i just moved to live with my dad, stepmom, and little brother. i have lived with my mom for 14 years and really wanted to live with my dad. my mom had bought me a new laptop so that i could take it with me for school and to keep intouch with friends. the day before i moved, she made me give it back to her. 2 weeks after i moved, i talked her into mailing me the computer (thats how im posting this). now my dad got a call from his lawier saying that my mom sais that my dad must pay for the computer, or i have to send it back. why would a mother give her son a gift for the sole intentions of school and friends and then threaten to take it back if the father didnt pay for it? and what should i do? should i call her and talk to her about it or should i keep quiet?
2007-08-15 11:18:56 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's natural to want to get to know your Dad. So, don't let anything you read here (from me or anyone else) feel guilty.
Divorce is never easy-for anyone involved. Your mom may think that she got less than she deserved-and what she does have (namely, you) is now being taken away. It isn't fair for either of your parents to involve you, but sometimes, that's the way it happens.
Keeping in mind that nothing here is your fault, call your mom, and try to express how you feel. You want to get to know your Dad and your brother better...and you'll still visit her. Explain how important it is for someone your age to have a computer to use. If she still won't give in, maybe your dad will pay for it, get you another one, or work out some kind of compromise, with each or them paying for part of it.
In short, there is more going on here than the price of a computer. It's not fair for them to use this, for something you know nothing about-but it's being done. Just keep loving both your parents. At worst, if you have no computer by the time school starts, maybe a teacher or the principal can talk to your father. Your education shouldn't be allowed to suffer-and that's something that your parents will agree about.
I really wish you the best.
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2007-08-15 12:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by Levone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on and off parents, divorced have bad feelings and take it out on their children.. talk with your mom.. and for best sake send the laptop back. it will save your dad the court date.. and maybe get across to your mom that her actions are hurting you!
Ask your dad if he has a lawyer.. im sure he prolly has talked to one.. see if the lawyer thinks you should write a letter as to the situation.. ie it was a gift.. for school and then she took it.. and returned it.. now wants it paid for or returned.
I hope she realizes that you just want to know your father better.. and that by doing this and other things like this, she is hurting you and i hope she doesnt ruin your view of her...
Good Luck!
2007-08-15 11:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by jeselynn_81 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom is using you as a way of getting back at your dad, a childish immature thing to do, but not all that unusual either. Spurned women have been known to do such things.
If he is able, I would bet your dad will pay for the laptop. If he is not able to afford it, he will tell you so. And if necessary, you may have to return it to your mom so she can get her refund. I would also talk with your mom and tell her that you dont appreciate being put in the middle like this, and in the future, dont give you things she expects others to pay for.
2007-08-15 11:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by handymanmike 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow are you saying that if your Dad does not pay for it she will take it from you?
Just talk to her.
Maybe she is hurt that after 14 years you chose to go to your father..
2007-08-15 11:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
could your mom have hurt feelings about you moving in with your dad? not that it makes what she did okay but, it would explain things. i'd talk to her about this. maybe you can make her realize that she's hurting you.
2007-08-15 11:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you need to talk to your mom cuz this has nothing to do with the computer ether she is mad at you for moving out or she is mad at your father and trying to get back at him with this story talk to your mom i think you owe her that she is still your mom and she still loves you trust me
2007-08-15 11:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋