Family - August 2007

My niece is coming to live with me because right now her life is very hard. She is 13 and her mom and her dad are breaking up and her friends are now making fun of her. My sister agreed it'd be best if my niece come to live with me as long as she can visit her and her father. I agreed.

Today my sister e-mailed me angirly saying that she found out I was putting her daughter in a private school, even though it's one of the best schools in LA and her daughter loves it. My sister had said from the begining I could chose the school for my niece.

I called her and told her it's what we agreed on and that this is one of the best schools in LA. My sister yelled at me and said that I was making a bad choice and that I should watch out. Now my sister is so mad she's trying to get my niece not to come even though I filled out half of the paperwork. How can I explain to her we already I agreed, I could chose how her life would be in LA?

2007-08-17 03:13:41 · 7 answers · asked by Jasmine 4

I have a 6-year-old male cousin that I babysit often, who is a generally a good child. However, he thrives on attention - way too much. Often when I visit his house with other people, I can tell that my aunt, uncle, and other adults are embarrassed by his behavior. He always needs to be the center of attention, and it is frustrating and causes a lot of problems when company is over. If someone is doing something and clearly all eyes are on them, he will run in front and do/say something (often rude 6yro childish humor) to bring the attention to him. Also, when others are in conversation that don't include him and he wants attention, he will stop and scream loudly (not for anything in particular, just to bring all eyes to him) or repeatedly call out from a faraway distance, "Look at me!"

During gatherings with adults, I sometimes have to watch over him, which is why his behavior is also very frustrating for me. How can I get him to stop this? It's rude/annoying/tiresome!

2007-08-17 03:13:29 · 6 answers · asked by Madeline B. 2

She burst in through the door and shouted she needed the loo,then came out leaving a vile smell,i had to use the air freshener,then i was tidying up(hoping she would take the hint and go,but she never) she then said to me...and i quote ''My God you've got some knees on you,there some size,you wont be able to walk by the time you are 50,you will need a wheelchair''
How horrible is that,her son then started to open drawers and snooped his way into my sons bedroom looking for ''batteries''.
I am sick of it should i hide from them or tell them not to call?
Please help i am at the end of my tether!!

2007-08-17 03:07:29 · 16 answers · asked by babscabs 5

My parents live next door to my aunt and uncle and pretty much most of my family. Well for years my relatives have been taking advantage of the govt..like asking for help when they know they are wrong. My uncle receives disability but he cuts grass for extra income. But they are pretty old and I know they are going thru some financial problems so I feel kinda bad and I don't want to report them cuz they are family what should I do? I know its wrong cuz those my are tax payers money supporting them.

2007-08-17 02:58:27 · 19 answers · asked by Liz 2

2007-08-17 02:50:51 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Speaking as a parent myself, if I left my child alone and went down the road I guarentee he would come searching for me. I also think that the Police have known all along that she was murdered and it's all been a cover up. What do you think?

2007-08-17 02:37:46 · 10 answers · asked by Scatty 6

I am shaking. We overdrew our checking account by 200. Then the added charges. I am a very obsevice. The idea that I have screwed up so bad. My husband thinks nothing of this. I am upset to the point of feeling phsyically sick. I thought I was going to beat the crap out of myself this morning. I probably would have, had it not been for my two little boys there getting ready to go to the sitters. I cant get anything right anymore. I have tried forever to fix me & no good. I am tired of trying. I just want to give up. I work my butt off & all my money goes to my family & our bills. My husband works his butt off & most his goes to bills. The early years of our marriage had some financial bumps & we had to use credit cards to get by & now we are in over head & not getting by. I push my self so hard & it kills me to see us get no where. We make average or better $ for our area but we can barely make ends meet. I just never see us getting out of our falling apart trailor.

2007-08-17 02:26:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

im sad bc all my friends have a lap top and i dont i really want a lap top.

2007-08-17 02:22:23 · 22 answers · asked by Sydney 3

In the past month I was beaten and I also got a death threat from another family member 4 a misunderstanding. The next weekend The family had to make an emer. 6 hr drive cause my g-ma had cancer. At 1st the doc said she had 6 mon. 2 live. She couldnt make it 2 her doc appt. so her doc came 2 her. As soon as she saw her she cried and rushed her into the cancer ward. They said she had a wk or 2 left but 3 d. later she died. I was with her. I had been quite sick but I found there 2 B more important things going on. She was a 2nd mom 2 me and a bff as well. I had never lost someone close. Mom & I r in pieces. 2 top it off we r both very ill and arent suposed to get out of bed for 2 wks. yesterday dad decided 2 serve mom w/ div. papers right after she had a tooth removed. This is the 2nd time hes walked out on us. can you give me ideas or places we could contact in r situation? Moms pays no good and I have a disease, preventing me from working nothing but part time (if that), thx!!

2007-08-17 01:18:23 · 13 answers · asked by Babes 1

2007-08-17 01:05:04 · 14 answers · asked by seanie 1

This girl my brother dating 10 years ago emailed me on MySpace and is saying she believes one hundred percent that her daughter is my brothers. My brother has 3 1/2 children by his fiancee. He's protesting that the 9 year old his and why did the mother contact me-his sister and not find him on Myspace. I would believe him believe him but he won't even talk to the other girl when seems to be a case of protesting too much. What to do?

2007-08-16 22:38:40 · 12 answers · asked by Talon 2

usually my mom is very supportive but she just cant stand my boyfriend.yes ,i know there r some problems with his family,that she does not like.but thats not his fault.even he dose not know about them..she just want me to stay away from him.but i really love him.i tried everything.but...it is effecting her health... i cant see my mom in this state..and i cant live without him...what should i do?what can i do?plz help me..

2007-08-16 21:28:08 · 11 answers · asked by windy 1

I currently am dating a black girl who happens to be atheistic and everyone in my family is completly accepting except my parents. I'm pretty sure its the fact that she is black that bothers them. I love this girl with a passion. She is my everything, but I want my parents to accept her. How should I address this problem.

2007-08-16 20:26:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hey. I'm 14 years old and in 2 weeks, I will be a freshmen in highschool. Today, I went to this festival and I met up with my friend and a couple of her friends from her school. There was about 5 of us and they didn't really know me that much, so I was ignored. Everytime I always get involved in a group of friends, I am always ignored and not even acknowledged that I'm there! They were all talking about other people that I didnt even know, so I was just standing there like a loser. What do I do? I want to get over my shyness and be more outgoing for highschool because in my middle school, most of the people HATED me because I was quiet. So please, I really need some help. I hate being so shy.

2007-08-16 19:48:13 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm getting overly depressed and I need some advice on how to deal with my abusive alcoholic father. Tonight I can't stop crying. So if you have had a similar experience, how did you get through it? PLEASE HELP ME!

2007-08-16 18:28:26 · 30 answers · asked by <3 1

i havent talked to my dad in about 3 years and he has never helped us since my mother divoced him 7years ago and well now i am 17 and i want to ask him for money but how do i ask

2007-08-16 17:56:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

here's where im gonna start ....

my brother(20) has a girlfriend(18) and they are VERY VERY happy together. they always have fun and include me in most stuff .... so she is like my older sister already. they have been together for 2 years, almost 3 now. before they started going out, my brother used to stay at home most of the time, in his room. he was never really social, but he was never really a turtle, eether. he wasn't depressed or anything, but when they started going out, he has been more outgoing, fun, and the happiest he has ever been . they rarely ever fight, but sometimes my brother takes things a bit too serious .

*problem*

about 15 minutes ago i overheard (I WAS NOT EAVESDROPPING) them talking on the phone (well my brothers side, atleast). they were argueing about how my brother doesnt show that she is hjis everything and how she doesnt say the right things at certain points. it got into a big arguement and i was crying when i was listening

2007-08-16 17:42:41 · 12 answers · asked by drama_x0x_queen 1

I'm getting overly depressed and I need some advice on how to deal with my abusive alcoholic father. Tonight I can't stop crying. So if you have had a similar experience, how did you get through it? PLEASE HELP ME!

2007-08-16 17:33:37 · 7 answers · asked by <3 1

What do you think they do all day?

2007-08-16 17:24:18 · 14 answers · asked by Wendy B 5

I have trouble talking with my dad mostly asking him for advice because he never hears me out first. He begins giving me the solution when.......he doesn't know what the problem is yet. He tells me all the time..."You should listen to me," but he doesn't seem to understand that listening is a two way street. I love him dearly just can't seem to communicate with him. Anyone have a problem like this with their dad? I'd appreciate any advice.

2007-08-16 15:57:25 · 16 answers · asked by Marky Marc 3

I had my son a little over a year ago and I was a single mom for the first 10 months of his life. I got in a relationship about 6 months ago, and got married 2 days ago. I'm with a GREAT guy. He loves me and he loves my son. My son's father has never been involved, but my husband has never treated my son like anything but his own child. Recently though I've noticed that I'm having a hard time sharing the role of parent with someone else. I've always had my son to myself...I've always made all the decisions about him and all that. I'm having issues letting someone else help me parent him. Is this normal? I know its pride. I haven't had any help for so long, and now I can't get used to it. I'm almost jealous that I have to share him with someone else. I KNOW that two parents are what is best for my son, but for some reason its bugging me. How can I get past this?

2007-08-16 15:47:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

and his health is bad due to diabetes. he is 63 how do we tell him we do not think he should be drivng. he has had a lot or wrecks and nobody will ride with him not even my mom. how do we tell him this and still respect him as our father. we know it will hurt him but we are scared that he will hurt or kill someone else. please give us some advice. thanks

2007-08-16 15:43:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

it all started when i went to high school i lost all of my friends from middle school because we went to differnt schools. and i've been feeling so lonely then an angel entered my life and when i was with her she made me feel like i was someone and when i finally got the courage to ask her out she said some thing about how she loved me but didn't wanna ruin our friendship. and my already broken heart was shattered. then 3 days later i found out she asked one of her other friends out. and i was devestated. the hardest part was seeing then in the hallways together holding hands. then just as i thought things couldn't get any worse they did. it turns out most of my friends that i still had noticed i was down so they desserted me

2007-08-16 14:17:27 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 29 yrs old, & has been with my boyfriend for a yr. Initially, my mother was supportive of the relationship, but since I told her my boyfriend is colour blind (he cannot see green), she has been forcing me to split up with him. Her reason is because colour blindness is hereditary, and she does not want my kids to have this "disability". My boyfriend is a caring man with a good career, and is committed to our relationship. He can go about his daily routine normally. I tried many times to discuss with my mother about her concerns & my reasons, but she doesn't listen & believes "I deserve someone better". I also tried to convince her to meet him in person, but she refused. I love my bf, but also want my mother's blessing. What can I do?

2007-08-16 14:02:58 · 21 answers · asked by Gillian 1

Help need help sleeping 10 points to the best answer?
know some of u read about my cousin losing his bladder and bowel control in a car accident .i have a problem because every morning he wakes up and starts to cry because he had accident at night . u would think he would have got use to waking up with a wet diaper but he dosen't act like it . he's usely wakes up around 7:30 or 8:00 and starts to cry and i like to sleep till 9:00 . what can i do for him to get use to waking up with and accident. hes 23 years old and he dosn't have brain damage

to have patience u need sleep i love him with all my heart but once and a while i need a little sleep

anything i can do for him to get more sleep at night . please don't say ur selfesh or ur mean . i need help would u help me find a way for to get sleep and even some times he wakes up with a messy diaper and he won't stop crying for like 25 minutes help please .

2007-08-16 13:58:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Son, age 26 still lives at home. Has had only two jobs since graduation for only a short time each. Was fired from both for poor attendance. Makes excuses and blames everyone and everything for why he doesn't get out on his own. Has health problems but nothing serious. Has had a few bad breaks but nothing serious. We provide everything for him. He does very little around the house, has a negative attitude, and tries to lecture us and micro-manage everything we do. I've told him repeatedly it's time for him get a job and get his own place. He always has a comeback and tries to make me feel guilty. Threatens to disown us. We're willing to help, but he needs to help himself also. If I don't do something I'm afraid he will be with us until he's 87! This causes problems as his step-father resents totally providing for a grown man. My other son, not yet 18 is already working on advancing to adulthood and is making good progress. Need a way to do this without alienating him. Suggestions?

2007-08-16 13:10:09 · 19 answers · asked by L D 1

My husband an i had some financial trouble last year(due to circumstances beyond our control) and the family really pitched in and helped out(all be it grudgingly, and yes we are paying it back). We are doing much better now, but the in-laws are always calling and asking if we are catching the bills up. They are not so much concerned as they are nosy. They want to know how much we are making and how we're planning to spend it. If we take a day trip to the zoo or buy an iced coffee they "*****" about us spending money. I guess i just feel like its our money and its none of their business. I also suspect they discuss our finances with other members of the family too.

2007-08-16 12:44:58 · 20 answers · asked by avz 2

As children we thought mommy was our hero, and the greatest person in the world, although she never was there for us. She was a great provider buying us the best clothes & toys Her dis-interest came aparent when she re-married,She totally ignored us as she had her lovers & went on trips leaving us at home to be violated, this went on for 7 yrs till me and my sister left home at 14 & 7 her to live with her father & me with my grandmother. We both returned to mom as teenagers to find we still had to fend for ourselves, as she was more interested in her men, & drugs. I moved out and got married & my sister went to live with her father. I got divorced & moved closer to my mother after she went into rehab and split from her new husband after having another child. Everything was fine until this year when she sucked all my money & threw me & my kids out in the street cause I had no more. Then my children tell me she talks about me calling me a slut, I no longer want her in our lives.

2007-08-16 12:44:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

She is more civil to me than anything. She will come to visit when she need's something, money, sitter, etc. She will say things like, I want to go to the movies, but have no one to go with, and I'm sitting right there. I buy her gifts, I went to Europe a few weeks ago, and bought her very nice gifts. I was there for her when she got fired from her job by her manager, and guess who she is going to the movies with on Friday, this same person who got her fired! One night I mentioned that I wanted to go out, she was going out, and didnt even ask if I wanted to come along. I am very family oriented, I put family first. At first I felt hurt, but now I want to shut her out of my life, and teach her a lesson so to speak. There is a 3 year age difference between us, and are next door neighbors. Do I stop trying to get close to her and stop wasting my time?

2007-08-16 12:41:13 · 4 answers · asked by lady29 1

my mom gets pissed off at me for no reasom! like tonight family friends are coming over and theres this girl thats 2years older then mee, I asked my mom what should we do, she said i don't know go on a walk, (like why would I care?) and I said nicly like were should we go? And she yells saying I don't fing know! And I was like why do you always get so mad at me? then she just yelled at me to go away. I'm sick of her acting like a b****, it really bothers me and I tell her I hate it when she blows up over noting and she says I dont, and I say you kind of do, and she raises her voice saying ok whatever just go away. What should I do?

2007-08-16 12:33:13 · 6 answers · asked by ? 5