Father-in-law possibly buying house across the street?

Question

My father-in-law and his girlfreind are looking into buying the house that's up for sale right across the street from my husband and I. My husband wants him to buy that house, however I'm not too fond of it. I would feel like I'd be living with them again, and always under sirvalence (in a way), and seeing them all day everyday. My question is this, I cant quite tell them not to buy it, but how can I tell my husband that I'm not too thrilled about it. We live in a brand new devopment, and its not even done being built yet, so why couldnt they buy elsewhere in the neighborhood, just not directly across the street. Any advice? thank you so much for your responses.

Answer 1

That's horrible. Just tell your husband that you don't want them moving across the street and hopefully he'll convince them not to.

Answer 2

I can understand how you feel. If I were you, I wouldn't talk to the men, I would talk to the girlfriend. Maybe she isn't too thrilled to live right across the street from her in-laws either. A few choice comments about built in babysitters (you don't necessarily have to have kids right now or even ever, just make the threat) and how nice it will be to have someone right there all the time to watch your house while you guys are away for the weekend. Or simply tell her that you don't think its a great idea to have someone related right across the street that can drop in at any moment of the day or night, and that goes both ways. I'll bet she's thought about that too.

Answer 3

Its always better if you talk to your husband and tell him the truth about your feelings ..... so whatever decisions he make you are free to make comments and you will feel free to do so ....since you have told him that you dont like the idea your father in law buying a house so close to you....... e.g I Told you so.... there its your excuse for your husband .... have fun

Answer 4

you cant do much about it but you can keep your door locked. and you can tell your husband that you dont want to spend every day with them.if he feels the need to then he can go over there. also tell him if he starts to have them over and you dont have your own house to live in without someone else there all the time then he will be hurting your relationship and you hope you mean more to him then that.

Answer 5

this is a tough one and it is pretty much out of your hands.

Why not suggest to your husband that close is wonderful but too close is too close. Especially over the years. Perhaps they could buy a few houses over?

Have a heart to heart with hubby. If he agrees he could speak to his dad without causing a rift which would certainly be caused if you brought this up with them.

Answer 6

Sorry hon it is a bad idea. All you can do is try to stay away from them if they move in. There is going to have to be some rules set and followed like knocking before coming in and what not but, You might be like EVERYONE LOVES RAYMOND...the show funny on TV but, not in real life.....sorry

Answer 7

You could convince them that the house their looking at has something wrong with it, however, the house down the street is perfect.

Answer 8

Just be honest - explain how you feel...that you aren't ready to see them every day and that you need your own space where build family,but it's hard to do it when they are so close! Well,and it will be more enjoyable meet them rarely because it will be like celebration when you can have joy from their company!
Good luck - I hope all will be OK!:)

Answer 9

Your father in law has the right to live where ever he chooses just as you have that right. You don't get to have a say in where he lives.

Answer 10

I'm sorry to hear that but seems like you don't have a choice in the matter or your husband.But go ahead and tell your husband that your not happy about it and you don't want him over every single day.