everytime we have a family reunion my moms boyfriends family are kind of cold against me and my sister and mom its like they ignore us and they dont want us there they say hi and stuff but they never talk to us or start a conversation do they not accept us? im 15 and my moms boyfriend and my mom are engaged so why dont they accept us they dont treat us like were really part of their family which i hate cuz its not fair to us they treat us like crap and i feel like an outsider and i hate going to visit the rest of the family my question what do they think of us? how can we fit in more
2007-08-06 07:01:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would take two separate steps. I would talk to your mom and her boyfriend and let them know how you feel.
Then - just be a good visitor when going to their house. Even if they treat you bad, don't stoop to their level - raise your head up high and do the good visitor stuff. Things like asking how they are, can you help with anything, how their hobbies are going, etc....
2007-08-06 07:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by Answer Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out his salary in the military and determine together if it is enough for you both to live on. Otherwise wait to get married. You probably know how expensive life can be with rent/mortgage, utilities, vehicles, food, clothing etc. You can also get a job if that is in the picture. I don't see why you shouldn't get married if all the financial stuff works out. Your family needs to be more understanding if all of the finances are in place. How many days a week someone works isn't as important as how much they are bringing in monthly. It is hard to stand up for yourself if you are not use to doing that with your family, but that is what you will have to do if you want to marry him. Be prepared, you may still not have your family's support. You have to decide what is more important to you though: what you want or what your family wants. The choice is yours. My best wishes to you.
2016-05-19 22:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some things that the family of your bf doesn't like your mom and you. Sometimes no matter how you please them they treat you still the same. Do your best and your mom to be more wortieth of their family although you may not be perfect as they would like you to be. Still treat them nice most of the time so that they can't say anything against you.
2007-08-06 07:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by ☺ĦЄŖ§ĦЄ¥☺ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step to solving this problem is addressing this with your mom. She loves you and yes she should be having a life too. You should be important in this whole marriage thing too. Try by sitting her down and maybe even include the boyfriend, because it is his family and maybe he could talk to his family about it.
2007-08-06 07:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by CityGirl_loveselvis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to tell what others are thinking unless you have psychic powers, hon.
please, don't worry about what other people think. if you are uncomfortable in situations with this particular family, don't go to their gatherings... stay home.
we aren't here to be fair... everyone isn't going to welcome us with open arms... we all have to deal with rejection sometimes.
and it's probably NOT YOU who is WEIRD, IT'S THE BOYFRIEND'S FAMILY.
chalk it up to an encounter with people who are just totally strange, and move on with your own life.. you have bigger fish to fry!
2007-08-06 07:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't try so hard just be your self things will work out.
2007-08-06 07:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by tweed801 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋