It is a general accepted opinion that women will never get along with their mothers in law. I personaly have a pretty good relation wuth mine, we talk very much, we spend time together, we do thinks together. She always says that I am her douther, but sometimes I feel that something is keeping her to open her hart to me and that I will ever be the douther...."in law"
2007-08-15 23:09:38 · 22 answers · asked by Andra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My MIL is fantastic. I lost my own Mum a couple of years after I got married, and she has become my Mum, best friend, big sister, all rolled into one. A truly amazing lady too.
2007-08-15 23:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sal*UK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the world are you talking about??? My soon to be MIL is awesome!!! I love her to death, she is the sweetest, most relaxed funny person I know. We can do anything from watch a movie together to sneaking outside to smoke cigarettes and drink tomato beer while talking and laughing about nothing. Shes like a good friend. I can actually say when I see her I get along better with her than I do my own mother! Maybe your MIL feels uncomfortable for some reason...maybe you feel uncomfortable about something and its rubbing off on her...maybe your notions of the way things "are supposed to be" thinking that you two shouldn't get along is effecting your relationship with her without you even realizing it. I would say just calm down and love her for who she is...I could only see hating your MIL if she was down right in your face rude and catty...then maybe I could see it but otherwise its not worth it. Be glad you have a great one I know I am :)
2007-08-15 23:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. B <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting along so well with your MIL its good news. If you feel that she is keeping something from you, there must be good reason for it. She is the elderly and you must respect the way she feels. If you are beginning to feel that you will only always be the daughter in law, then perhaps you are the one who has something going on inside your mind. You give up that feeling first, be a good companion to her and then leave the rest to nature. When you begin to expect something from a relationship, you often get hurt and disappointed. Just do your duty in life and you will be rewarded with her love. Good luck.
2007-08-15 23:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by someone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YIPPIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is SO refreshing to see good things being said about mother-in-laws!!
I loved my mother-in-law very much and help care for her in her last days. She was very strong willed and had her opinions and I respected her for that. There were many times when she was right and I did listen to her. I learned a lot from her. I realized she brought up 6 great kids and maybe, just maybe she knew what she was talking about.
It's almost like new wives go into marriages just looking to find things wrong with their mother-in-laws. Well guess what, they aren't perfect. Accept them as they are and SHARE their lives with them. Women seem to want to take their husbands out of their mom's life instead of sharing.
2007-08-16 04:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by proud grandma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love and adore my mother in law and we have a great relationship. However, let's face it, mother's all feel that no one can take better care of their sons than them. It's a maternal thing.
A better example would be my future (I hope) daughter in law. I love her just as if she were my daughter, but she is not. I can not say things to her that I would say to my own daughter or my son. We have a great relationship, but her love for me is not unconditional like my blood children. She could walk away and never look back where as with my children it is a different story.
She loves you the most that she can, be happy with that.
2007-08-15 23:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by hlp4U1799 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, women can be friends with their mother-in-law. My sister-in-laws both get along great with my mom. But you need to remember that you married your husband not your mother-in-law and some of their characteristics will vary. Just because you get along with her doesn't mean you will be best friends. Good luck with this.
2007-08-15 23:17:48 · answer #6 · answered by Coachstoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a cliche. I didn't get along at all well with my partner of 4-years' mother, but it all comes down to personality and how willing the mother in-law is when 'letting go' of her son to another woman.
Some women get very protective over their boys and feel threatened by their partners, that's where a lot of mother-daughter-in-law relationships go downhill.
But yes, women can get along with their in-laws.
2007-08-15 23:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. And if you are friends your lives will be so much easier. My mil and I are not friends, not enemies either, just don't really have anything in common at all. Kind of a non existent relationship, altho we are not angry with each other. It is kind of weird for all of us to deal with. My sis on the other hand has a great friendship with her mil. They never have to deal with all of the uncomfortable situations that exist in my case. It is by far best if you are friends.
2007-08-16 01:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES you can. Being the younger one, you adjust to her. By showing her respect, by extending more than normal courtesies, you can end up as friends. If you live together or nearby, then at times you can invite her to go grocery with you or you do grocery for her, or you can find out what she likes and you can spring her surprises, etc. Most especially by treating your husband well you earn a star.
2007-08-15 23:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by sandra y 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lucky you!!! Don't push your luck too far.. Just enjoy the present relationship..
(By the way, it is DAUGHTER - not douther)
2007-08-15 23:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by AdultMale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋