I have wished him dead so many times. Until I was 3 years old I was the baby. Noone ever knew and they still don't that I wish he had never been born. I already have two older brothers. I like them and we get along. My BF and I were talking today and she was talking about her brother who is 15 years older than her! He buys her things and takes her on trips. I was telling her I how much I hated my little brother and how I wish I could trade my brother for hers. Then she changed the subject and started talking about her cousin that had to SEE her brother on a slab in the morgue. One thing led to another before she told me I was a horrible person. She left mad and went home. Then she called me this evening and told me I was evil for saying those things. I got mad and hung up on her.
I really felt that I just needed to vent to my best friend without her judging me. Why can't I just express my feelings without someone judging me? What I feel is how I feel and I can't really help it. .
2007-08-06 14:38:34 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
NO you're not. I'm the youngest of 4 and I felt that way when I was younger about my older siblings. A lot of this is seeded in your desire for attention when you were younger and appearently you don't seem to be getting the attention that you need from your parents. Problems always have a root. You must descover what the root is and how to fix it in turn you will fix yourself. My suggestion would be to discuss this feeling with your parent...we're here to help you.
Don't worry about the BF it was probably more of a shock. You have to understand that she can't understand this feeling of yours because she's not living your life. Besides a true BF will come around and be willing to be me open. If not then the BF was never a friend in the first place. I learned this the hard way.
2007-08-06 14:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by wofbop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the situation if he did something to you that warranted him going to jail in the eyes of the law then you might have feelings like you would prefer him dead.
On the other hand if he is just your little annoying brother you gota get a hold of yourself. What are you thinking? He is family you both have the same parents! How sad would your parents feel if you wanted him out of the picture? Believe it or not you are his role model so whatever you do he will copy it so try and get along. You wouldn't want him to wish that you were dead would you?
You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family. If you still feel strongly about wanting him dead it would be a good idea to talk to a counciller to work through this problem.
2007-08-06 14:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you have any valid reason you wish this on your brother? Hating someone is a rather strong word to use. To hate someone means that you will never have room in your heart to love them. Do you not love your brother? I come from a large family of 9 children. I am the 4th oldest. As a child we went through a lot of arguments, ups and downs and heaven knows there were a lot of downs...but I have to say that now that I have gotten older...My brothers and sisters mean the world to me and would not trade that for the world! Friends come and go but your family will ALWAYS be your family. Sometimes you never know how much someone means to you until loose them or they are no longer in your life. Do you not have room in your heart to love your brother?
2007-08-06 15:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by Sonrisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN help your feelings. YOU CAN think about other things and YOU CAN change the way you "feel". What a selfish person you are! You hated a baby for being born! You think that you should only like people who can pay attention to you and buy you things. I am amazed that you even have friends or a boyfriend when you are so hateful and selfish. Why should you be able to "talk about your feelings" and gloat to someone else about how much you hate. And why shouldn't you be judged? YOU unfairly judged a little child. I don't know whether your family is Christian or not, but Jesus said "whoever offends one of his little ones, it would be better that they had never been born, and it would have been better for them if they had a large millstone tied around their necks and be tossed into the depths of the sea. You don't need to "vent" your feelings. You need to repent and ask forgiveness and give them up. You were not venting, you were complaining a gloating. Why should anybody else be forced to listen to your selfish hatred?
2007-08-06 14:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by Gma Joan 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
those are really bad feelings and are not normal !! talk with your parents or mom and see if you can go to counceling about this. you sholdn't hate your brother no matter what ! you may be jealious of him cause he is the baby, but thats not a good way to feel either! its not his fault he is the baby now and your not !! and he's not old enough to baby you!! One day when he is older and grown up You just might need him! If you get sick with old age He just might be the one to take care of you!!! it happens all the time, you never know when you might need him one day !!! and if your mean to him he want forget it and one day he just may not be there when you do need him !! so you better think about how you feel about him and get help !!!
2007-08-06 15:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she was judging. But what you are thinking is kind of a horrible thing. I used to think and wish that one day I can shoot my sister in her knees because we didn't have a good relationship. I got those thoughts out of my head and now we are really close. I think it's horrible that you hate your younger brother, but I also think it's because he took your place as the baby. You was the baby everyone went to, to care for. When he came along it was no longer about you having no more of the attention. I do not want to offend you like others do it so quickly, but I do think that you should speak to your parents, go get help and get checked. I never wished my sister would just die, just that I could hurt her permanently. But I was young, naive, and only thinking about myself.
2007-08-06 14:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by Rochelle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is hard for people to take stuff like that some times. No your not bad unless you kill him, I HATED my brother for the longest time but eventually it eases up and you can enjoy each others company more. But trust me it takes a while. Your friend doesn't know because she doesn't have close siblings.
2016-05-20 02:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's see . . . you are saying that you hate your little brother just because he was born? Well, that may be how you feel but there's also a lot of your thoughts in this too, like how he displaced you as the family baby. I'm glad I'm not your little brother.
2007-08-06 15:01:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is one thing to be angry/annnoyed with your little brother, but wishing him dead? You need to really think about what that would be like. My brother aggravates the crap out of me and there are certainly times when I would not mind going a year or so without seeing him, but dead...not nice. I hope that is just teen angst talking.
2007-08-06 14:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by alison a 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u r not a bad person cos i ve a lil brother & wishes 4 da same thin 2 but itz normal cos sum times they get on ur last nerves & u cany do any thin about than 2 wish him dead really it gets better sum time so just take it easy iight
2007-08-06 14:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by Angel. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋