know some of u read about my cousin losing his bladder and bowel control in a car accident do u think i should treat him like a baby he seems like he likes it
2007-08-15 10:42:35 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you think thats best but you do not have to treat him like a baby you can just be nice to him and help him out arond the house.
2007-08-20 06:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by KkGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!. i dont think that you should. Loosing your blatter and bowel control is just smoething that happens, it isnt something that should be made fun or or be treated likea baby, he was in an accident which thanks fully he is alive,
He might like being treated likea baby cause it is attention (negative)
he gets what he wants
it may even make him feel accepted for what he did by wanting that. it wont help any matter it will only make things worse. he'll become a spoiled person and then there is another problem to deal with.
If he has bladder troubles then maybe see if his doctor can o anything to help him and or get underware that will help out, but dont go to drastic measures. Ask him what he wants and needs.
Good luck
2007-08-23 10:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by jams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't I have a child with a disability and I believe you should make some exceptions regarding his predicament but you should treat him according to his age and also his mentality eg; my son has the intellectual ability of a 12-18 months and he is 7 now in his case i cannot teach him maths for example because his mind wont allow him to go that far, but i do treat him as a 7 year old example to go to the toilet not nappies ect.
2007-08-19 23:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Losing your bowels and bladder as a result of an accident is normal and has nothing to do with his maturity levels.
I think you should be grateful your cousin is alive and well and thank God for that.
2007-08-15 10:54:06 · answer #4 · answered by Stefka 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should NOT treat him like a baby. if he can care for himself, then make him do so. here's why: I have a son who has cerebral palsy. everyone does things for him that he can do himself. now, he looks to me like I should dress him, put his shoes on him, give him the answer to his homework. I know what my son is capable of doing. if I do the things for him that he can do himself, I cripple him. I don't teach him to be self-sufficient. and I won't have a man when I'm done, but a baby I will have to care for for the rest of his life. don't make him a statistic. don't do for him what he can do himself because you are enabling him to feel the victim. I'm sure he's a victim in some way after a car wreck, but he should want to do for himself. does he have any aspirations? anything he wants to do with his life? why help him to sit at home and expect everyone to wait on him hand and foot if there are things he can do himself? if you think about it in these terms, in the things you'll be doing for him daily that he could be doing himself, the time you will spend doing for him, the effort, the exhaustion, then you would realize that you don't want to start a cycle you will have to pay hell to get out of. make him do what he can, and help with what he isn't able to. in the end, he'll appreciate it more.
2007-08-20 15:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you can't treat your cousin like that think of it from his point of view. I mean how would you feel if that was you and your cousin started treating you like a baby just be like how you were before he had his accident, Take care
2007-08-22 06:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by VICTORIA M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your story..is this keeping him from being in the "world"? Are you keeping him from growing up? If doing this is keeping him from facing all these things then you should stop treating him like a baby..yes, he likes it..most all guys/men do, but that doesn't help him in the long run..what if there were no one there..he would have to find friends and they probably wouldn't treat him like that.
2007-08-23 08:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by akney57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not treat him like a baby because he is not a baby. Where are his parents? I know he's your cousin, but do you guys live together? I think there should be some type of intervention here. He will like it as long as you treat him like one. the choice is yours. Good luck.
2007-08-21 13:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i dont think you should even if he likes it,life goes on, and ppl tend to take advantage of special treatment, like my little brother injured his brain on a atv, part of his brain that controls his feelings and emotions has been damaged, seems as if my mom catered to all his unusual behavior,tantrums..ect all she says is he has a brain injury, but she doesnt here me out when i say "that still doesnt make it ok for him to do and say inappropriate things, the world doesnt care that he has a brain injury he still has to present himself in a decent manner"and he thinks he can say and do what he wants to ppl, and i think my mom has alot to do with that, becuase she babyed him and treated him as if he was a 2yr old who didnt know any better, ect it is ok for you to be nice to him but at the same time you must teach him to be strong and to not use what happend to him as a crutch or an excuse. teach him its ok to be different because when all are in our own way. teach him to not let this get him down and to strive to do and be the best he can be, and tell him it is a blessing from a bove that hes still here, and let him know you greatful hes still here
2007-08-15 11:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't treat your cousin like a baby, I think he needs to be seen by a doctor and wonder if he has ever been seen by one! I don't think this is something that he can control !
2007-08-21 13:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋