Family - August 2007

I am a single mom of 2.Last Christmas my brother once again made many belittling jokes at my expense non stop, which once again made me feel embarrased and not adequate.He wrestled with my kids and would not stop (once again) when I said 'no'. This time my older child said 'stop' and he didn't and she ended up biting her lip and getting hurt and crying.I had it. I told him that he needs to respect us and that I feel bullied as he makes himself superior and me less.It makes me feel bad. He did not apologize, instead he became very agressive verbally and said things like 'I have issues and he talked to the other family and they didnt' think I was bullied.I will grow old and bitter alone, if I can't get over my issues, etc' He was swearing and yelling at me.I believe that my dad and his wife took his side.Because my dad joined in when they were making fun of my ex boyfriends being overweight.And arguing with me, trying to get me to circumsize my son. Was I bullied, or do I have issues?

2007-08-18 07:03:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister in law asked me to go shopping with her to get some things for our in laws anniversary party and also help her put together a scrapbook for them. She called a few days later and told me that her and another brother in laws girlfriend and her went and picked up the things and that they were going to do the scrapbook this weekend. All of a sudden I'm not invited but, she let me know how much everything costs thinking that I was going to help pay for the things that they bought. WTF? I told her that we were going to pay for the cake and our part of the dinner and they could deal with the rest. Was that good enough or should I have gone off on her?

2007-08-18 06:26:17 · 7 answers · asked by inluvwithb 3

My grandpa died last week. My grandma live in the only 2-story house in a really bad, crime infested neighborhood. The family has voted me best choice to go live with her, but I can't do that. We also can't put her in a nursing home. So what options are there? She lives in South Bend, Indiana.


Someone that has had a similar issue, please help!

2007-08-18 06:20:41 · 4 answers · asked by x_kookoo4kokopuffs_x 4

My mom behaves in the same range or a 14 or 16 years old girl. She is focuses on my brother's "rock band" - which has on more than one occassion had to police called to our house for noise pollution (which she talks abotu how embarassing it is for having the cops come to our house afterward), and she also spends a rediculous amount of more on clothes, jewelry and purses.

I dont want to say the "roles of women", but in a marriage that started out one way...should stay similar to that way. My dad works full time in a steel factory, and my mom stayed at home taking care of kids, taking care of evertyhing in the house hold (food, clothes, ect).

My dad can't retire because he has to cover the credit card bills my mom is racking up! $250 dollars just yesterday! Nearly $2,000 two months ago. And hundreds in between.

She buys me things to buy my love? They are nice things...I dont want to take them, but she washes the clothes so they cant be returned.

Should I be angry or not?

2007-08-18 06:08:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 18, almost 19, and still trying to figure out what I want to do with my life. I was thinking about a career in anthropology or forensic science, but every time I bring it up, my parents (mostly my dad) say that since I'm not good at math, that I'll never be able to get a job like that. He always tells me I need to settle and go to trade school and work with computers or something. But, I don't want to. It feels like he wants me to settle and be unhappy with his job, just like he and my mom did. What would you do if you were in a similar situation?

2007-08-18 06:04:43 · 9 answers · asked by LivingDeadKat 4

My uncle is asking me to sign the papers for 2 families of relatives that I have never met before. My family is not very tight and I don't know anything about these people so my initial reaction is that it is a bad idea. However, my uncle is giving me crap about it being for family. Does anyone have any details on the legal aspects or any personal bad experiences of being sued by the people you sponsor or having your wages garnished if the family applies for public benefit programs? Thanks.

2007-08-18 05:33:31 · 6 answers · asked by JAK 1

Even if the father has wronged the family by gambling?



I'm asking this because of what happened to my uncle today. Due to his gambling addiction, his wife divorced him and took away his two daughters. They never again reunited.

Today, for the first time in many years, he saw his eldest daughter working at some place. He called out to her, but she ignored him and walked away.

I kinda feel bad for him now, since its like losing a child.
Should my "cousin" forgive him? Or does my uncle deserve this?

2007-08-18 05:23:40 · 12 answers · asked by attiTUDE 3

i have to tell my dad about my pregnancy because this is not planned. i'm scared and i dont know how i will tell him. the father of this baby doesnt know what to do in this situation and cant face it. i dont know what to tell my dad once he asked me about the father of my baby.

2007-08-18 04:50:31 · 4 answers · asked by mypreciousbaby 1

My boyfriend of 4yrs doesn't seem to show interest in our daughters but once in awhile he will do stuff like once in a blue moon type thing. I feel like I'm doing it all I have a 3yr old and a soon to be 1 yr old. I do the feeding,changing,bathing,bed times, playing everything once in a while he will do some of those things but I basically have to BEG for him to do anything even around the house he thinks because hes the one that works that I should do everything and I mean everything around the house I feel that being a stay at home mom is just like any other job except you never know what to expect when it comes time to parenting right? Hes always going out and when he is home hes in the bedroom doing whatever but not helping me.

2007-08-18 04:31:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My step son has had a drug problem for 2 years and I have tried everything to help him. I love him like my own son but because of all the problems it has torn my family apart. I am the "mom" or have been for 10 years. His father and birth mom have done nothing. He got caught AGAIN with drugs and he told us that the reason he does drugs is because he was molested from his uncle...
He is seeking prof. help but I am kind of not believing him...Am I out of line?

2007-08-18 04:16:23 · 3 answers · asked by sln 1

I have a 2 year old and 1 year old. I want to bring in some extra money but I don't know what to do and everytime I look its a scam of some kind. Does anybody know how I can bring in some extra money while staying at home with the kids? I don't want to watch any more kids mine are enough for me.

2007-08-18 04:03:21 · 3 answers · asked by crazy_cat_lady 4

The other day I received an angry E-mail from my son in which he accused me of handing out his E-mail to a guy named "John."

I had no idea who "John" was. It turned out that my daughter gave my son's E-mail to John's wife who had kindly sent my son some cute videos from the Internet which my son thought were for my daughter.

He was also upset that he received one of my Paypal receipts through his E-mail. This was because he moved my Paypal to his E-mail because he needs to use my Paypal account as his has no money in it.

I was really angry at my son's lack of respect for me and I responded to my son's E-mail with advice on how to better handle himself. My son deleted my E-mail without reading it.

In my E-mail, I said that when he came home, I would spend my time and go through his E-mail with him and move out anything that he no longer wanted. In doing this, I would take time off from my home business, earn less and so he could pay for his yearbook. I didn't order the yearbook

2007-08-18 03:53:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-18 03:49:06 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

im supposed to be moving to alabama in the spring , my hubby want to be near his mom who is in remission she is 56 yrs old his family is so excited we are moving, and my mom is 72 yrs old and was just diagnosed with early alzheimers disease, and i dont want to leave my mom, i need to take care of her and my hubby says i have other siblings to care for her, she needs us around her before she gets worse and i dont want to come back and visit and she doesnt know who i am , what do i do ? i told his family about my mom, and they show no concern for me or my mom, they just keep asking when are we moving there, i feel my mom's condition is a bit more important than my hubbys mom her disease is progressive, and i dont want to disapoint my hubby, he is looking foward to moving and i cant leave my mom..

2007-08-18 03:15:37 · 5 answers · asked by amy j 2

My father-in-law and his girlfreind are looking into buying the house that's up for sale right across the street from my husband and I. My husband wants him to buy that house, however I'm not too fond of it. I would feel like I'd be living with them again, and always under sirvalence (in a way), and seeing them all day everyday. My question is this, I cant quite tell them not to buy it, but how can I tell my husband that I'm not too thrilled about it. We live in a brand new devopment, and its not even done being built yet, so why couldnt they buy elsewhere in the neighborhood, just not directly across the street. Any advice? thank you so much for your responses.

2007-08-18 03:11:01 · 15 answers · asked by Haley 3

ok please read this whole thing...I love to play volleyball and I hope to play college ball. I just made varsity as a ninth grader at one of the top volleyball schools in the country. Our first game is next Saturday. My brother is in Iraq and his wife is having a baby and I promised my sister-in-law that I would be there for the birth because he won't be. The baby is due next Saturday. What do I do? If I miss this game then I'm off the team and can kiss collegeball good-bye. But it is my brother's baby and wife and i made a big promise that i can't break.

2007-08-18 02:12:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

(Love you so much if you manage to read it all)
I don't talk much to my family.And I love having few real friends to hang out with.The problem is,I'm overshadowed by my brother who's popular,in school,in my family,everywhere.My mum,dad talks about him all the time,ask me about him every day and his friends do this too.I'm not close with him and my family always compare me to him.And they even said that I'm a loner in front of everyone,everybody.I'm starting to hate everyone.I even changed schools so that I won't be in the same school with him,but it's still the same.I come home everyday to questions about him.I'm just so tired,I can't do this anymore.Help....

2007-08-18 01:53:36 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My step sister is 23 just turned. She has been with him for 9 years and he is 66 years old and has a kid 6 years old. When returning the UK I found this guy to be no good, in the news papers for conning an American out of £200.00 and in prison a few times for several things. He grows his own weed and I just don't like him. The kid is his btw. Am I right to hate this gueezer? I'm not sure how I should think or continue sending her money to help her when this same guy left her for another woman then returned 2 weeks later. She has no where else to go if she left and seems trapped and scared of this guy. Damn what would you do guys and girls? this would realy help me alot..

2007-08-18 01:53:11 · 27 answers · asked by ? 2

Money is materialistic & only serves to satisfy daily needs to sustain life. Money itself has no emtional attachment. It's people get emotional over it & over-emphased it's importance.

2007-08-17 23:54:24 · 4 answers · asked by Yahoo Kia Tat 1

I am the VII of my family name and it stops here because I don't want children. My son would have been the VIII, but I cannot support a child because I don't have the income to raise him. My income and the economy is the reason. Do you think that I am right in not bringing a child into this world is a good decision, because I cannot provide for him?

2007-08-17 23:11:42 · 7 answers · asked by Boomer 5

my mom and dad split up and my mom and I moved in w/ my gramma. i thought it would be fun, but as soon as we moved in she started trying to controll and demean me all the time. (i'm 16 by the way) she won't let me do anything (see friends, talk on the phone or get calls after 8:00, stay up past 9:00) i told my mom but it doesn't make a difference. she won't let me stay home alone because she thinks i'd steal something or something a person who makes bad decisions would do, and thats not like me at all, and she knows it.

it's really taking its toll on me (its been a year) . its a drag to wake up in the morning because i know i have to deal with her all day without my mom. i get really stressed over little things now. i have dark circles under my eyes, i can't eat more than once a day or so i'm still tired even if i sleep all day. my only means of peace from her is going to school.

What can i do to at least cope with it I tried to talk to her but she said i was being disrespectful

2007-08-17 23:06:45 · 6 answers · asked by razrxbladexcorazon 2

hi, its my mums birthday in november and i dont no what to get her, i no it seems a little earlie but i gotta start saving now! and i want to no what im saving for! lol. i always get her flowers chocs , we all go out for dinner and she gets her cake!lol shes really hard to buy for! really fussy! so im looking for something that wont fail to please! lol shel be 37. thanks for your answers! x

2007-08-17 22:55:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

used to know a girl when I was a shorty (family friends) but we never used to actually speak to each other, but I used to go play with her younger brother a lot. 20 years later I saw her while I was overseas (we now in our late 20's). We went out to dinner and theatre to catch up. She told me when we were little she didn't speak to me as she didn't know what to talk to me about. Now we get along pretty well and we talked for hours - she told me about the past and what she been upto since. when I suggested I send her something when I got back as a thank you gift, we stopped at her place and she gave me a gift to take home. She hug me goodbye.

I sent her books coz she reads and she went and told her family members. She snail mail me back to say how she enjoyed catching up with me. She sent me a magazine she was recently interviewed and photographed for about her unusual line of work.

Some advice please.

2007-08-17 22:09:54 · 1 answers · asked by tripppah 3

why do some people think that they know so much about lies they have been told when they were children? we have searched every bank and there is no money, but they fight all the time over what is not there, I am sick of it, How do I just tell them to shut up I am so tired of hearing it? and that I am hiding it from them.

2007-08-17 18:34:55 · 1 answers · asked by flannelpajamas1 4

....my life is crumbleing(at least to me)......its my mom my little brother and me....we got a notice of forclosure and have 30 days to move...well...20 now...we have no money what so ever. my little brother cant even come home from his dads house because we dotn have any food in the house (i havent eated in 3 days). where we were going to move is a townhome its a two bedroom so me or my little brother would have a room in the front room. we barely have the money for that. and at the looks of it right now we arnt going to get the place because of my moms really bad credit. she said if we dont get it we are moving to southern indiana or to south carolina to live with one of her friends. and because my little brothers dad wont let my brother go that far my mom will give my brother to his dad. just that easy. i asked her why she wont give me up at least untill she saves up money and gets her life on track becuase me and her dont have a good relationship anyways but she said no. more......

2007-08-17 17:49:36 · 3 answers · asked by Nessa 2

I have a daughter in law that I treat like gold. She is mean to me and now my son has turned on me and my husband. She is so nasty that she got into a road rage fist fight. She tells me she hates people and is very hateful. She keeps me from seeing my grandchildren and now my son is acting like her. We get along with everyone--trust me it's not us. My husband tried to talk to my son, but he brushes him off. My son is spoiled and always had a bad disposition. I love my grandchildren so much and I am heartbroken. I have friends that have similiar situations like us, but it doesn't help. Is there anyone else that goes through what I am going through?

2007-08-17 16:57:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have 4 people in my family including me and it feels as if i do everything wrong, there always angry at me. I clean the house everyday but i still get accused of being lazy??? i say to them all the work i do but they dont listen, especially my mum coz she is always right, no matta what, she wont listen to me.

Ive ended up staying in my room all the time so arguments and fights dont happen but then i get yelled at for being disrespectfull even though im doing it to keep the peace.

I always here them bitching about me (my step-father mum and sister) and it hurts.. i dont no what to do. Ive given up trying to talk to them coz they wont listen. im 17 and can move out soon but its gona be a while before i have the money to... any advice would help, thanks.

2007-08-17 16:43:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter is 26 and married with 3 toddlers. And since the time that the first child was born, anytime she does something in life that doesn't work out, she lashes out at me, pointing out that it's somehow my fault, and that every bad choise she has made in her life, seems to be all my fault.
She used to be such a sweet little girl and I feel that I was a good parent. But I must have took a wrong turn somewhere because she now has grown into a monster. Always berating and useing me to the max. Any words of wisdom?

2007-08-17 16:40:27 · 25 answers · asked by doggybag300 6

She is 20 and has a lil girl. My sister weighs about 90 pounds i can't look at her she makes me cry. She doesnt eat .All she does is spend money on drugs. and i don't know how she gets the money she doesn't have a job, so i can only think the worst what she is doing for the money!! i just need to know how to do something Because she has Robbed my mom For lots of money and Fraud!! My mom has pretty much gave up on her!! I really need help.... i don't want to lose my sister!! she has so much more to live for, like her Beautiful baby girl!! please help if you can

THanks

2007-08-17 16:15:59 · 8 answers · asked by size 0 1

i spend the night over at her house and then she came over to mine house. well we went to the beach and we are both competive and so we were having a contest on which who can build the best castle well blah blah blah she was all in my face and then we came back. we played on the computer and she was bossing me around and everything so i was like stop but she never did then she went home and gave me a dirty look.

i need help plz plz plz!!

2007-08-17 16:09:47 · 6 answers · asked by Ruthyrae 3