She is more civil to me than anything. She will come to visit when she need's something, money, sitter, etc. She will say things like, I want to go to the movies, but have no one to go with, and I'm sitting right there. I buy her gifts, I went to Europe a few weeks ago, and bought her very nice gifts. I was there for her when she got fired from her job by her manager, and guess who she is going to the movies with on Friday, this same person who got her fired! One night I mentioned that I wanted to go out, she was going out, and didnt even ask if I wanted to come along. I am very family oriented, I put family first. At first I felt hurt, but now I want to shut her out of my life, and teach her a lesson so to speak. There is a 3 year age difference between us, and are next door neighbors. Do I stop trying to get close to her and stop wasting my time?
2007-08-16 12:41:13 · 4 answers · asked by lady29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have you tried inviting her to go somewhere with you? Why are you waiting for her to ask? Quit hinting and ask. Then if she rejects you rewrite this question.
2007-08-16 13:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you are feeling used,and that you are very upset that the only time she comes around is if she needs something.Dont just shut her out but dont give into to her every time she needs something.She sounds very selfish.Dont let her get to you.I have a few of them kind in my family also.
2007-08-16 20:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by flavagirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her about it first, and if things are still the same then make some changes.
2007-08-16 19:48:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds very selfish. quit banging your head against the wall trying to get close when she doesn't want it. you can't change the way she is. just try to let it go and hopefully,someday, she'll realize just how important her family is.
2007-08-16 19:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋