It's a fight between my kids and my job. I'm a single mom and this school year is going to be tough. Last year me daughter got on and off the bus at my friend's house, it's not going to work out that way this year. I can't afford after school daycare (this summer is killing me financially) and I know about the extra help you can get but that still doesn't meet ends. And there is no way I can let her stay home alone until I get home, just can't do it. All my other friends and family live at least 30 minutes away. I talked to my boss about cutting my hours from 8-5 to 8:30 to 3. She was pissed said there was no way. I have a great 'awesome' job but I'm stuck I don't know what to do????
2007-08-06 09:04:37 · 19 answers · asked by 0 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Check in your community for government funded aftercare programs, maybe at an area park , community center or even some community colleges or an area university....where it won't cost you as much as you think...a lot of these programs are need base programs...and you know your daughter will be somewhere safe until you are able to pick her up....it might be a stretch for you, but check some area churches that have schools...they seem to always offer aftercare...see if you can explain your situation and they may be willing to work with you...offer to volunteer..you never know...also talk to some of the other class moms, maybe you can workout something with another parent to keep your daughter after school until you get off work...my final possible solution call your child's school and make contact with the PTA president let them know your issue and ask if they can help you come up with a good solution...you probably aren't the only parent with this issue...believe it or not your phone call could make a huge difference for other children like your daughter....stay positive, don't quit your job, it's all going to workout....
2007-08-06 09:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am completely in agreement with you. I am a sinlge mom as well and it is really hard for me to pay the bills. Let alone have to pay for after school daycare. At the end of the school year I got a job at an office here in the town I live in.. Which is a really small town, and my son actually gets to sit up here with me all day until he can go to the swimming pool or something... I took a pay cut, but it sure beats having to pay for the babsitter...
Your kids should come first, and it's gonna be hard and your prolly gonna struggle but you can do it!
2007-08-06 09:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's always hard for parents, especially hard for single parents.
Some cities have churches that offer after school care (and they even pick up the kids) and charge based on income (they ask for a copy of your last year's tax return). There are sometimes community centers that do that too (like the Boys and Girls Club).
When I was 15 I used to ride the bus home with a neighbor boy who was much younger and sit with him until his mother got home. It was only a couple of hours, so I didn't charge much. Maybe there's a high school kid who could help you. Check with the local Boy Scouts or Girl Scouts or other youth organization for teens that might need jobs -- for not a lot of cash.
You might even find another single mom -- one who works at night -- who can trade time with you. She could watch yours for a couple of hours, you could watch hers for a couple of hours -- even swap.
Good luck!
2007-08-06 09:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by leysarob 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-11 09:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by deperte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally sympathize with your dilemina. My girls have been latch-key kids for 5-6yrs now. I've recently graduated school and relocated to a city whereI now have no family or friends, but I live an hour away from my job. I've been makinf this comute for 3yrs now. I am scared to move to where my job is becasue its such a big city and where we live now is out in the counrty andI love it. My neighbors are good, they girls know to go to one of them in case of an emergency. I know its hard on you, but trust in the Lord, teach your daughter what to do, make her learn to think on her feet, and be strong will, and not easily influinced. You can do it and so can she.
2007-08-06 09:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
umm ur kids should come first but if u need the job then u can ask ur neighbors or friends of ur kids! trust me. family did the same thing till i was old enough to stay home alone i've ben staying home alone since i was 11 years old if she neds to then ask ur neighbors if they can check in on her after a while.
2007-08-06 09:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by witty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try looking into aid. Illinois offers Childcare assistance and it can't be the only state. That really helped me a lot when daycare started costing more then I made.
2007-08-06 09:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by Liza S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could have your daughter go to her friend's house everyday until you get home. Or you could maybe sign her up for an afterschool activity thing? But family does come first. Just remember that.
2007-08-06 09:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by Benny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your kids come first but you can always ask your next door neighbor teenage daughter to watch her after school to make some extra money.
2007-08-06 09:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by jamaicaladydread 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the school have after school programs? Try your local community centers. Perhaps she can go home with a friend after school and you pick her up from there? Talk to her friends parents.
2007-08-06 09:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋