my mom gets pissed off at me for no reasom! like tonight family friends are coming over and theres this girl thats 2years older then mee, I asked my mom what should we do, she said i don't know go on a walk, (like why would I care?) and I said nicly like were should we go? And she yells saying I don't fing know! And I was like why do you always get so mad at me? then she just yelled at me to go away. I'm sick of her acting like a b****, it really bothers me and I tell her I hate it when she blows up over noting and she says I dont, and I say you kind of do, and she raises her voice saying ok whatever just go away. What should I do?
2007-08-16 12:33:13 · 6 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you are just like every other teenage girl in the universe. moms are like that sometimes you just have to understand.
2007-08-16 12:39:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever think that there might be something going on with your mom that you don't know about? There could be something going on at work, financially, socially, who knows! She probably is not trying to be a ***** to you! When she starts getting edgy just kind of back off for a while and calm down. You might also sometime suggest going and doing something with your mom as some mother daughter time. I went through times like this with my mom and there was almost always something else going on and then it passed. But now that I am grown up and live a state away from her, we never fight and we have become friends.
This will pass sweetie!
Good Luck!
2007-08-16 19:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If nothing else, maybe you can show your mother this:
When my son was 11 years old I acted exactly like you describe your mother. I had a short fuse, I got irritated easily, and I yelled for nothing at my son. First my son said nothing and just took it. But after weeks of this, did he approach me and ask me why I got so angry with him. I tried to tell him that I didn't. But after listening to him, explaining me how I acted, guess what? I made an appointment with my family doctor, my son and I went there, and then I told my son to tell the doctor how I acted. After my son was finished, she looked at me and told me this: "Classical Estrogen Withdrawl". I was 39 ytars old, so that does not depend on age.
Try to catch your mom in a good mood and then ask her if you can talk to her. Don't accuse her of anything---also, accept it if she was mad at you for a reason---then try to explain her how you didn't understand why she got mad at you so quickly, was there something that bothered her about you? I don't know how understanding your mom is. I always was very open minded and of the attitude that my children had the right to voice their concerns and dislikes---but in essence, what this came down to was that I went through a hormone change not knowing it, and I still feel bad for my son who suffered through this for a while.....
2007-08-16 19:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurts me deeply to read your story sunshine ...i feel bad for both of you ... life is so terribly short and the thought of it being wasted ...the precious time we have with people, especially our parents should be spent creating joyous memories and unconditional binding love... you need to get that message to her as nicely and clearly as possible... telling her how you feel now and what kind of a relationship you yearn for...i might also suggest hun...that you not use words like "kinda"..be honest and specific but be as loving as you want in return ...i think you should buy or make a card the very next time she hurts your feelings and add in your own words of the love and understanding you feel she is denying you both...
and maybe not give it to her just then ...(but you of course could) but i am thinking wait until she utters those horrible words telling you to go away (how dreadful...i am so sorry love) then excuse yourself for a moment and go and get your card and make a gift of it to her .... i pray to god she reads your love and pain and you see a different mother ...one in which you surely deserve...one that shows you the love you will be teaching to your own children one day ... i am sure you won't but don't be accusing and you might some where in your passage ,ask her how you can help you both get to that place ... the endearing love of a mother and her daughter... good luck to you sunshine ...may your days be brighter
2007-08-16 20:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by d j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom might be dealing with depression... or she is just a b**ch. Since she doesn't think her behavior is a problem I wouldn't be around her more than necessary. If she continues blowing up at you I would talk to a counselor at school. Your mother could cause you to have mental strain.
2007-08-16 19:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my guess is that she's moody for some reason other than you. I get like this when I am PMSing, stressed out or having a migraine. IS there somthing stressing her out? Just try to ignore it, that's what I do when my moms like that and that's how my husband deals with me LOL
2007-08-16 19:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jessie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋