need help sleeping help?

Question

Help need help sleeping 10 points to the best answer?
know some of u read about my cousin losing his bladder and bowel control in a car accident .i have a problem because every morning he wakes up and starts to cry because he had accident at night . u would think he would have got use to waking up with a wet diaper but he dosen't act like it . he's usely wakes up around 7:30 or 8:00 and starts to cry and i like to sleep till 9:00 . what can i do for him to get use to waking up with and accident. hes 23 years old and he dosn't have brain damage

to have patience u need sleep i love him with all my heart but once and a while i need a little sleep

anything i can do for him to get more sleep at night . please don't say ur selfesh or ur mean . i need help would u help me find a way for to get sleep and even some times he wakes up with a messy diaper and he won't stop crying for like 25 minutes help please .

Answer 1

I think you both could use some councling.....really.....it sure couldn't hurt......have you also tried ......PRAYER...

Answer 2

What does his doctor say about this? were his kidneys damaged? I know it has got to be hard to do this on your own. But where are his parents? and why are you doing this alone? He needs to be told that he is going to be ok. It has got to be a living hell for him to go thru that day after day. If there are any other family members who would be willing to help you out. You should take a break every now and then. Just get away for a couple of days. I don't think he will ever get used to waking up in wet diapers you need to get him some more help. Doctors testing and a counselor or he will just get even worse. He sounds depressed now just think how bad it is going to be if you guys don't get some help.

Answer 3

I am not in your cousins situation but I worked with people in his situation for years and I know he does not have brain damage and you want him to just accept his condition but the truth is every morning he is reminded that he is unable to do what we take for granted. An not just you all of us who can sleep that extra time because we can hold it until we really need to go.

I am not saying you are heartless but what is one hour when you really love some one. If not help him with his situation and then tell him I took care of it please let me get an hour more of sleep and I am all yours again. But if he sees you are upset at him he may begin to feel worthless and unwanted which will make him cry more. Just try this I am almost sure it will work. I also want to suggest he see someone a dr or join a group so he can get all his feelings out.

Answer 4

To be honest with you,I don't think you really want or need help sleeping.If you did you would have taken some of their good advice that the readers have given you.This is no less than seventh time you have posted the same thing.Ask a new question on a new problem.My word girl, you are using up all your points and won't take the advice you get Do you have a cousin that has been hurt?Why not try sleeping aid or see his doctor about his problem.WE readers can't help you.You won't let us.

Answer 5

Treat the problem at its roots.

Your cousin needs psychiatric help. He may be suffering depression after the accident.

There are also medications for the bladder and the bowel incontinence so you'd better bring him to a doctor as well.

As soon as your cousin gets well, he will have a good night sleep including you and the rest of the household.

Answer 6

I have a child with special needs and her entire life she has gotten up at 3:30 am. She has always demanded breakfast and needed to be attended to. I just learned to get up and do it. I am guilty of going back to sleep afterwards, cause I don't get up at 3:30, but I do what I need to because I love her. If thirty minutes makes her happy, ultimately it makes me happier.
Having someone with special needs is a hard job. People can never tell you how to do it. Try keeping him up later, if that don't work try getting up earlier. Ultimately sometimes there are no miracle fix its, you just have to always remember it's not his fault and how very lucky you are to have him with you every day.
If he cries, see what his needs are, if he continues be thankful it's not screams for forty minutes.
Remember, that he didn't ask for this, and this could have just as easily been you.
Don't be afraid to ask for help either. Lean on family and friends to give you a break.
I had noone and I had to get a home health nurse to come in first thing in the mornings to help.
Call your local Health and Human Services and see what your options are and utilize them. Sounds to me like you could use a breather.
Good luck.... stay strong!

Answer 7

.Obviously he needs some counseling. He hasn't accepted all of this that has happened to him and depends on you for everything. Isn't there anyone who could help you..give you maybe a night or two alone? Are you the only one who can take care of him? Yes, you need your sleep or you are no use to anyone. I think you are giving too much of yourself to your cousin..he needs to get interested in other things but definatley counseling

Answer 8

I don't need to tell you that you are selfish because you already know that you are. Post a new question and try to learn some proper English in the meantime.

Answer 9

So what your saying is that you wouldn’t mind waking up with a wet diaper if you were in his place? Nice…

Answer 10

try to get a i really dont know my cousin has the same thing get a medicine that helps with the bladder i think it works

Answer 11

tell him what your feeling. its gotta be hard for a 23 year old man not to have controll over himself. its embarassing for a 5 year old. Just let him know how you feel and he might have somethings he needs to get off his chest too.