Family - April 2007

2007-04-22 21:50:13 · 7 answers · asked by hello world 7

I have a pair of the old-fashioned dumbbells where you slide the weights on and then hold them on with a big screw. The screw always loosens while I use them. Is there some secret to keep them tight?

2007-04-22 15:15:28 · 1 answers · asked by Moral Orel 6

Ever since I was younger, I've had pretty long hair. I really want to cut it, but my parents won't let me. Is that not ridiculous? It has nothing to do with religion or anything--they're just control freaks.
I've asked nicely and they still say no. They won't even give me a good reason. It's not like I want a mohawk or anything.

After all, it's my hair on my head. I've thought about just going and getting it cut myself [Or cutting it myself], but my parents would be angry. They'd get over it, but last time I got my hair cut [my dad finally gave in], my mom told me she hated me and grounded me for several weeks.

Any advice?

2007-04-22 15:14:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

well i'm 16 and in the 11th grade and my parents just moved me to a new skool which is crappy enough as it is, but recently i've been having problems with my mom.
it all started about 2 weeks ago when my mom was trying to force me to call family members and talk to them for 15 minutes, shes calls this a socail recovery program because i'm socailly retarded around family members when in reality i just hate my extended family.
but neways when she tryed to force me to do this i retaliated and just said i wouldnt do it because i dont think i should be forced to talk to ppl i dont even like. a few minutes later she called me a b*tch and i left the house because i was pissed and couldnt be around her nemore.
i came back 20 minutes later and got locked in my room for the rest of the day. now i'm on probation and cant leave the house or visit with my friends. (btw i got no apology for what she called me).
idk what to do. was i right to leave? what do i do now? PLEASE HELP!

2007-04-22 15:12:59 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

My brother was served with papers to go to court on May 21st, 70 miles from where we live for child support. He doesn't have a car at the moment and has to rely on other people to take him places, so isn't there anyway that he can take care of the child support closer to his home county?

2007-04-22 15:03:50 · 4 answers · asked by Shelby B 1

2007-04-22 13:07:38 · 11 answers · asked by mutt 6

I am raising two kids and I work hard. I have had the same job since I was 17, almost 9 years. I had a child young(15) so I didnt get a college education, but I am a pretty smart girl. my job isnt horrible as far as pay but it doesnt cut all the bills and leave anything extra for saving. I if I was given a chance I could do something that pays alot better, but everyone wants a educational backround as well as experience. I know I made a mistake getting pregnant so young and that is why this is so difficult, but what can I do to make it better? I know I could pursue an education, but where would I find the time to be the mother I need to be if I did that. And how would I afford it? I dont qualify for any grants I already tried that.Does anyone know if there are any oppertunities out there for someone who is willing to give it as much as she can? I want to give my family as much as possible and I am willing to do whatever it takes to do exactly that. Please help.

2007-04-22 12:41:37 · 11 answers · asked by dydasgirl 2

I'm a recent college grad who moved back with my parents because I can't find a job. I started going to school again so I could get ceritficate in a field where I could get a job. I went away to college and had all the freedom I wanted. Now I'm living with my dad and he treats me like a child. I have to go to bed at certain time. I can't even talk on my own cell phone after a certain hour. I want to go visit a male friend this week and I know I'm going to have to lie about where I'm going. I'm 22 and I'm treated like I'm 12. I can't move out on my own yet cause I can't find a real job. I just want to be free to do what I want. What should I do?

2007-04-22 12:40:54 · 25 answers · asked by candigal 3

Something has gotten into me. I don't know what i mean i get money every month and i wasnt allowed to go to a friends house as much now like every saturday i go to my friends house. and when i can't go i cry..I don't know why..and my parents hate it..

And when my parents talk to me and they repeat what they are saying more then twice i scream and say WHAT! ..I hate it and when they get mad..i go to my room and i get emotional..And to my brother he is being mean to me so im mean back and he says to change my attitude

I really want to change but i don't know how..i've tried before and it didn't work..so what do i do i want to talk really nicely to my parents and not get mad when i cant go somewhere

2007-04-22 12:31:06 · 11 answers · asked by Cutieee 1

i'm really sure i'm pregnant, i'm 18 about to be 19, i've been livin with my boyfriend for over a year now and my mom has always dislike him. My mom has alway told me that she does want to be a grandma till she is 50 which is in 11 years from now i'll be 30 when she is and she stress this fact very much so. She tends to get very long lectures that turn in to yells fights. how do i tell her and aviod a fight with her when she turns every thing in to a fight. I don't belive in abortions and this baby is want very very much.

2007-04-22 11:26:36 · 10 answers · asked by cheese_monster 1

and the things my mother feels she must do,since the age of around 5 or 6 i could remember that my mother would break my toys and tell my dad i did it, this was bad because my dad didn't have to much money at that time and it made me look like i didn't care,as time went on she would hide things and tell him i stole it or sold it, everything i ever had to say about anything she would tell everyone in our family it was all lies and that i was a big problem child, latter on i had a son and my mom would never have anything to do with him and said i spent to much time thinking about that kid,he is 18 now and they have called him maybe 7 times, i'm remarried now to a nice latina girl that i never have seen cry until i left her with my mom for 2 days that my dad and i where gone,she said some really horrable lies, my mom talks very bad about my dad too but i can't bring myself to tell him how bad she really is behind his back, what would you do and what is wrong with my mom?

2007-04-22 11:18:56 · 2 answers · asked by JALISCO 2

I helped her set up a Paypal account and she helped me out by sending me some money several months ago through Paypal. Well over the last three months she discovered that someone transferred money out of her paypal account and she thinks it was me. I researched this and found that someone hacked into her account but she still blames me. She is so upset because she doesnt want my stepdad to find out she used his checking account. How do I get it through to her I had nothing to do with this? She called me screaming and yelling wanting to know how I could do this to her. I tried to email her everything so she could see but she is not listening to me. I told her never to call me again if all she was going to do was yell at me and NOT listen to me. I tried to help her but she will NOT listen to any advice I give. She wants me to take the blame and explain it to him that I set up the acct. so my stepdad will be mad at me and not her. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I am 36.

2007-04-22 11:04:44 · 4 answers · asked by Good Girl 2

I am annoyed of my sister. I am 18, she's 17. I try to cover her *** for everything; for instance, I give her money when she needs it because our mom forgets to give my sister allowance, but claims that she (my mother) did give it. I lend her the car because she needs it all the time since 'she has a busy schedule." Basically I feel like her assistant, from doing her laundry to making important phone calls.

Lately I feel restricted in my home. I feel like I can't go out w/o upsetting my mom. My mom is a loner...this is apparent because she never goes out. I feel bad whenever I go out because she's stuck at home. However, when I am at home, my mom starts picking out my flaws like I can not do the laundry, how irresponsible I am, I do not wash the dishes the right way,etc.

I'm annoyed with these two women I live with. I don't know what to do. I can not take it anymore. College was supposed to be my escape, but I have to commute. What do I do? How do I handle the stres

2007-04-22 10:38:12 · 1 answers · asked by Aztec girl 3

My mother is always constantly hitting me with a belt which sometimes leaves bruises and marks on my skin permanetly. Does that count as domestic violence?

2007-04-22 10:17:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

ya that gets on muh nerves muh cuz dose it tosis all the time

2007-04-22 10:10:08 · 14 answers · asked by la mexican chick puro mexican 1

My hubby and I went out of town for the last 3 days. We have a 7 month black lab puppy and a cat, so his parents watched them for us and stayed at our house. He is an only child, so his parents insist on "doing things" around the house while they are here. His mother decided to reorganize my recently organized cabinets, all 6 of them. She put things "away" in drawers that we normally leave out. And, the one that really ticked me off, his dad searched through the house to find MY car keys to move my car so he could sweep the garage floor. They keys were well hidden in a place where we keep other personal items, if you know what I mean. I think this behavior is a bit extreme. How many of you would stay at someone's house and move their items, reorganize clean and organized cabinets and nose around to find their car keys? Opinions welcome. My house was very clean before we left for vacation. Thanks!

2007-04-22 09:55:32 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is my challenge- I am an adult, and live with my Mom and step dad. Among other reasons, I have OCD, which has delayed my ability to gain independence. But now, I am at a point where I can venture forth on my own.

My parents are good Christian people, and I love them very much. But they are unwise with money matters. I have had to loan, give, and grant them a lot of money recently, since my Mom is involved in a lawsuit with her former employer. She also has Carpal Tunnel in both wrists. My step dad makes very little income. I am looking for a new job.

How can I assertively approach my parents, and tell them that I am going to start saving my money in two months from now? I need to, for many reasons. I need to get married to my girlfriend, I need to move out, I need a new car, etc.

They keep telling me and lecturing me about how "It takes money to live." I realize that, but I need to start saving funds for my future.

How can I assertively explain my needs to them?

2007-04-22 09:15:42 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My two sisters, my mom, and my dad has all talked behind my boyfriends back and he is really upset about it. My family doesn't think they should say sorry because they didn't say it to his face. But i don't think talking behind someones back is right. My family thinks that i was wrong to tell him what they said and they say its my fault for telling him. But i don't think its right to keep things from my boyfriend and let him hang out with people that talk bad behind his back without him knowing. Do you think they should say sorry because they think they don't need to say sorry they want to just act like nothing happened.

2007-04-22 09:08:22 · 13 answers · asked by Elley 2

My parents make comments about how I do not spend money. They say that I should be spending more money on myself on vacations, clothes, etc. I don't spend according to my earning power according to them.

My mom says I don't dress like I should for my job. I work as an Accountant.

I feel bad about their comments. I am looking for my own place to live. I am looking for a permanent job and when that finalizes (it should be soon), I will move out.

In the meantime, how do I deal with their comments? I try not to tell them too much about my interviews, etc because they question me about the company, etc.

Any suggestions...

2007-04-22 08:31:14 · 6 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

When I go to visit them in Georgia, seems every time that their biological Dad always has a gathering scheduled at the last minute. My new Husband and I tell the boys if they wish to go to go ahead. I am there not often at all. Do you think their Dad is doing this on purpose to hurt me or the boys. The boys tell me since they are not as close to their Dad as they are to me, they feel they should go. But keep telling me how sorry they are but I smile and I say ok. But inside it hurts knowing I only get few and percious moments with them while their Dad lives minutes from them.

2007-04-22 07:41:06 · 7 answers · asked by a t 2

Last October I lent my brother 2500.00 against my better judgment.He needed to pay off his restitution,and buy a dependable vehicle for work.He had agreed to pay me back 200 a month.I have seen only 40 dollars a month payments,and then it was 10,and now nothing.I tried to be patient and supportive of him while he was trying to make ends meet and pay me back at the same time.Now he refuses to pay anything back,and he only owes 1920.00,aftre I deducted 500 because he helped me move.I really dont want to take my brother to court,but I cant afford to be out of this money.Advice only please and save the smart aleck responses.I know I went against my better judgment,but family is supposed to try to help one another out.

2007-04-22 07:24:34 · 15 answers · asked by alex_aaliyahs_mom 2

I was on a swim team all throughout high school and college. Then I got a great paying job, but I was getting fat because I didn't have enough to time to swim. Many people told me I was dumb and immature for quitting, but I quit. After a few months, I started my own business with NO help from my parents, and began making more money than at my old office job, AND I have a lot of free time now. I'm in really good shape now because of swimming, I have all my hair, so EVERYONE tells me I look younger, some people think I'm in high school. Even though I make a good living, my dad is always telling me to "grow up". He hates that I'm always swimming, or doing tricks on either my skateboard or rollerblades. I bought a trampoline, and began going to the gymnastics center again. I started doing le parkour, jumping from roofs, rock climbing, rappelling, and climbing trees. My dad says I act like a 16 year old, but I make good money.

Why is it such a problem for him what I do for fun?

2007-04-22 07:13:09 · 9 answers · asked by Document Guy 2

Situation:

4 siblings, one left minor amount (about 1% of estate), rest of estate equally shared with other 3. 1 cut out member was into drugs and cut out of family over 30 years ago. There is a letter with Will stating why this child was left small amount.

Sibling not left anything is in "care" with the state.

Can his carers challenge the will? If there is a letter from parents, letters from other 3 siblings with details and other family members who can state the trouble he caused and his non involvement in family.

Any help?

2007-04-22 06:24:26 · 9 answers · asked by Lee13 1

ive just turned 17 and come from a middle class family. i really wanted a car and my dad said he would buy me a corsa for about 3-4k. but my mum wont let him because she thinkd i'd be spoilt! wquite a few of my m8s have had cars bought for them but what does evry1 else thinkl? i would have 2 pay tax/insurance/petrol etc... and im getting a job asap!!

2007-04-22 04:22:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am wondering how much say a father these days has in their child's life. My ex wants a say in if my child should have a cell phone that I am paying for and her personal hygiene matters. His mother also wants a say in what she wears and what classes she takes at school.

I wanted to have a strong voice in her life as her mother but could not really have that.

My ex was a mama's boy in my opinion and constantly asked his mother her opinion on things concerning our child. She had a say in what camps she attended in the summer also. She used to make comments that my daughter was her "daughter" and that I could not "make her hair."

My ex also get very upset with me when I questioned him sharing her report card with his mother. I said that each thing in her life does not have to be shared with her grandmother.

Is this normal?

2007-04-22 04:05:07 · 4 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

ok i know that you are supposed to have baby showers for the mother traditionally, but here's the deal:
My brother(20) had a few "flings" with my mothers neighbor(20), in January, she had a beautiful baby boy, everyone assumed that the father was her current boyfriend, but after the girl and her mother started asking for money all the time he got a little aggravated and asked for a paternity test, which was negative. So then three weeks ago we learned from the mother the next likely candidate would be my little brother. He was tested and the results came back on Friday, positive! And he is warming up to the idea. He current girlfriend, of 10 months, is doing ok with it too.
We were tossing around the idea of throwing a shower for him since it is his first, and we just found out about the little fellow.
We do not intend to invite the mother as she has drug issues and would cause a scene.

So what are your thoughts on this one, Baby shower or no?

2007-04-22 03:48:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

A close family member and I fell out some time ago after continually saying I was taking advantage of another family member. They have no evidence and noone believes him but it is driving me crazy and undermining my standing within our family. They are continuing to make allegations even though they have no evidence. It is impossible to prove this as they are saying it and not writing it.

Has anyone else ever been in this situation? How did you cope?

2007-04-22 03:33:40 · 9 answers · asked by Rats 4

He is dressing like a cowboy and every time I walk oputside for soem air, I am sqirted.

2007-04-22 03:03:29 · 18 answers · asked by Guest 2

i want a lock, for my door, just a normal door. what is the easiest cheapest lock i could fit my self?
Mainly used to have privacy from family.

2007-04-22 03:02:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a wonderful husband, dont get me wrong. But every single weekend, his friend comes over and stays the entire time with us! note this friend has a wife at home too! They did this all the time b4 my hubby and i got married, but it's really getting to me! i never have time to spend with my husband besides the weekdays, and we both work. i have talked to him about this and he says i'm being selfish, that our guest does not affect our relationship at all. but it does. what can i do? i dont want to fight about this. but this friend drives me crazy acting like he owns the place! I'm not asking him to never come back. just dont stay over all the time. Am i being selfish? Are grown men too old for sleepovers? I wont even go into what this has done to my love life... Please help me!

2007-04-22 02:43:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous