06 14:51:37 · 6 answers · asked by shelischubry 1

I have wished him dead so many times. Until I was 3 years old I was the baby. Noone ever knew and they still don't that I wish he had never been born. I already have two older brothers. I like them and we get along. My BF and I were talking today and she was talking about her brother who is 15 years older than her! He buys her things and takes her on trips. I was telling her I how much I hated my little brother and how I wish I could trade my brother for hers. Then she changed the subject and started talking about her cousin that had to SEE her brother on a slab in the morgue. One thing led to another before she told me I was a horrible person. She left mad and went home. Then she called me this evening and told me I was evil for saying those things. I got mad and hung up on her.
I really felt that I just needed to vent to my best friend without her judging me. Why can't I just express my feelings without someone judging me? What I feel is how I feel and I can't really help it. .

2007-08-06 14:38:34 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-06 13:44:49 · 4 answers · asked by angel 1

Just got married in june. been together 3 years.Inlaws moved from AL-rent apt 3blk away. Husb.& I are looking to buy a house. he wants his parents to move in with us. The dynamics in our relationship have changed dramatically since they have been around. my husband is a momma boy, and mom is trying to compeate for wife role. I understand that she is retired and offering to cook dinner is nice...but i am constantly compeating for a place/role. In laws constanstly say racial comments about me being a mix.(wht-Mex) and hubby wont let me talk to them about these issues...Because they would get hurt and offended.."They dont know any better" , i have to deal with it.
I do have fears of losing control of my household etc. when it comes to his parents, they win. I already told hubby i dont want ANYONE to live with us! The relationship between the 3 of them is sick, co-dependent,manipulative etc. I dont want to be a part of that. In-laws moving in was not something we agreed to!

2007-08-06 13:16:00 · 15 answers · asked by Heather W 2

My mother married a man when I was three that was extremely abusive towards me, they divorced when I was 12. I am now 22 and still feeling still extremely hurt and sad. My mother denies much of what happened when I was young. I have tried to forgive her for what happened. But I find myself unable to forgive her every time I see her I feel sad, and worthless. I do not know how fix this. I have tried to talk to her and tell her how I feel and she gets very angry and says nothing happened and won't talk to me for months. I have younger brothers and I don't want to be kept away from them, but it is also killing me going to her house and pretending everything okay. I don't know how to find closure and finally feel peace. They only family I have is my mother and brothers and I don't want to lose them, but seeing my mother makes me feel worthless. Please help.

2007-08-06 12:37:40 · 17 answers · asked by piercedgirl 3

2007-08-06 11:55:35 · 16 answers · asked by ashleydivadiamond 1

My mother has 3 children. 2 boys and 1 girl. I happen to be the only girl. and I swear that this lady as much as I have done for her has made my days miserable and painful. I'm the oldest of 3 and the only girl... i'm not saying my mother should choose me out of her children but i'm the only girl.. we should be closer as mother and daughter. She degrades me and insults me.... and mistreats me.. and none of this is ever done to my other siblings. I thought maybe I was the one who was doing something wrong and I started cleaning more... and i've never been any trouble to her.. i dont drink, smoke, go out late, i'm never in the streets, i'm never doing anything that brings her trouble. when i was younger like 12 she left me in a hospital room all by myself when i needed her the most at times i had to act like i was sick sometimes to get attention from her.. but my other siblings got unconditional love.. she was there through everything for them. she missed my HS graduation

2007-08-06 11:29:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I would hopefully one day like to buy a house and use it to start renting out houses for a living. When the first gets to doing good business. I would like to by a couple more and rent them also. I would like some imput from people who have been successful at this.

2007-08-06 11:09:36 · 3 answers · asked by virgojt1964 1

Ok so here is the deal! My brother who is 26 is dating this chic who is 20! She is a compulsive liar! She lies about EVERYTHING! She lies about being pregnant! They have been together on and off for a year! I swear this chic has been pregnant the whole time! But ether she miscarries or its unexplained! No one really knows! Well just recently she told my brother that 3 weeks ago she was forced to be around a guy who raped her and he raped her again! I have no idea how she was forced don't ask me! Now she tells my brother she is pregnant and she don't know if it is his baby! This is tearing my brother up! He is my half brother! We are best friends when i was married and was being beat he stepped in and helped me leave! Now as his sister i have to speak up only problem is i don't know what i should say! We have gotten into tons of fights because of this chic! It actually has kinda tore us apart a little bit as brother and sister! More details below!

2007-08-06 11:07:33 · 21 answers · asked by Mom of three beautiful kids. 5

I'm the oldest of six children, It's me, my sister, and I have four half-brothers. I've never met my brothers, because I don't see my dad, and my mom always told me that he wouldn't let me see them. Well, recently, I learned that I am allowed to see them, but it would mean seeing a father whom I haven't spoken to for almost 9 years. I've always wanted brothers, and I've been dying to see mine since the oldest was born 7 years ago. If I chose to see them, it could make the already rocky relationship between me and my mother 10 times worse. What do you think I should do?

(By the way, they do know they have sisters, I just found out also that my father has pictures of us hanging up along with pictures of the boys)

2007-08-06 11:05:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know that sounds like a rude question, but let me explain. I have a 22 year old nephew. My sister and brother in law has kicked him out their house. After a huge arguement with my sister on why she would do such a thing, I went and picked up my nephew from the homeless shelter. He had ratty clothes on and looked just awful so I brought him home with me and gave him the spare room in the basement. We were under an agreement that he would find a job and pay his own expenses and buy his own food. Well after 2 months he has not found a job, he lays around all the time, goes out and parties every weekend, eats all our food and the basement is trashed. Now I have money and pain killers coming up missing!!!!! HELP ME

2007-08-06 10:42:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mother constantly strikes me and my sister with metal coat hangers whenever she gets angry. she also strikes us with fists and often belittles us. she says that we will fail in life and that we are worthless. she also often tells me to just go dies right now and tells me to go live on the street. she says not to eve bother coming back and asking for tuiton money for college. my sister is almost 9 years old and i turn 15 in three months. can i report her for child abuse even though there are no visible strike marks or bruises? please help. this has been going on for way too long. my father also sometimes is struck by her, whether by her fists or an object she throws.

2007-08-06 10:36:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do u feel about them? Did they love you just the same, or did they treat you different? Is it possible for a step parent to feel unconditional love for a child the way a parent does?

2007-08-06 10:20:13 · 27 answers · asked by amandawoods 4

Please include age, marital status and living distance between you and them.

2007-08-06 10:16:29 · 5 answers · asked by whenwillthelambsstopscreaming 2

2007-08-06 10:07:28 · 4 answers · asked by rohit s 1

i was over by my cousin and she was topless in her room ask me to help her look for clothes did i do the right thing a didn't help

2007-08-06 09:11:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's a fight between my kids and my job. I'm a single mom and this school year is going to be tough. Last year me daughter got on and off the bus at my friend's house, it's not going to work out that way this year. I can't afford after school daycare (this summer is killing me financially) and I know about the extra help you can get but that still doesn't meet ends. And there is no way I can let her stay home alone until I get home, just can't do it. All my other friends and family live at least 30 minutes away. I talked to my boss about cutting my hours from 8-5 to 8:30 to 3. She was pissed said there was no way. I have a great 'awesome' job but I'm stuck I don't know what to do????

2007-08-06 09:04:37 · 19 answers · asked by 0 3

We have been offered a great (and steady) job in Detroit. Where are the best suburbs to live for people with kids who are interested in great schools and family atmosphere? Also, what is the commute like? If you grew up in or are living in a city and love it I would love to hear about it.

2007-08-06 08:59:31 · 3 answers · asked by delfamily 2

My dad just pasted away........

2007-08-06 08:29:24 · 37 answers · asked by baby girl 1

my lil bro is now watchin porn and playing online porn games i know this cause i've checked his internet history and it has bare porn sites......my mom & dad don't know about this but i jus wana talk 2 him by myself without tellin my mom & dad...
but how should i tell him??? plz help

2007-08-06 07:09:57 · 11 answers · asked by blessin m 1

2007-08-06 07:08:46 · 20 answers · asked by Harish Jharia 7

2007-08-06 07:02:24 · 5 answers · asked by slick&sly 2

everytime we have a family reunion my moms boyfriends family are kind of cold against me and my sister and mom its like they ignore us and they dont want us there they say hi and stuff but they never talk to us or start a conversation do they not accept us? im 15 and my moms boyfriend and my mom are engaged so why dont they accept us they dont treat us like were really part of their family which i hate cuz its not fair to us they treat us like crap and i feel like an outsider and i hate going to visit the rest of the family my question what do they think of us? how can we fit in more

2007-08-06 07:01:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My bro is 17, and is moving to college in less than a month, hes been dating this girl kayla for about 3 years, but they broke up about 5 times, it was barely even a relationship really. All they did was have little fighs, and she wouldn't let him do anything like join sports teams and if he had a friend over, she would get mad and want to be there too, but she denys all of it and says she doesn't do anything. shes i completely physcotic, she hit me 5 times in the past (which is illegal since shes 18 and i'm 15), and she lied and cried to get out of it. she was playing my piano, and i asked her to stop because she was a btich to me that day, and she didn't so i went over and i was going to close it, and she hit me as hard a she could, and i hit her back (first time) and she started crying and she said i grabbed her hands and hit her before she did anything, and she threatened me, and tried to make my brother hate me. theres more in the details.

2007-08-06 06:52:45 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Now she is working on my brothers & sister & aunts to keep herself in the family. How can I get my siblings to realize how hurt & upset I am & that I don't want her or anyone to go to family events she tries to put together. She put one together recently & invited the whole family except me & everyone went. She left me for other men & she hurt me & no one seems to realize the pain that I have.

2007-08-06 06:51:23 · 17 answers · asked by Big E 5

He comes up from Flagstaff Arizona every year on his anniversary and gets drunk and laughs then gets mad and laughs and drinks. He showed up yesterday and is now driving me crazy. I have asked him to leave but he just laughs and gets mad. I need to be rid of him before my terrible wife comes home or I will have some real issues on my hands with him. How can I get him to go back to Flagstaff Arizona and stop drinking? He is driving me crazy?

2007-08-06 06:49:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous