..does that mean chances are you'll never really get along?
we have our differences.. she's everything I try not to be.. but everything I am becoming!!
2007-08-15 21:55:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ohhh dear - I have this from the other side (I'm the Mum!) We have clashed badly since my daughter was about 13 and it seems to get worse as she gets older. Friends tell me that she will come round in time - I'm still waiting to see!
Good luck - its horrid being on this side as well!
2007-08-15 22:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sal*UK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. Nineteen is a cruel age of discovery, high emotion and way too much drama. I truly believe it is something that just comes with time and experiences. Try to be kind, clear in your thoughts and don't say things that could hurt. My daughter is 18 and heaven knows we are alike... it has caused some major matches between us, she sees the commonalities and at times hates them. We acknowledge the fact that we are similar, hell nature (genetics) and nuture (being with each other) make it likely that we do have these similarities. Your need to not be like her is a stretching of your need for independence and recognition that you are your own person with your own rights, choices and life. Your mom probably see the similarities as warnings, I did. I don't want her to make some of the choices I did, I want her to have the best of life and I think with age and experience I see the road clearer. Neither of what you both are feeling is wrong and no, one day I think you will find a good relationship. Think about it, you wrote to ask this question, your concern is that you won't ever get along and if you are like her, she worries too. You will be fine but talk or write it if it is easier and let her know sometimes what you are thinking. Be kind and find your distance as peacefully as possible. My very independent daughter, who is living own her own now, and I are truly friends...she isn't everything I want her to be yet and of course that is true she is only 18, but she is getting there and truly it is her safety, health and happiness that I hope for.
2007-08-15 22:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll get along much better after you move out. Well, after she forgives you for moving out. My mum didn't talk to me for three months after I moved out. I didn't tell her in a nice way. Whatever that might have been. How does the first to fly the coop find a nice way?
I guess I'll be just as bad when mine move out :) It's a mother thing, I guess.
2007-08-15 22:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you get older, you'll begin to see the wisdom in her. And only you have the ability to change the things in yourself that remind you of her.
It's your choice. Do the hard work and change, or sit back and become your mother.
2007-08-19 16:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes not everyone's mom can be their bestfriend. For example, my mom and my grandma, until now my mom had passed away my grandma still won't forgive her of being a 'disgrace' to the family for marrying a foreigner...sign...and she hates me too...
2007-08-15 22:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by tastesofheaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end she is your mother. try to find a intersection point .
Try not change her and ask her not to try to change you.
Find a way to minimize your conflicts
2007-08-15 22:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by stranger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋