ever since we moved 2 years ago my daughter has not made friends outside school she is 10 she is very popular in school but we live in a different area to the school what can i do to get her to socialise outside school?
2007-08-08 02:10:10 · 9 answers · asked by debs 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
elizabeth that sounds very harsh dont think i could do that
2007-08-09 02:31:36 · update #1
She just hasn't found anyone outside school who is interesting to her. If she has friends in school, she can't be that shy, so don't worry about it. Try not to push the socializing issue with her.
2007-08-08 02:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gradually she will make friends and come out of her shell, she's only 10 after all and it's normal to go through this at her age. But if she has friends in school maybe get her to invite her best friend(s) over for a sleepover or party of some kind, this may involve you doing a little taxiing but it may build up to something more and may involve her friends parents who will also start to consider having your daughter over theirs and may also help with transport etc. Alternatively maybe get her to join a local club or event that she'd be interested in going to, and maybe something you can join her with for a little back-up if she feels nervous? It's hard when kids go within themselves but it is perfectly natural and don't try forcing her because she maybe happy with the situation as it is. She'll eventually become more socialised, don't worry.
2007-08-08 02:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound cruel, but she will thank you for it later. MAKE HER go out and get to know the children in the neighbourhood. Tell her: 'Don't come back until you have made at least one friend from around here! Don't worry, she will not stay out 'for days' or anything like that. She will have made a friend within an hour, and then that girls friends will be your daughters friends too, and she will be like a fish in the water. My mom did this to me when I was 11, and I HATED her for it... for about an hour, because I then met my best friend, and she is still my best friend today. Sometimes we HAVE to be a bit 'harsh' to get a good outcome of something!
2007-08-08 15:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth A 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi Debs, Its not a problem that your little girl is shy, mine is the same at home, all i have done is have her friends from school over have sleep overs, she plays out with her school friends then got to play with others on the street now she plays out with the neighbours kids one her own without her school pals, worked wonders you should try that.
2007-08-08 04:57:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a church, youth group, the Y, some of the school activities. Cheerleader, basketball, thing like this could help her. Maybe day camp. Any place she can meet girls her own age. Good Luck to you both.
2007-08-08 02:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she could take up dancing, karate or some other group-related activity?
my granddaughter is 7 and she has been taking karate for almost four years now... she has a circle of friends from that group as well as school. she also plays softball every year (but that is school-related).
the YMCA might offer swimming lessons for summer, some museums offer art lessons or crafting lessons for kids, also....
take care.
2007-08-08 02:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for her age take her out some where..to the park to the mall...arcades...some where fun where other kids hang out....try invitin some kids over from her school even though yall live in a different area....
2007-08-08 02:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by *S!LL!3G00B3R*TTC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shy ness comes fom feelings of insecurity and being put down
just work on her confidence and make a fuss of her
she'll get some confidence and meet new people
2007-08-08 05:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cant you join her into a theatre ,,,,dance school...she would meet other children ,,her own age and perhaps a friend to,,,
2007-08-08 02:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋