Hey. I'm 14 years old and in 2 weeks, I will be a freshmen in highschool. Today, I went to this festival and I met up with my friend and a couple of her friends from her school. There was about 5 of us and they didn't really know me that much, so I was ignored. Everytime I always get involved in a group of friends, I am always ignored and not even acknowledged that I'm there! They were all talking about other people that I didnt even know, so I was just standing there like a loser. What do I do? I want to get over my shyness and be more outgoing for highschool because in my middle school, most of the people HATED me because I was quiet. So please, I really need some help. I hate being so shy.
2007-08-16 19:48:13 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
try to make friends n since its freshman yr they will talk a lil about thier past times n after a while they will star talkin about now n ull see that after a while if u get to know ppl ull be less shy thats how i started the first semester of my thenth garde yr n second i became louder in my english class n the teacher hate that yet i still got an A n it also helps if ur classes r small its easier to be urself liek that
2007-08-16 19:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by The Midnight Captain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how it feels, TRUST me. I was ignored in my OWN group of friends in middle school (I'm a senior now). I don't remember exactly how i got over my shyness. I'm still kinda shy, but I"ve gotten better. It definately takes time. If you don't know who they're talking about, (i know I often don't) try talking about some people you DO know. Ask if they know them. Or you don't even have to talk about people. Think of something you know you'll be able to talk about. Ask questions, that always helps. Simple stuff like, Do you like animals? How long have you lived here? What kind of movies do you usually like? Your necklace is really cute, where'd you get it?
Just keep trying to get into conversation without interupting. And try not to.... over contribute, you know what I mean. Don't talk too much. I"ve done that, and it's not good. Keep in mind, you won't get positive reactions from everyone. but not everyone ignores people either. Also, if you see other loners or quiet kids, go over and say hi. You won't be the only one new to the school and others will be feeling the same way. I know you'll find friends who'll go out of their way to hang out with you. i did, and i use to be a real loner, noone wanted to hang out with me.
Bit of advice: being cool and popular are NOT the same as being preppy. Popular means lots of people like you, you don't have to be super trendy or anything for that. I'm popular, but I'm not labeled "popular" like the preppies are.I'm just my own unique person, and I've got many close friends and side friends. You'll find it gets easier the more you act friendly. Good look in High school, Hun. I'm ruitin for ya! ;)
2007-08-17 03:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask others questions about themselves. Everyone loves to talk about themself.
2007-08-17 02:53:35 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋