please help me i'm falling apart?

Question

it all started when i went to high school i lost all of my friends from middle school because we went to differnt schools. and i've been feeling so lonely then an angel entered my life and when i was with her she made me feel like i was someone and when i finally got the courage to ask her out she said some thing about how she loved me but didn't wanna ruin our friendship. and my already broken heart was shattered. then 3 days later i found out she asked one of her other friends out. and i was devestated. the hardest part was seeing then in the hallways together holding hands. then just as i thought things couldn't get any worse they did. it turns out most of my friends that i still had noticed i was down so they desserted me

then i found out my parents are getting divorced. and in less than a week i have to decide who i want to live with. and i just can't decide i mean my dad can be a hard @$$ but if i move away with my mom i'll lose some of my best friends that still care about me. sick of all this i have nothing left to live for and i think i might just end it i mean i feel so trapped.
i just can't take it anymore. why does all this $hit have to happen to me.

i really did try to stay strong but i guess in the end i fell apart. and there was no one there to catch me.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

#1. I had to do the same thing as you by starting at a school where I knew nobody. I'd gone to the same school k-8 and all of a sudden was the shock of high school! The best advice is to be open to meeting new people and making new friends. Maybe even have a small get together, inviting some acquaintances you met at the lunch table or in class. You don't have to be best buds, just leave it open for discussion.

#2. The last thing you want to be doing is looking for a relationship. If it doesn't work out, then you're left friendless again. You need to work on YOU first, so that you can build a circle of friends and become the kind of person that is attractive to another person. Make sense? Anti-social behavior is not an attractive quality at any age.

#3. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to worry too much about your parents divorce. Soon enough you'll figure out where you're going to live and you can start looking to rebuild or expand your social circle. It's not going to be easy, but believe me, it's going to push you further in life than you can ever imagine! Because I started off with no friends in a strange school, I had to break out of my shy little bubble and I'm REALLY outgoing now! It'll happen for you too!

#4....journal and pray! Write your feelings in a journal when you're feeling upset or just "bleh". Sometimes just getting it out of your system makes you feel a little bit better. Going back and reading previous journals will help you see what you can do better next time. Praying is putting your problems in the hands of someone who can help you when every bit of hope seems to have disappeared. Trust me, it works!

Answer 3

It's a very tough situation you are going through. Not only you have to deal with your own friends at school, you also have to deal with the situation at home.

Sometimes, a number of difficult situations come together at the same time, making the situation even more difficult. In such times, it can either break a person or it can make the person stronger.

When dealing with several difficult situations, you need to find an anchor. For example, someone you can talk with, or pray to God, read the Bible. You need extraordinary strength to cope.

Deal with the problems, one at a time. When you are dealing with one problem, forget about the rest for the time being. Deal with the more important issues first. Take a piece of paper and draw a line in the middle, on the left side put Pros, and on the right put Cons. Jot down what you think if you stay with your mom, then do the same for the dad.

Try to call a help line in your area and get further assistance. Remember that things can change for the better, don't lose hope. You will become a stronger person when you get over these difficult situations.

Answer 4

Dude, get ahold of yourself. I totally feel you, please believe that I understand the pain. But you've got a lot of life left to live, and a lot of great things are going to happen to you if you just hang in there.

My advice to you would be to try moving with your Mom. This will give you a change of scenery, and a chance to start all over again. I know it's hard to lose your friends...but where are they now that you're feeling depressed? Starting over in a new place can be totally hard to do, but at the same time, you'll have a lot of new opportunities, you'll meet all new girls, and things could really change for you. It's a great adventure. If anything, it'll give you something to do so you won't be thinking every minute about how depressed you are over your lost girl. And if it doesn't work out, your Dad would probably take you back later on.

Remember to put things in perspective. This is just a small time in your life, it's just this year...there are a lot of years left to live that could be full of really great things. You're lucky to be alive in this century, with so many interesting things happening. You're lucky you weren't born in some poor horrible country experiencing war. Believe me, it could be a lot worse, even if you think you couldn't possibly feel worse. You can survive this. In fact, turn it to your advantage by writing poetry or songs, or making some kind of art. All the best art and music in the world comes out of pain. Just listen to your favorite band ~ their songs aren't about happy sunny days where everything goes perfectly...am I right? Music will help you through this. Music literally saved my life when I wanted to end it. Just knowing there was ONE other person in the world who I thought understood my pain stopped me from doing it. That was 20 years ago, and when I think of all the things I would have missed if I had done it, my heart skips a beat. I am so so lucky to be alive. And you will feel that way too, some day. Just trust me.

Good luck to you. I'm sure you'll be ok.

Answer 5

Go get some new friends. You can get into some clubs that would help. I never had a lot of friends, but I started dating a guy so I never had the chance to date other guys. He and I went steady for four years, and got married. We divorced several years later. You need friends, but look for other avenues to get them, try church.. Just break out of the school friend thing, they are clicks anyway. What about if you move away, or ask for another school, that might help too. I meant if you live with the parent that moves away, maybe, even it just a mile away, to go to a different school. Good luck. The adults have to do their thing, so just go along with it and make the best of it.

Answer 6

Hi hon.. you're going through quite a lot right now.

i found some websites below for teens, on coping with divorce and the last one is about a variety of teen issues, with links to articles on their website -- including divorce, depression, etc.

sometimes it seems as if we are handed absolutely too much to deal with, doesn't it? i sure can relate, because when i was a teen, my parents were divorced, also. i had a love interest situation similar to yours, also.

i hope you will be able to take the time to check out the websites below. maybe some helpful information, or links?

perhaps if you are still having problems in a few weeks, talk to someone who you trust and respect!? If you have difficulty talking with your parents right now -- Do you have a grandparent, uncle or cousin who might take the time to listen to your concerns? or a school counselor? sometimes it helps to have someone around who will just "be there" and listen when we are in need....

l hope you get some helpful answers here and that you get through this time soonest. sending hugs.

Answer 7

whoa whoa slow down dude. You're depending on too many people. When you do that you're going to be disappointed most of the time. If you have to make a choice of parents... think about the one that helps the most keeping you going. Most moms are usually making sure their kids are dressed and have everything they need. Dads love you but you're own your own taking care of yourself. Be confident that you can take care of yourself. You will attract friends that see how well you handle yourself. There are kids out there that want to make new friends too. work on a plan of where you want your life to go. Good lives start with a good plan. If you dont have one use your extra time to make a plan changes can be made later. I know you kids have a drive inside to have a relationship but there are those times when they dont work out. If you will wait til you are old enough to have complete control of your life yourself then seek a relationship you will find one

Answer 8

WOW man this is big. i don't really know how to make u understand this, but life sometime can be so hard, that u don't even think its real. but if u got the corage to seat, and put this on the internet, and not just seat somewhere and cry about it, that means u r one strong man. believe me one day u'r gonna look back at all this, and it'll just be a bad memory. but the girl thing, please take that off ur mind, and find a way to deal with who u'r gonna live with. personaly, u can make new friends. so if living with ur mother is the best thing for u, then do it. but again be stronger, and it's gonna be ok. i'm very touched about ur story. it's gonna be ok. just believe it.

Answer 9

I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. Is it possible that you can talk to one of your counselors at school? They are free and have many resourses for you. Also, everything you tell them will be private. I think that you have so much going on at one time. It must be very hard for you to deal with all of this and make decisions on your own. Counselors will help you make wise decisions.

Also, is it possible for you to sit both of your parents down and talk with them? Let them know that both of them are very important to you and it is very hard to have to decide between the two of them. Your parents should have your best interest in mind and listen to what you have to say. This may offer you several solutions to your problem. Many teenagers don't talk to their parents and so their parents never know when they are struggling with something.

One last thing, it is better to deal with your problems head on than to let them fix themselves. Problems will never go away until you fix them. Get involved in some school activities to meet people, talk with your parents and a counselor, and know that everything can only get better!

Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 10

it's really sad, but these bad things will finally come to an end, believe me, it's not the end of the world, (though i know it's very very hard for u), but think of there's re always people's lives 10 times worse than u. (people have cancer, disabilities, homeless,etc) so compare to them, ur life's not that bad, at least u still have a computer to get online and post this question. this is how i comfort myself when i feel depressed. hope it works for u. :) best luck to u!

Answer 11

I'm sorry you have to go through all this. With all these negative details, I am sure there are postive things you can look at. You've got to stay strong and move on. If you stay sad all your life, nobody will come up to you. I hope you have faith, because after this, you will only become stronger than you ever were before.