What to do about husband family problem?

Question

My husband is sweet and caring, as long as his family is out of the way, but everytime his family is around he changes, he mostly ignores me and when they came visiting and we plan a family getaway to any place he go without me, even when I'm already dress up and are ready with all to go,as I close the house, etc. he "forget" I wasn't in the car yet,so he live without me, or as today I went to the gym while he came back from job, call him to check if was coming and we where going to do something, but he told me he was busy and call me later, so I went to the gym (upper floor from our apt.) for 35 minutes, when I came back, he had pick his family and go to a mall for a coffe, He didn't care to tell me or wait, not even invite me, he just live without me knowing that I'm most than addict to Starbucks and will love to go too. I'm so mad, can't understand, why he is like that only when his family is around.
What can I do? I'm not like that when my family visits me, so why he do it?

We already talk, he say sorry, but always keep doing it again.

Answer 1

Give him his own medicine and go out with your family and forget his *** at home. You tell him that unless he starts inviting you along with his family your going to invite yourself and just start showing up, he will get the hint.

Answer 2

women, put your foot down! u should tell him that u r not like that with him, ask him if his family likes u or not. if yes, then the next time he does that, leave the house for 2 to 3 hours and hided your important things so he thinks u left.leaving a note that u left cuz he doesn`t stop ignoring u after he said he wouldn`t several times. then come back and sit him down.if he sais that his family doesn`t like u, then tell him that if doesn`t treat u equally just cuz of his family, then do the same to him until he can`t take it then talk it out. another thing that can help is getting atleast 1 or 2 days off a month to spend with him, ONLY HIM, the whole twenty four hours. if nothing works, then (no affence, only advice) Take couples therapy.

Answer 3

It's possible that one of his family members doesn't like you for some reason, and instead of being a man about it, he's decided to try to hide from the problem (and you.) I would talk to him about it, give him a chance to explain his behavior (not JUST appologize), but then you MUST put your foot down. Let him know that you have no problem with him having alone time with his family members, but he will not just ditch you like that. Let him know it is hurtful, disrespectful, and you will not tolerate it. And if he does it again, let him come home to find his all his junk on the lawn, and some changed locks.

Answer 4

WOW! I can't believe you have allowed him to do this to you more than once! How RUDE!!

I have NO idea why he is doing this, but you need to sit him down and have a heart to heart talk and get him to tell you what's up! If he can't give you a reasonable answer, than tell him he might want to think about finding someone else to disrespect because you are DONE with it. This is unacceptable behavior, and you need to make it clear to him how much it hurts.

Answer 5

Has he ever admitted to this as a pattern? Tell him that marriage means to promise to put your spouse first. Give him the chance to say if the family is doing this or not. Ask him if he wants to work out this problem by talking to his family himself or does he want you to talk to the family too. By asking him to make a choice about how to solve the problem you let hm know that he must solve it or you will talk to them yourself. If your family understands and they are fair, talk to them for support.

Answer 6

That is tottally rude. You MUST sit down with him and tell him that when he leaves without you like that it makes you feel ______. (fill in the blank) A man is supposed to leave his family and become one with his wife. He is not worth the energy to write this letter. Don't be a doormat to him. Women deserve BETTER than that. YOU ARE #1.

Answer 7

his family may not like you and that may be the reason why he is doing it they dont wont you to go and i would set down and talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel when he leaves you behind and that you dont act that way when youre family is around so why does he ! he needs to respect you more than that consider youre feelings first i wish you good luck and true happiness in life

Answer 8

it's time to have a communique with Peter. There are 2 human beings in this marriage, basically one is Peter. So perhaps it's time to tackle existence plans, his and yours. What does he assume for a fashion forward for the two one in each of you, the place to stay, what do do, while to retire, a thank you to retire, the place, etc. What are your techniques relating to the way forward for the two one in each of you? talk approximately it. sounds like he does not have a kinfolk or if he does, he's not linked to them. He could sense like an interloper, for in spite of reason. it must be that in case you talk along with your little ones, your sister, and the remainder of your loved ones, they could initiate making a factor of which incorporate Peter of their lives. call him on social accumulating, ask his advice, ask him for help, incorporate him of their lives. Make Peter sense he's a component of the nuclear kinfolk. you may look into Peter's kinfolk and notice in case you may get them in touch additionally. yet attempt getting your loved ones to contain Peter. and attempt speaking with him approximately what he sees interior the destiny for the two one in each of you. stable success.

Answer 9

He is ashamed of you around his family. Hate to break this to you but he doesnt love you.