The other day I received an angry E-mail from my son in which he accused me of handing out his E-mail to a guy named "John."
I had no idea who "John" was. It turned out that my daughter gave my son's E-mail to John's wife who had kindly sent my son some cute videos from the Internet which my son thought were for my daughter.
He was also upset that he received one of my Paypal receipts through his E-mail. This was because he moved my Paypal to his E-mail because he needs to use my Paypal account as his has no money in it.
I was really angry at my son's lack of respect for me and I responded to my son's E-mail with advice on how to better handle himself. My son deleted my E-mail without reading it.
In my E-mail, I said that when he came home, I would spend my time and go through his E-mail with him and move out anything that he no longer wanted. In doing this, I would take time off from my home business, earn less and so he could pay for his yearbook. I didn't order the yearbook
2007-08-18 03:53:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Because my son did not read my E-mail and he deleted it, he doesn't know that he needs to order and pay for his yearbook and consequently he isn't getting one. I put a lot of thought into my E-mail and I'm not happy that it was deleted and not read. I'm tired of coddling my son and I think he may need to learn a lesson the hard way. Do you agree or disagree? I'm willing to hear all opinions.
2007-08-18 04:03:24 · update #1
He was away from home at the time he sent the e-mail.
2007-08-18 04:06:04 · update #2
Parents and children.... I`m a Russian woman, live in Russia, but here we also have the same problems with our children. I have 19 years old son, ans you cold not even imagine what problems I have with him from the time he was 14. And I understood that only love can help me to bring him up , that he is my son and I want him all the best that`s why I try to be patient to him. Now he became older and can`t understand himself why he did that or this, Of course, he is not an angel now, but he became better. Wish you all the best and and to be patient, please, don`t forget, he is your son, you are wise and he is already a teenage...
2007-08-18 04:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by April 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When I was a teenager my mother and I had a similar situation actually. I was upset that her new husband sent me an email that was actually a group email with a picture or a joke. I can't even remember what it was. I was upset and told my mom how angry I was at her. She replied and tried to explain the situation. However, as a teenager it meant nothing to me. I wanted someone to LISTEN to my concerns and act like they care (no matter how ridiculous they sounded) not to fire back with some adult mentality (though it's probably what I needed at the time).
My point here is that you should not throw it in your son's face that you are going to take time out of your day and lose money and all that. It won't matter to him. What will matter is that you are putting money before his concerns (not matter how outrageous). Yes, he was disrespectful towards you and that should be dealt with. But say just that "I don't appreciate you being disrespectful. You live in my house...." etc. Don't bring up money or you paying for his yearbook. Talk about the REAL issue at hand. That's what I wish my parents had done with me when I was a teen instead of throwing things in my face as if I was supposed to understand anything from an adult point of view. You can, however, remember what it's like to be a teen and you can level with him.
Just open the lines of communication and tell him he needs to listen to your side as well. You're the mother. Make the rules and break the barriers.
Good luck!
2007-08-18 11:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by acatisacomintogetcha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say your son was out of line. I am a teenager myself, and I would never be disrespectful over something like that. Is it that big of an inconvenience to have a few extra emails? You should definitely punish him for this. There was no reason for him to be disrespectful. If I were in your position I would take away the Paypal accnt so he can't buy things anymore, and make him apologize for what he did.
2007-08-18 11:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by AJR 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you not talk with your son? Why is he so disrespectful to you? You created this mess. If he deleted your email without reading it, you need to talk to him.
How old is John? Does he have a job? I personally wouldn't pay for anything anymore. But, I'd verbally let him know that I was not going to buy him anything because he was disrespectful.
You know, you can't buy love or respect from a child. You have to teach it.
2007-08-18 11:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by justanotherone 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The hardest thing a parent has to live with is letting their child (no matter what age) fall flat on his/her face. But, in the long run, it will do him a world of good.
You are right to stop coddling him, and let him know that there *are* consequences for his selfish actions.
If he gets mad, do *exactly* what he did to you: tune him out.
(And, I'd take him off my accounts and let him fend for himself. That'll wake him up quicker than anything I know of.)
2007-08-18 11:13:38 · answer #5 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that any mother who designs a system of communication that puts a wall between herself and her children is afraid of them. Call your son, tell him to grow up and deal. Don't expect him to care if you have to go out of your way for him, he obviously has no respect for you. Stop being a doormat and get a backbone. Tell the brat to knock it off or get cut off.
2007-08-18 11:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BEAT HIS A**.....
Yearbook means he is still in high school.....
If he lives in your house and he sent that email that means he is scared of you, he could have jus told u face to face...
he isn't too old for a whooping!!!!
2007-08-18 11:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋