do you think its spoilt for my parents to buy me a car?

Question

ive just turned 17 and come from a middle class family. i really wanted a car and my dad said he would buy me a corsa for about 3-4k. but my mum wont let him because she thinkd i'd be spoilt! wquite a few of my m8s have had cars bought for them but what does evry1 else thinkl? i would have 2 pay tax/insurance/petrol etc... and im getting a job asap!!

some of my other mates though have had 2 work rly hard 2 save up 4 their cars - so i think i'd feel guilty if i got one for free! i rly dnt wna pay lol but i feel like i have to!! i think im geting my uni paid for 2!

Answer 1

Spoilt would be getting a brand new mini. I think it just shows you have kind parents any saying otherwise is most likely jealous!

Answer 2

You are off to a good start, you need to get a job so that you can pay for insurance and everything else. If your mom thinks that flat out buying you a car will be spoiling you then ask them if they would be willing to match you dollar for dollar for your car, or if your parents want to then they can even go just a little higher; like matching every dollar that you put in with two or three dollars. This would is a good compromise and will allow your dad to help you buy the car that he was going to just buy for you and let your mom know that you are not getting spoiled because you are working to get this car. Plus, if you put some of your own money into the car chances are that you will be more careful with it, which may be something that your mom is worried about. Talk to them about this and see what they think, you could have a decent car in no time. Or if your dad wants to buy you that car and your mom still thinks that you would be spoiled perhaps you can put it in writing that you will give them so much money out of each of your checks to pay them back for either half the car or all of the car. I would discuss both of these options with your parents.

Answer 3

YES, your mother is right in this case ... and this is coming from a Long Term Single Parent (who is now an Empty-Nesting Single Retiree). To have a 'car' handed to them with NO working for the COST of the car -- when you go by the High School as it lets out -- you KNOW That these kids have NO appreciation for what their Parents have provided (through parental earnings). They play like there is no tomorrow -- and yes, these 'cars' (which are more expensive than anything I can think of) are used to bump, damage others, screech, they have accidents all the time, and just plain SCARY as they race and stop suddenly and everything else.

Here's a thought -- how about if you get that job and save up for the cost of the car -- you know .. pay at LEAST have the cost to purchase ... (and better yet .. the entire cost so that you will APPRECIATE the hard work it takes to have a car), and also pay for ALL your own Insurance, Taxes, Petrol, etc ... including MAINTENANCE! Take a basic Car Maintenance Course after school or in the local community so you know how to change your own oil/filter, check fluids, and do emergency repairs.

Answer 4

Why does your mum think buying you a car will be spoiling you. Presumably if you are from a "comfortable" family, you have had things bought for your before which other children have not been able to afford. If you have not been spoiled by your lifestyle thus far, I fail to see how a car is going to spoil you. You sound like a well balanced individual who will appreciate the gift and not abuse it or take it for granted. Your mother should have more faith in her parenting and in you as her child. It is not what you have on the outside that spoils you, it is what comes from inside you.

Answer 5

Hi

I am 18 years old i have my own flat 2 jobs and attend college, starting driving lessons soon. I have no parents to help me out my mum died and my dad abandoned me but even if they had offered to help pay for something like that i would personally refuse their offer. I say this because it always feels alot nicer and appreciate it more when the things you want ar ebought out of your own hard earned money. I come from a middle class family but neither me or my fiance would ask for help (oh and im engaged and getting married next year). I would advise you to pay for it yourself it will help you learn the value of money and realise how hard it is to be an adult. Trust me being 18 yrs old and no family to help financially is not easy but i have survived.

Goodluck......

Answer 6

Yeah, I think it's spoiled. I had to buy my own $500 1985 Ford LTD at 18 (my mother was widowed with 4 other kids), and after that one ran it's last miles, I bought an Oldsmobile Regency for $2000. I pay my own insurance & gas, which makes me appreciate it because you don't see me driving like a ******* maniac or letting others drive my car around.

Answer 7

My dad bought me a car, paid for my lessons and when I was 24 gave me a house. I am not spoilt. I have always had part time jobs, at least 2 when I was at school and college and saved like crazy to get some security behind me.

I now work for myself and work long hours. It is not about what you get but about your attitude to what you are given. I am very grateful to my dad for his generosity.

Answer 8

When I was 17, I knew about one person with their own car, but now it's not at all uncommon. A brand new car with a stupid personalised reg plate would be spoilt, but a regular second hand car is not so bad. If you are going to pay all the expenses yourself, then this will be a lesson in financial responsibility which is beneficial.

Answer 9

If your dad has the money and wants to help you out then let him. It doesn't make you spoiled just because your dad cares for you and wants to lend you a hand. I'd love it if my parents had the money to do that cos I'm paying £20 a week for driving lessons and it's making me skint. Don't feel guilty for accepting help.

Answer 10

Well, I had to save up and work for my car (and apartment, tuition, EVERYthing) and I feel as if I have a greater appreciation for the things I've worked for in life compared to the (what I'll call) spoiled kids who get everything handed to them. They seem to act like the world owes them just because!