Step sister is coming over next week. She, her sister and mum have this nasty thing between them...they take things from eachother with out asking. I've never played their childish game and some how they think that they can do it to me as well.
She'll be leaving in the morning (lives 2 hours away) and may want to shower here since she feels like it can save her time getting ready here instead of her house....that's when I can see this nasty thing happen (taking things: make-up, jewlery, parfume, clothes).
Should I just put my things away so I won't have to babysit her every move? Or how should I put my foot down ahead of time?
We do have two bathrooms...should I have her use the guest bathroom and not MY bathroom....if this were to happen?...I rather not have her use any at all....she should just come to my house ready!!!
2007-08-15 10:24:36 · 24 answers · asked by Judah's Mommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The house is my husbands and I. One down fall about locking either the bathroom or the room is...it's OUR house...we should not have to do this....what if me or my husband wants to use these rooms...do we have to unlock it every time we go in?...I'm sorry...did I say...It's OUR HOUSE?!
I love my sister, that's why we invited her over for the day (it's been along time) but hate her game!!!
2007-08-15 11:12:02 · update #1
Zippy..my friend who seems to have lost his way...let me give you a taste of truth.
There's no life in hell...only death. Besides I have a life...in Christ...He's my life. I've already been in/on earths hell...and well, it has nothing to offer but cheap imitations and holds no substance....I choose Life!
2007-08-15 11:30:34 · update #2
Put away your things ahead of time and when she shows up, kindly show her to the guest bathroom
You don't owe her an explanation.
2007-08-15 10:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THe best way to handle the situation is to confront her about it in a loving way. Tell her that she is coming in your house and you like things a certain way. When she is in your house, she needs to respect it and the things inside of it. You don't have to get too specific because she will know. She is running all over you because she can and thinks that you won't do anything.
Yes, you should have an area seperate from yours for her to get ready and shower. You can lovingly let her know that you have placed a towel and some soap for her in the guest bathroom. Once you have set the limits with her on where and what she has access to, she is likely to respect your things more.
You should definitely not have to put your things away. I would try other things first before anything drastic. If this approach doesn't work, I would tell her that she is not allowed in your home until she learns how to respect it!
I hope this helps and God Bless!
2007-08-23 09:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by kristen_who 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either put all of your things away or if it is YOUR house, I would lock your bathroom door and make her use the guest bathroom since she is a guest. If she complains, tell her to come over ready next time. Other choice I would make would be not to be home when she comes over. This way she has to go to her house. You didn't mention if you own this house or if your parent owns the house. If it is yours, I would definitely do it this way.
2007-08-15 10:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by momz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
remove anything not required from the guest bathroom and allow her to use this room. (if it's the guest room, I can't imagine you have any of your personal things in there.) if you have anything you think she might help herself to, then remove them. don't allow her in your room or bathroom. just the guest bathroom. and keep an eye on her if she's somewhere other than there.
it is your house, and you shouldn't feel like a prisoner. if she has a problem with this, tell her you know of the little "game" and will not have it in your house. but you should not have to answer to her. if she asks why she can't use your bathroom, tell her that you don't feel right having her in your bedroom as your husband may need something in there. again, you shouldn't have to answer to her. just make sure you remove anything she might take from the guest bathroom, and have her use it. that should remove any problems you might have. good luck!
2007-08-20 11:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set the guest bathroom up before she gets there, Fresh towels, soap, shampoo, blow dryer, curling iron, anything you would supply to any other guest.
When she gets there just say "By the way I set the guest bath up for you, so you can have your privacy" That way she thinks this was for her benefit. Keep track of where she is, discreetly check behind her, if you notice something missing, just casually ask " hey did you borrow my perfume, etc.? I can't seem to find it." She will either admit it or she won't. If she does, then just kindly tell her you would appreciate it if she asked before using it. If she does not admit it, you are going to have to confront her and tell her that you love her, but that "borrowing" or taking of things is not acceptable in your home. Good Luck, I have sisters too, It is surprising to me what they think of as community property in my home.
2007-08-23 04:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by sunflower38024 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have her the guest bathroom and also put your things away. What ever you dont want used put away for the time being. If she asks to use your bathroom tell her no thats why you have a guest bathrrom. I would also ask her not to use your things when she gets there. Just be honest.
2007-08-15 10:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by divers_godeeper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would put away anything you dont want taken in a safe place, also lock your room and bathroom and just tell her not to go in there.... as for her habit of "borrowing" it was probably the way she was brought up that borrowing stuff lying around her house was okay, she probably dosen't realize this upsets you. have a talk with her about it if you are comfortable doing this.
2007-08-15 10:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look you tell someone like her dad, and hide all your things but this is not healthy. It is better to have a open relationship and if she is stealing you need to stop it, because this could lead to a lot of trouble or get a lock on your door and take the key and say your not aloud in my room!! I know it is harsh but it is the better thing to do!!!!
2007-08-23 06:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I think that you should do is call her ahead of time and ask her to be prepaired. Or put a lock on your bedroom door. Take all the things you dont want her to take and put it in a safe place that you know she wont find them, like behind a locked door.
2007-08-15 10:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by jstrachel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
heres a 7th one for you: 3 men are killed in a car crash. Upon entering heaven, Saint Peter asks the first man "how many times did you cheat on your wife?" The man answers "It never even crossed my mind." So the man is given a ferrari. The next man answers "Only once, on a long business trip, but I confessed to her and regainded her trust over time" So he is given a corvette. The thirst man answers "I had an affair with my secretary for about 6 months but ended it because I knew it wasn't right" He is given a used Honda Accord. Later, the man with the honda sees the man with the Ferrari crying. He asks "why are you crying? you got the best car!" The man replies "I just saw my wife go by on a moped!"
2016-04-01 13:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋