my mil lives with her sister..my stepson moved in her house..she pays all the bills including his cell bill. he pays child support and gets his child twicw a month..me and my husband live next door. we keep up both homes litterally..he does nothing but drink and drug..while his child is with him...he does not listen to a thing that we say. when hes not at work he is on his motorcycle. my mother in law will not put him out...we've tried. any solultions..anyone????? we are all upside down since he moved in.
2007-08-15 16:56:12 · 6 answers · asked by princesswhitepaw 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Start by refusing to keep their house. Your actually helping to enable them to keep him there.You might also tell them if he is caught with drugs in their home that they can be arrested for it just because they are aware of it and they could have their home confiscated and auctioned off by the government.
2007-08-15 17:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are paying the bills in her home, then you and your husband have some say so. Insist that you will not give her any money if he is there, and stick with that. Also, remind her that the law says that if she is letting someone use drugs in her home, she could be legally held responsible. Put your foot down! and more importantly, Make sure your Husband puts his foot down! You can't force the guy out of her house, but you can certainly stop enabling his enabler.
2007-08-16 00:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to set the limits and stick to them. Adults should work and be responsible for themselves.
Stepson needs to be given 30 days to find a place to live, find a way to support himself and get his behind out the door. DO NOT back down or you will support him forever.
Secondly, your mother-in-law deserves much more respect than to be treated as a signer of checks. She should demand being respected for her wisdom and expertise. Being used just to pay the bills demeans her and breaks apart families.
Finally, Your husband is responsible for *his* family.... That means his wife and his children. If he chooses (without guilt or a sense of responsibility) to assist with his mother's life, that's wonderful. But - helping his mother means just that. If he helps his mother and his mother in turns supports a child that needs to lean on his own two feet, then hubby needs to give an ultimatum.
Lastly - if all else fails, change your name, cash in your chips and move far away to reinvent yourself...... LOL
2007-08-16 00:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Queen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not know why you are keeping up her house if she has the means to support his drug habit she should be able to keep up her own home. If she keeps her own home up it really is none of your business who she supports. I would think she feels he is her son and like most mothers can not see the real deal. As far as the child goes I would place a call to child protective services as he is a pathetic excuse for
a father and this child should not be around a drug addict regardless of him being the sperm donor.
2007-08-16 08:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notify the child welfare folks ... his drinking & drugging can't be a good thing for a minor child. Let the system crush him ...thats what it's made for.
2007-08-16 00:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus only on what goes on in your own home.
2007-08-16 00:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋