My sister visited me today and made a remark about me,should i ban her from my house...i mean?

Question

She burst in through the door and shouted she needed the loo,then came out leaving a vile smell,i had to use the air freshener,then i was tidying up(hoping she would take the hint and go,but she never) she then said to me...and i quote ''My God you've got some knees on you,there some size,you wont be able to walk by the time you are 50,you will need a wheelchair''
How horrible is that,her son then started to open drawers and snooped his way into my sons bedroom looking for ''batteries''.
I am sick of it should i hide from them or tell them not to call?
Please help i am at the end of my tether!!

Sruffy looking b****r on my avatar is the great MORRISSEY!!!!

Answer 1

Take some action!

Tell her you don't like the way she treats you and that if she wants to have a positive relationship with you she needs to learn to respect you.

Then the balls in her court. She can either be civil and quit insulting you or she can stay out of your way.

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Answer 2

It sounds like your sister is an obnoxious a**. Unfortunately, she is what she is, and no matter what, you will not be able to change her. I'd let her know that you find her and her offspring's behaviour offensive. Tell her that when she visits your home, you expect her to behave in a decent manner, and make her son behave in a decent manner. Let her know that if she refuses, tell her to leave and not to come back until she has developed some manners. Don't avoid ALL of her calls... take one a week or every other week. Ask general questions, give general answers. Eventually she will understand that you mean what you say. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Unfortunately we all have a family memeber that we just simply can not stand. I have a sister that is similar to yours. We were close for years but everytime she came over she just took over my house, did whatever she wanted and said whatever she wanted, she didnt care about anyone but herself. I finally had enough of it and distanced myself from her. When she called, I didnt always answer and when I did answer I gave her only one word answers and got off the phone as soon as possible. I didnt invite her to any of the family gatherings and unless it was a family gathering at someone elses house we didnt see each other for a long time. After a while she got the point that she wasnt just going to run all over me so we started to get close again, put things in the past but she started to do all the things that she did before so again I did the same thing and got the same results and everything was good for a while with her and me but again recently she started all her crap again. But this time it is different because I am alot older now and not willing to go through all that anymore. Like my sons counselor says, you cant always fix the situation or the person, you just have to move on and make the best of the whole thing. She is always going to be your sister and you are always going to love her but you dont have to like her and you dont have to put up with the way she behaves or treats you. Tell some of your family members that you have had enough of what she is doing and hopefully she will hear about it and maybe she will think about what she has been doing and realize that she over stepped her boundries with you. Maybe she will change her ways. Hopefully. But if it doesnt work and she just doesnt care how her actions are affecting you then just realize that you will always love her you just dont like her and realize that you cant change someone that doesnt think she needs to change. Move on, enjoy your family gatherings just keep your distance when it comes to your sister. Everyone will see in time that that is just how it is going to be. If your sister eventually comes around, then congrats to you both but if not, then this is just how it is supposed to be.
Good luck to you both.

Answer 4

There are a few things you can do first get one of those automatic dispensing air fresheners you can set for different times. That will solve the loo problem. When your nephew starts doing something in your home you don't like tell him to stop and if he ignores you tell your sister point blank, to stop him or they will have to leave. As far as her insults, you can always reply, "I don't appreciate your comment, it's hurtful and I would prefer you keep those type of statements to your self." If that doesn't get through to her tell her she is no longer welcome until she can control her mouth and kid.

Answer 5

Tell her to get out when you have had enough of her. Be straight up and firm with family members, don't ever think they'll take a hint because they won't. If they arrive when it doesn't suit you, tell them straight out, and tell them to leave now, you'll call them later.

It's better to always make an appointment, so you are at least prepared (and can have doors locked if necessary). Tell them that if they arrive without notice, you won't let them in.

Answer 6

yeah tell em to eff off who needs it eh? We never bother each other in my family, I have two sisters, and 4 brothers and we only get together on special occasions; it has always been that way, and we just accept it as normal.
By the way who is that scruffy looking bugger on your avatar?

Answer 7

Just tell her straight.. Say to her "I don't criticise you, your body or your life. Just let me be who i want to be and exercise some control over your child." Only to be said in the nicest possible way and if she doesn't get the message say that you can't see her while she is making snide comments.
Hope it helped
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Answer 8

I would never allow someone to disrespect me in my own home. I'd of ripped their asses, booted them out and they would of been in tears by the time I got done with them. And if they have any plans to visit again, I'm waiting on them.

Answer 9

There are times I must admit more as I get older that I am glad I was an only child

Answer 10

the one thing you don't do is ban your family . because one day you may need her......... if that had of been me i would have said people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones....as for her son you should have told him to stop...... be cold to her and when she asks what is wrong tell her the truth .............