and his health is bad due to diabetes. he is 63 how do we tell him we do not think he should be drivng. he has had a lot or wrecks and nobody will ride with him not even my mom. how do we tell him this and still respect him as our father. we know it will hurt him but we are scared that he will hurt or kill someone else. please give us some advice. thanks
2007-08-16 15:43:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he has had diabetes since he was 17 years old and it has taken a toll on his health. he has heart problems that they can not even do open heart surgry on,his eyes are very bad his doctor told him that the damage is already done. plus he is on an insulin pump which he will not let it work on its own so he always low. so after all the taers there is a lot of damage to his body.
2007-08-17 03:22:47 · update #1
Very thoughtful that you should be so concerned about your dad's health. Be as honest and open with him and explain that you want him on this earth for as long as possible and that you do not want to see him kill either himself or some innocent person. If necessary you or your mom may have to talk with your family doctor and let him know of your concerns. He may lift your dad's licence for medical reasons.
2007-08-16 15:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and good morning Becky....I don't think that the diabetes would be causing your dad's bad driving, this puzzles me because I have been diagnosed with the same for two yrs. and it doesn't cause me to drive badly. Is the diabetes causing his eye sight to be poor? If so, he might just need to have his eyes checked or a new pair of glasses. Is he having difficulties with 'black outs' due to low sugar and this is why he's had so many accidents? Diabetes alone wouldn't cause your dad to be a bad driver there must be another reason for this. But to answer your question, you might need to talk to his physician concerning this issue and let his doctor decide. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-08-17 03:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.I had a friend with diabetes who had similar experiences and he very nearly killed his entire family more than once.Since you can never be sure when his sugar will be too high and cause irratic behavior ,it is best to err on the side of caution.Tell his doctor.Many health care facilities have social workers in their group who will help with these issues.Perhaps an objective person will make more of an impact on him.If it becomes very critical I imagine you could contact the DMV in your area and see if you have any legal recourse.If he is putting his life and others in danger,worrying about his hurt feelings is kind of you but in the end may be fatal.Sometimes you have to show tough love! Best of luck hon,this sounds like a real challenge.
2007-08-18 11:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do not think there will be an easy way. I would say " dad, We all love you very very much. If anything like a car accident should happen, I would be sad and upset if you died. With that being said, it is time to put the car keys down and let us take care of you. I know this hurts your feeling, but imagine how we would feel if something were to happen to you."
Hope this helps, good luck if you decide to follow through with it.
2007-08-17 02:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by Going Crazy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sensitive issue, but I think if you all came together as a family and explained to him it's time for him to allow you guys to help with the driving and doing things, but explain why and not treat him like "dad, you aren't doing this anymore", kind of thing, it's taking away his self worth as a person and human being, you know? Let him think about it once you've discussed it with him, don't force the issue, because if you do, he'll be resentful which leads to bigger issues later.
2007-08-16 15:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hurts or kills someone he'll land in jail and have to live with that guilt the rest of his life. As will you. Is sparing his feelings now really worth risking someone's life? Not a chance in hell...
2007-08-16 15:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that, it would be best if you spoke to him i know its hard when its family try to explain to him why no one will get in the car with him.
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2007-08-18 05:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call the DMV and ask them if they can require him to be retested or something.
2007-08-16 15:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hide the keys and when he cant find them tell him if he cant keep control of his keys/bodily functions he can not drive!! lay down the law
2007-08-16 16:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by lockizzle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell him in the kindest way you can. it's better to be safe then sorry
2007-08-16 15:47:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋