Family - August 2007

It is a general accepted opinion that women will never get along with their mothers in law. I personaly have a pretty good relation wuth mine, we talk very much, we spend time together, we do thinks together. She always says that I am her douther, but sometimes I feel that something is keeping her to open her hart to me and that I will ever be the douther...."in law"

2007-08-15 23:09:38 · 22 answers · asked by Andra 2

If you knew that a boy, or young man had been molesting his own siblings, who would you tell? And if you did tell, and then everything is swept under the rug, and everyone goes into denial, what would you do, if you knew that the boy, young man, really needed counseling but wasn't getting it?

2007-08-15 22:24:09 · 22 answers · asked by binthairdunthat 2

..does that mean chances are you'll never really get along?

we have our differences.. she's everything I try not to be.. but everything I am becoming!!

2007-08-15 21:55:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

At what age is it appropriate for me to reveal to my son, if he asks the question as to why mommy and daddy no longer live together, that his mother while we were married cheated on me? He's four now.

I told my ex that if my son would ask the question I wasn't going to withhold the truth from him, but someone has cautioned me against that.

Please be advised that my relationship with my ex is amicable, and I have no hard feelings as a result of what's she did in the past. But history cannot be erased or ignored. Therefore my inclination is to divulge to my son what his mother did. I just know is coming as he is very inquisitive and very intuitive.

I am torn cuz part of me says to go ahead and reveal, but the other part says to refrain. Which side is right.

What would you do?

2007-08-15 17:02:10 · 5 answers · asked by ahe03 1

my mil lives with her sister..my stepson moved in her house..she pays all the bills including his cell bill. he pays child support and gets his child twicw a month..me and my husband live next door. we keep up both homes litterally..he does nothing but drink and drug..while his child is with him...he does not listen to a thing that we say. when hes not at work he is on his motorcycle. my mother in law will not put him out...we've tried. any solultions..anyone????? we are all upside down since he moved in.

2007-08-15 16:56:12 · 6 answers · asked by princesswhitepaw 3

Ok I have a friend that was my past college teacher and we have become closer friends over the past few months through email. She just had a baby and I would have never ever thought... but she asked me to come over and see her and her new baby at her house. She also emailed me in the middle of the night after feeding her newborn and told me she just wanted to ask me if I could come over because she was thinking about me. She is a great person and so nice and I really look up to her but I never would have thought she would invite me to her house... So do you think she cares/loves me as a FRIEND?? What do you think??? Oh yea and I am going to see her!

2007-08-15 16:46:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Mom is the guilt trip queen. She guilt trips me about not comign to visit her often, and my plans to move four states away. (1) she always put men before my brother and I (2) no showed at my wedding she says because her new husband instigated a fight with her and convinced her not to go (3) I finally forgave her and am civil and invited her to my husband's military retirement ceremony which also invloves me (sort of a second chance thing to bond) She sent us a gift 4 months before saying in case you couldn't make it... Guess what she made an excuse and didn't. (4) She started a war with her brother's/ sisters built a privacy fence between her house and theirs pissed them off then left the house to rot which was the home I grew up in. (5) expects me to call the home she shacked up in with her husband instead of my wedding my home. I am tired, going to school and working full time. Does she need to pull her head out of her *** or what? They have not once visited us.

2007-08-15 16:45:30 · 5 answers · asked by TennesseeGirl 2

Ok I'm almost 13 and my brother just turned 9.I love him so much and would do anything for him.But we always fight.I hate fighting with him but I can't help it.I know every kid says they started it.But no he usally does.Almost all the time.And I hate fighting with him he tells me he hates me and I'm the worst sister he could ever have.I never tell him I hate him or he is the worst brother because I would feel really bad.But I don't know what to do help!

2007-08-15 16:43:10 · 3 answers · asked by charlee 1

I have been recently widowed and as I do not have any children too, I feel very lonely and depressed. I am 51 years old. My sisters are supportive but I still miss my husband. Can anyone help?

2007-08-15 16:28:18 · 27 answers · asked by shameem356 1

I loved my mother to DEATH!

2007-08-15 15:50:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

my dad is terrible.
it is not just sometimes but every day- every minute.
he is a single dad raising 2 girls that play sports
yeah i feel his pain or whatever.
but here is the thing-
i am 15.
for as long as i can remember i have done these:
i clean the whole house without anyone asking
i do all the laundry
i mow lawns and do all yard work
i get basically all my meals on my own
4.0 student, varsity player, get in no trouble at all
i get no respect/ trust at all
i can barely hang out with any of my friends- like 1 time per month- because he says i am gone "every night" even though i just get out that one time every month.
how do i make him realize that i can be trusted?
why wont he ever let my do anything without having a leash around my neck? (not literally)

2007-08-15 15:41:40 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is sweet and caring, as long as his family is out of the way, but everytime his family is around he changes, he mostly ignores me and when they came visiting and we plan a family getaway to any place he go without me, even when I'm already dress up and are ready with all to go,as I close the house, etc. he "forget" I wasn't in the car yet,so he live without me, or as today I went to the gym while he came back from job, call him to check if was coming and we where going to do something, but he told me he was busy and call me later, so I went to the gym (upper floor from our apt.) for 35 minutes, when I came back, he had pick his family and go to a mall for a coffe, He didn't care to tell me or wait, not even invite me, he just live without me knowing that I'm most than addict to Starbucks and will love to go too. I'm so mad, can't understand, why he is like that only when his family is around.
What can I do? I'm not like that when my family visits me, so why he do it?

2007-08-15 15:28:53 · 9 answers · asked by California 4

he has a 5 year old daughter by a former girlfriend, and has moved into my mother in law's house, which is right next door to me. his grandmother still has him on the "titty" and he is almost 30 years old. me and my husband have helped him and his daughter but things seem to get worse, the more we help the less he cares. he also has us feeding his child twice a month when she comes to visit..he pays her no mind, he goes and picks her up and brings her here and drops her out...any one have any suggestions????

2007-08-15 15:04:55 · 16 answers · asked by princesswhitepaw 3

AHHHHH It was the only time i actually FORGOT to lock the door, and my dad walked in on me showering and he saw my boobs and everything and now i can't even look at him! What do i do??????

2007-08-15 14:34:32 · 40 answers · asked by .:Riku's homegirl:. 4

my boys are 11 and 12 and seem to fight all the time! What can i do to stop this?

2007-08-15 14:29:25 · 9 answers · asked by frustrated 1

I want a white boy. Thanks. no stupid awnsers please!

2007-08-15 13:38:42 · 7 answers · asked by sweetrgirl789 1

My 72 year old father still works half time at his restaurant as head chef. He is a very kind and gentle man. He is very kind to the grandkids. I am worried about him because he is old, and I don't want anything bad to happen to him..... He can still talk and walk and taste, touch, see, etc. The bad part is he smokes and drinks a lot. When should I start seeing signs that let me know that ....death is near? And when should he retire? And how should I get over it? How did you get over it? How will it affect everyone? How did it affect everyone for you? I am sick of thinking about his death, how should I get it out of my mind? How did you? Thanks

2007-08-15 13:33:20 · 12 answers · asked by Nick B. 3

I am so stressed right now. My fiance and I have to be out of our apartment by August 30th and have nowhere to go. He just got fired from his job and I'm barely working right now (I'm 16 weeks pregnant and spend most days sick and throwing up). We barely have any money in the account and our very-religious relatives refuse to let us stay w/ them because we're not married yet. We tried to get an apartment but don't have enough money or credit and have nobody to co-sign. Any advice? What would you do? Please only serious answers!

2007-08-15 13:24:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

It gets to the piont when i want to scream and my dad brother and sister are all pigs so i have to cean up after them i make absoulutley no mess that's visible and theirs is EVERYWHERE it makes me feel like the freak'n MAID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my borther is 8 and has autism (which has hardly any effect on not cleaning up after ur self) and my sister is 5 and thwey leave their toys everywhere and i trip over them my mom cant pick up their toys (which she shouldn't anyway) becaus she has a bad back. i need help to get my parents to help me throw away the maids costume before i lose control help me plz plz plz!

2007-08-15 13:22:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I WILL BE BACK? HA HA

2007-08-15 13:19:00 · 10 answers · asked by colin050659 6

my mom yells at me alot...

-she would always say.."im always trying to please you but i cant please everyone" (mad yelling voice...she whould turn around and say) "its her f**king fault...she is a stupiid son of a b-tch"

or

-"you need to clean up you dam- mess because me and my boyfriend are tired of cleaning up after you" (which was basically me on my laptop eating... i had no mess...i was just eating..)

or

"why the h-ell dont you want to go on the boat...are you scared?" (loud yelling...and cussing...)

this:

"there is no g--dam ants in the food! so eat it" (there is ants in the food and to anyone who wants to kno i will prove it!....!!)

and....

"if you dont help put the tent up i will slap you"

she gives me this look like "i want to kill you" look.

my mom doesnt support me any:

she says i'll never be in a band and i will have to get a real job and stay in ohio...

she always yells "you better be nice to xx(herbf) and xx (my dads gf)"

2007-08-15 12:54:17 · 5 answers · asked by ZawadiSacrilege 3

I can't bring myself to. I am an only child and am stuck between the love I feel for each parent. Also, I am disabled so I am limited with what I can do. They have help come in but its me Mom wants there. Does anyone have any ideas for me? Thank you in advance.

2007-08-15 12:44:22 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-15 12:31:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hello, My story is a little complex and I would like some advice on what you guys out there would do...

My dad has been running a successful business abroad whilst my mother and I having been living in the US. I used to see my dad every couple of months when he used to come over for a visit then he used to return to continue running it. ( they're not separated)

Just before I was born my mum came back to the US so I get a good education/health and we would return back. The thing is we didnt go back, we stayed and I lived pretty much all my life here (Im 20 now) and my dad was out there. Now, for the past year, my parents have asked me to make a decision on what I would like to do, should we sell the business (doing really well) or make a living here?

Now the thing is my social life is here (friends etc) and I havnt lived abroad at all. I dont really know many people out there apart from family. There are so many factors; facilites/services, my future (done bsc), social life?

2007-08-15 12:17:37 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, my brother is leaving for college next week and he's going to be living at college. So I share a room with my sister and I've never had my own room and I want my own so badly. While he's gone there's going to be a vacant room, but the problem is my mom and my brother are too selfish and stubborn to let me take the room while he's gone. We'll they'll let me sleep in it, but that's it. But also my sister is younger and doesn't care about sleeping somewhere else but even if i had my room to myself, there would still be an extra bed taking up space. My room is very small and cluttered. I've made proposals to move to the basement and set up my own room down there or have a fouton in my room instead of an extra bed, so that way it's like having a couch in your room. BUT my mom won't let me do any of that. Does anyone have any ideas of how i can get my mom to let me have my own space or how to make sharing a room more tolerable?

2007-08-15 12:14:04 · 6 answers · asked by Shanny 2

i just moved to live with my dad, stepmom, and little brother. i have lived with my mom for 14 years and really wanted to live with my dad. my mom had bought me a new laptop so that i could take it with me for school and to keep intouch with friends. the day before i moved, she made me give it back to her. 2 weeks after i moved, i talked her into mailing me the computer (thats how im posting this). now my dad got a call from his lawier saying that my mom sais that my dad must pay for the computer, or i have to send it back. why would a mother give her son a gift for the sole intentions of school and friends and then threaten to take it back if the father didnt pay for it? and what should i do? should i call her and talk to her about it or should i keep quiet?

2007-08-15 11:18:56 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

know some of u read about my cousin losing his bladder and bowel control in a car accident do u think i should treat him like a baby he seems like he likes it

2007-08-15 10:42:35 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Step sister is coming over next week. She, her sister and mum have this nasty thing between them...they take things from eachother with out asking. I've never played their childish game and some how they think that they can do it to me as well.

She'll be leaving in the morning (lives 2 hours away) and may want to shower here since she feels like it can save her time getting ready here instead of her house....that's when I can see this nasty thing happen (taking things: make-up, jewlery, parfume, clothes).

Should I just put my things away so I won't have to babysit her every move? Or how should I put my foot down ahead of time?

We do have two bathrooms...should I have her use the guest bathroom and not MY bathroom....if this were to happen?...I rather not have her use any at all....she should just come to my house ready!!!

2007-08-15 10:24:36 · 24 answers · asked by Judah's Mommy 2

I`ve never agreed with children not seeing their dads but now I find I am one of those people in the situation where I know my daughter is going to get hurt.. her dad and I split before I found out I was pregnant as I had enough of the mental and phicical abuse. He is a well known drug taker and many people have said he sells them again as he stopped when I met him. She was born 10wks early and he said he was too tired to see her as he`d been out down the pub the night before, even though she was in a bad way. He harrasses me, phones my family at all hours and when I have given him the chance to see her many times her he hasn`t turned up so i have given up with it but now I am made to be the ***** by his family. Pls help on this one.

2007-08-15 09:15:10 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you know any depression websites? My mother is leaving, my dad just lost one of his jobs (so now all we have is 28,000 dollars a year), and we can't afford the rent, so we are moving into a cheaper place. To knock it all off, our car isn't working that well lately (it is old). Also, I'm not that popular at school, and I get teased a lot. We barely have enough money to pay for everything, and pretty much can never afford other stuff (clothing). This computer is our most prized possession, and even this is old (8 years). Thanks.

2007-08-15 08:59:30 · 17 answers · asked by Jane 2