there are so many things i would like to do, but my mom never lets me. she doesnt understand. shes really stupid to. we are UN-NEEDINGLY moving cuz she didnt take an offer to keep our house, when we could be saving A LOT of money. well.... help!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-07 21:41:19 · 7 answers · asked by Shay Shay Babe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like you dont understand your mother either. How ever hard it is to believe and you may not understand until you are a parent, but she makes decisions with your best interest in mind. I bet that every decision she makes, she has you in mind. There are probably reasons for the move that you dont know. Give her the benefit of the doubt and maybe ask her if there is anything you can do to make things easier.
2007-08-07 22:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, your mom must have her reasons for making the choice she has. Maybe it was a good reason and maybe it wasn't, but if you want her to understand you, then you will need to first understand her.
Second, because you call your mom stupid, it shows that maybe you're not listening to her and maybe that's why she's not listening to you or understanding you. Everyone does the best they can, most often, and moms have a hard job. Maybe your mom made a really bad decision recently, but that doesn't make her stupid. It just means she goofed....like everybody does sometimes. She's not perfect, just human.
Third, if you want to understand her, get rid of your anger and hostility. Then, if you can do that, sit down with her and talk to her like a person. Show her you can be mature and grown up and she will be impressed and talk to you like a grown up too.
Fourth, if you are very young, then there isn't much chance your mom is going to let you do things you want to do if she thinks they are dangerous to you. She will have to see that you are able to be mature and smart, or she will keep treating you like a kid. If you aren't very young, such as around 16 or so, then still, sit down and talk to her anyway. She's your mom and she has her reasons for doing the things she does. Show her you can be a grown up and talk to her like you're mature and respectful and she will give you respect right back and listen to you more. If you get hostile with her, she'll never listen and she'll do what she wants anyway.
Remember, moms are just people too. Treat them nice and they will maybe be nicer to you. Treat them rough and they will not be nice at all. They will turn into "Mom" and stop you from doing the things you want to do.
Good luck.
2007-08-07 21:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by Top Alpha Wolf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are but you sound young. You really need to try and see things from your Mom's point of view. Put yourself in her shoes- what would you do?
I'm sure she's doing the best she can. Try helping her out. Sit down with her over a nice lunch and have a real heart to heart talk. If that doesn't work try writing her a letter. I'm sure if you aproach things with a sincere, mature attitude, she'll appreciate that and really listen.
Good luck!!!
2007-08-07 21:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not up to you to make that decision. Just respect the decision that your mother made. In the long run it may be better than you thought. You may think that she is not doing what is right for you now, but later you may have a different opinion. You never know what her motive might be.
2007-08-07 21:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your dependent on your mom you need to listen to for now. When you turn 18 you can move out and make your own life. For now if your under her roof, you have to play by her rules. If your having family problems all together, counselors can help. You would be surprised :)
2007-08-07 21:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jen H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents don't tell you everything when it's private and not your business. There may be more going on about the move than she thinks you need to worry about.
Moms make their rules in response to concerns about your safety, well-being and moral and ethical decision making.
Give her some credit. She's most likely trying to protect you.
2007-08-07 21:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by ann81969 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your mom and do what she says. You are not wise enough to do things by yourself ( I don't mean that you are not wise. You may be wise but never so wise to supersede your mom.)
2007-08-07 21:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by sv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋