This girl my brother dating 10 years ago emailed me on MySpace and is saying she believes one hundred percent that her daughter is my brothers. My brother has 3 1/2 children by his fiancee. He's protesting that the 9 year old his and why did the mother contact me-his sister and not find him on Myspace. I would believe him believe him but he won't even talk to the other girl when seems to be a case of protesting too much. What to do?
2007-08-16 22:38:40 · 12 answers · asked by Talon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I asked him what should I tell her and he says "Nothing, like she did for 10 years." My mom believes wholeheartedlly that it is his. I've since some recent pictures and I believe it. I don't want to have him go on national television. I'd like to keep it quiet. But it seems he just wants to sweep it under the rug. He's saying his fiancee is p.o'ed that the other girl is saying this and I get that she's upset. But if she loves my brother enough to have 3 1/2 of his children she should love any other kids that my brother has. I say this because I get the feeling he's telling her "That's not my daughter." And her probably saying, "I beieve you. Don't get a paternity test if you're sure." He's telling me the other girl is just trying to destroy his life. But I think that if he *was* sure that the girl wasn' his he would have a paternity test just to prove it. Right?
2007-08-17 00:32:40 · update #1
I think she doesn't want him to get a paternity test because she's selfish. He's been taking care of her for six years (she's been in and out of jobs and she's on welfare) If I was in the same situation I would think, "Hmm. Let's see if she *is* in fact yours then go from there." She takes everything he says at face value, I have no problem with that. However, don't claim to love him if you can't accept whatever baggage he didn't tell you about. What should I do? He thinks I'm feeding into what the other girl is saying as if I'm gullable and she's just trying to pin the girl on him. Help.
2007-08-17 00:37:46 · update #2
Tell your brother to make it easier on everyone and just get that paternity test. If he believes that child isn't his, then he has nothing to worry about. It's that simple.
How does you parents feel about this?
Maybe get them involved and see if they can talk some sense in him.
2007-08-24 22:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Dr. Laura. I think that you both need to get professional advise. I know that it is good to put questions on here and get an idea of what other people are thinking, I do it alot as well. However, this is a complex problem and hard to decifer without knowing your family. Your brother will either find it in his heart to love the child whether it is his or even not. Or, he can decide to not be involved and miss the chance of his daughter having a father if he happened to be the father. It is that simple. If he is willing to be a father even if it isn't his, then he is a great man. Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-08-23 16:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by kristen_who 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words: paternity test. Put it to rest.
2007-08-17 05:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bill F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your brother. It doesn't make sense that she is doing all of this accusing with you on MySpace, You should stop discussing your brother's life with one of his old girlfriends.
2007-08-22 21:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DNA testing will solve this problem and if the child isn't his, file harassment charges.
2007-08-21 20:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think all children have the right to no there real parents,so i think the mother she ask for an dna test of daughter n your bro.what would it hurt??good luck
2007-08-17 05:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have the girl petition the courts for a DNA test and find out if it is his
2007-08-24 06:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maury Povich or Montel Williams will straiten this out! Oh yeah....It's not mine!!
2007-08-17 05:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
paternity test
2007-08-23 20:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by <3 KaYlA X3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him to get dna and if its not his he is ok its sad she waited this long and i may not be who knows but you can find out and then he will have to decide what to do.
2007-08-22 22:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋