here's where im gonna start ....
my brother(20) has a girlfriend(18) and they are VERY VERY happy together. they always have fun and include me in most stuff .... so she is like my older sister already. they have been together for 2 years, almost 3 now. before they started going out, my brother used to stay at home most of the time, in his room. he was never really social, but he was never really a turtle, eether. he wasn't depressed or anything, but when they started going out, he has been more outgoing, fun, and the happiest he has ever been . they rarely ever fight, but sometimes my brother takes things a bit too serious .
*problem*
about 15 minutes ago i overheard (I WAS NOT EAVESDROPPING) them talking on the phone (well my brothers side, atleast). they were argueing about how my brother doesnt show that she is hjis everything and how she doesnt say the right things at certain points. it got into a big arguement and i was crying when i was listening
2007-08-16 17:42:41 · 12 answers · asked by drama_x0x_queen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
they didnt talk about breaking up, but they sounded bad . i am COMPLETELY devistated !!! they are PERFECT for eachother !!! since she made him s0o happy ... i DO NOTTTT wanna c him sad . ='[ i cant STAND seeing eether of my brothers sad. i know i cant stop the break up (if it happens) ,, but can you help me cope with the sadness ? ... please ?
2007-08-16 17:44:17 · update #1
i dont think some of you understand ... i KNOW how my brother will feel if he loses her ; miserable . it would literally BREAK MY HEART to see him like that . i AM taking care of myself . but i know ill have to help him through it, too . i know i HAVE to . he tries so hard to make me happy, that i have to do my part, too. how do i cope ? and help cheer him up if they do break up (knock on wood) ?
2007-08-16 18:13:13 · update #2
well, the thing is if they break up, he has to deal with his loss, and this isn't where you come in. you may be able to occupy his mind, but you can't make him get over it. he has to take his own time, choose his own actions, and move at his own pace. there is nothing you can do but be there for him.
the fact that they had a fight does not mean that they will break up. even the best relationships between the best people hit a little rocky ground every now and then. it is time to find out where they differ and where they want to be the same. they have to find that common ground, remember why they love each other, and move forward. this is up to them, but I had been through this same thing a while back, and it was a major thing in our relationship. but we're better for it now because we know what we were missing. don't worry about your brother's relationship. they'll either get through it, or they'll move on. all you can do is offer your brother support, and let him know you care.
2007-08-17 01:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you really like them together and that you know he will be seriously hurt if they break up. Unfortunately, you can not help your brother cope with the argument. Somethings in life are about growing and learning to cope with the "harder" situations of life. Your brother needs to grow as a person and learn to deal with things on his own without the assistance of others. Besides, couples are bound to argue and even break up every once in a while..there's nothing you can do to prevent that especially since its not your relationship. You can just be an awesome supportive sister(which I know you are) and be there for him if he needs to vent or cry it out. Just know that even if they do break up its not the end of the world and that he will move on with life. We all do. We have all had our first relationships and loves and moved on (unless they got married or are still together) and it has made us stronger because of it. Just sit back and watch..more than likely they will sort it out. Never get involved.
2007-08-17 13:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by amasmomma05 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aw, I wish you were my baby sister. Does your brother know what a great baby sister he has? And what a cool big brother to include you on his dates.
You will miss him when he gets married. You may even get mad at him. Watch your emotions and be careful about how you act when it happens. You will be happy for him, but your fear of loneliness may cause you to behave in ways you may wish you hadnt. Even if you do, dont be too hard on yourself. You will soon adjust. If you become an aunt, be the coolest, most loving aunt in the world. its worth it.
The reason Im saying this is because my adolescence was almost a mirror of yours, but that was back in the days of the Flintstones, the real Flintstones when everyone lived in a cave and listened to Gilbert O'Sullivan on their Pterodactyl-afone.
Good luck. You sound like a great kid.
2007-08-17 01:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know you overheard them, but just let whatever happens, happen. If they break up, ask if you can still see the girlfriend to take you shopping and stuff. And your brother may be happier without her. Im sorry to hear that happened btw... Good Luck!
2007-08-17 00:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of couples fight or have disagreements. This does not necessarily mean they will break up.
At least they are discussing it so maybe they want to work it out. Don't give up hope AND don't get involved.
2007-08-17 00:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by crazylady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
calm down, its going to be ok. if they truely love each other, they will work it out, these are called arguements, and are ment to help with tension, and they bring people together when the situation is resolved.
tell ur brother how you feel, and talk to him!
2007-08-17 00:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being perfect for each other doesn't mean they are perfect. Wait it out. If they are truly perfect for each other, they will find a way to meet each other's needs.
2007-08-17 01:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
couples argue sometimes, it can't be helped.
sometimes good things come of arguments -- like a better understanding of each other.
i hope it blows over.. i'm sure they will be fine in a day or two.
take care of YOU !!
2007-08-17 00:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats life. He'll get over it. Besides you don't know the whole situation. I'm sure it'll all work out.
2007-08-17 00:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by D.Z. Carter 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's his relationship, let him deal with it himself.
2007-08-17 00:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by Phoebe Finch 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋