my mom and dad split up and my mom and I moved in w/ my gramma. i thought it would be fun, but as soon as we moved in she started trying to controll and demean me all the time. (i'm 16 by the way) she won't let me do anything (see friends, talk on the phone or get calls after 8:00, stay up past 9:00) i told my mom but it doesn't make a difference. she won't let me stay home alone because she thinks i'd steal something or something a person who makes bad decisions would do, and thats not like me at all, and she knows it.
it's really taking its toll on me (its been a year) . its a drag to wake up in the morning because i know i have to deal with her all day without my mom. i get really stressed over little things now. i have dark circles under my eyes, i can't eat more than once a day or so i'm still tired even if i sleep all day. my only means of peace from her is going to school.
What can i do to at least cope with it I tried to talk to her but she said i was being disrespectful
2007-08-17 23:06:45 · 6 answers · asked by razrxbladexcorazon 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
p.s. its my gramma who's being mean, not my mom
2007-08-17 23:20:23 · update #1
get yourself a job, stay in school, and look into emancipation... dont let someone mess with your life.. tell her what your plans are and why. one of two things will happen, either she starts to be nice, or she gets mad about what you are doing and you still proceed on becoming an adult
2007-08-17 23:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jesse N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Granted I don't know all of what is going on, but I would suspect that obviously your mother is going through a really tough time. Her union failed and she is having to return to her parent's home in order to survive.
Everyone needs to feel like they have control over something. Even very passive people will try to control things by being passive-aggressive. I think since she has lost control of so many things lately (her husband, even her own living quarters) she is over doing it by controlling the last thing she has power over: YOU.
It is unfortunate that you are as old as you are, because things might not correct itself (ie she learns to move on) before you are old enough to move out and will damage your relationship for a long time. One day, you may understand what she was going through, but not today.
I suggest you keep focused on preparing your life for life after you move out. Get good grades (even if you don't plan on college) because some day you might want to have a better life and it is hard to overcome failing out of High School.
2007-08-18 06:21:15 · answer #2 · answered by thebuffettour 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start yelling and let your feelings be known to both your mom and your Grandma. It's difficult for you to be controlled like you're 5 years old rather than like a 16 year old. So tell them whether they like it or not.
2007-08-18 06:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Andee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you should do...Pray to God...without Him, you're explanations will be nothing....after you pray...focus and plan on what will you say...God will guide you...I will pray for you too...after that...ask her in a peaceful way to have a conversation...try to get her feelings on what you have planned to say...let God guide your heart and your mouth...oh! I forgot...before you talk to her...make your face a little bit...you know...scared, frustrated, sad...so she knows that you are confessing....lol...
Good luck...don't forget the first step ok?may God guide you...I'll tell my friends to pray for you too...remember...God is always there beside you....sorry for my poor English
2007-08-18 06:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by aaron 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it's not your fault your parents split up and you live with her. Tell her to take her anger out on someone else, you're innocent.
2007-08-18 07:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
couldn't you talk about it to your mom, and ask her to talk to your nan. or even ask your mom to be there when you talk to your nan. write her a letter explaining how you feel. hope you sort it out, sorry it sounded like it was your mom, being like it. good luck
2007-08-18 06:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋