mean daughter in law?

Question

I have a daughter in law that I treat like gold. She is mean to me and now my son has turned on me and my husband. She is so nasty that she got into a road rage fist fight. She tells me she hates people and is very hateful. She keeps me from seeing my grandchildren and now my son is acting like her. We get along with everyone--trust me it's not us. My husband tried to talk to my son, but he brushes him off. My son is spoiled and always had a bad disposition. I love my grandchildren so much and I am heartbroken. I have friends that have similiar situations like us, but it doesn't help. Is there anyone else that goes through what I am going through?

Answer 1

You raised a rotten asshole now you are beneficiary to ill mannered adult.

Answer 2

Daughter In Law Means

Answer 3

i'm sorry you are having this problem

you can't control who your son married.. she sounds like a regular rabble-rouser and ugly person in general. i'd just pray my grandkids didn't grow up with her attitude.

perhaps you could back off for a while and get in touch after you think some of the dust has settled? see what happens... maybe you could ask the kids afterwards if they wouldn't mind getting together.

at that time you could simply let them know you love your grandchildren and even if you have had issues in the past, you don't want to put the kids in the middle... and i'm sure they know you treat the grandchildren with love, so you can remind them of that, as well.

if your son is spoiled and always had a bad disposition, how did he get that way?

we can't expect people who are already disagreeable to be warm and friendly, even if they ARE our kids.

sending hugs and good thoughts. i hope you get some good answers and advice here. take care, ok?

Answer 4

My advice would be to not fight with her over anything because that will only separate you and your son more. Give them some time and space if you can do that it might give them time to see what life without you would be like. Since you treat them well they will give you a call when the situation calms down. It is heartbreaking when your children grow up and decide to live life the way they want to and it is not what you want for them. Sometimes we have to separate ourselves from our grown children for every ones sake I believe in the way I raised mine and have to believe even though we have our spats nothing will ever separate us for long. Sometimes if parents try to hold onto them to tight they have to fight for their right to be adults and if we can just let go then they don't have to fight us anymore. Your son loves you instead of blaming the situation all on him [even if you are not at fault at all] give him a call and apologize for what you might be doing wrong and let him know you are willing to work on your relationship to I bet he will meet you half way. I know how broken your heart is because no one can break it like your children but no one can fill it with joy like your children can either and I hope yours will be full soon.

Answer 5

hi,i am going thru something similar,just kinda different.there is some harsh judgment on here,some people ask questions for advice.if they dont like what there reading then they need not anwer,all of our proplems are different,my daughter inlaw isnt mean shes just selfish,she doesnt even want her own family coming to the baby shower im throwing her.i make sure they have what they need,xmas birthdays,etc. lately my son has been acting like her to and if we get into a dissagrement she sits there and smiles.she tryd to keep me from getting my grandaughter last week but it didnt work,i kept calling my son,til finaly he said ok come pick her up.i dont want to medel in there life but as granparents depends on what state your in we have rights.shes propally always going to be the way she is so dont let it upset you so bad,just try to be there for your grandchildren.take care ps..not everyone agrees with daisy,that was very disrespectfull.

Answer 6

I did go through this, but my son never really realized it and i just kept it to myself and after alot of time and alot of pain, my son figured it out and now i don't have to deal with this witch anymore, and life does go on, but sometimes its like it takes forever to get to that point. Good luck.

Answer 7

Do you think drugs and/or alcohol is involved? If there is someway to prove that you could call child protective services . I mean that is the only thing that makes sense to me is that they are on something. It simply doesnt make any sense

Answer 8

I cracked up at the one about does she melt if water spills on her,

Answer 9

Its hard to know what is going through her brain. Go to the courts and get grandparent rights.

Answer 10

Yeah right. You only treat your daughter-in-law like gold because your trying to get to her children or HER husband (Might I add-Her husband, NOT yours). You need to leave your son and her alone. A son leaves his father and mother and cleaves to his wife. You are acting ridiculous, controlling, and might I add annoying as hell.

You sound like you have no respect for your daughter-in-law and it shows in your comments about her.

Why don't you stop intruding or take yourself to counseling and find out what is wrong with you. Or better yet, ask your daughter in law why she would try and have a road rage fist fight with you and be prepared to hear that you are NOT perfect- because I bet 100% your not. Stop trying to get your son back. He's not yours anymore. Hes a man and probably has GREAT SEX WITH HIS WIFE. Yeah, Great mushy sex.

Go have sex with your own husband and stop being a covert incest with your son. Oh and by the way look that word up in the dictionary.
COVERT INCEST.
Thanks goodbye. Get your own life.

Let me also add....You OBVIOUSLY did something for her to hate you so much. Why don't you stop playing MISS P-E-R-F-E-C-T and be a grown woman and start being a little more respectful of your daughter-in-law and her wishes which I might add are in the best interest of her and your son's children....What did you do to piss her off grandma?

Answer 11

Does it hurt not having a spine? you need to show your son the demon he is married to. you need to take you son out for a walk, show him a picture of his wife, then show him a picture of satan and ask him to find the differences.